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Why Willpower Fails: How Your Brain's Reward System Shapes Habits

Jud Brewer, MD PhD
Jud Brewer, MD PhD
Feb 18, 2020
9 min read
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Why does your brain prefer cake to broccoli, even when you know which one you should be eating? In a seven-minute video posted to his DrJud channel in February 2020, Jud Brewer, MD PhD, argues that the answer has less to do with flavor or personal weakness than with how the brain files away rewards. Habits, in his telling, are not moral failings or stubborn character traits. They are learned predictions, built from past experience, that run automatically unless something updates them. Brewer's central claim is that willpower is the wrong tool for changing them, and that the more reliable lever is awareness: paying close attention to what a behavior actually feels like while you are doing it, which he says can reset the reward value the brain has been using all along.

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Why does your brain prefer cake to broccoli?

Brewer opens with the question most of us have asked at a dinner table or in front of a vending machine. "Cake tastes better, but it's not as simple as you might think," he says at the start of the video (0:06). The answer, he suggests, points toward something larger than snack choices. It tells us why we act the way we do and why breaking a bad habit is so hard.

The story begins with a practical problem. The brain cannot treat every action as a fresh decision. Brewer makes the point with a thought experiment: imagine waking up every morning and having to relearn how to walk, dress, tie your shoes, make coffee, and cook breakfast. "You'd be exhausted before you even finished breakfast," he says (0:32). Habits solve this by letting you learn something once and then perform it without thinking. Their purpose, in other words, is efficiency. They free up attention for new learning.

But the brain is selective about what it turns into a habit. Not every action you take becomes automatic. So what decides which behaviors get locked in?

How do habits form through reward-based learning?

Brewer's answer is that habits are learned according to how rewarding a behavior is. He calls this reward-based learning and breaks it into three parts: a trigger, a behavior, and a reward. His example is simple enough to remember. "Let's say you see your shoelace is untied, that's the trigger. Tie your shoes, that's the behavior. And then don't trip when you walk, that's the reward" (1:13 and following).

The key principle is that the stronger the reward, the stronger the habit loop becomes. Brewer describes the brain as organizing behaviors into a hierarchy based on their reward value, with the behavior carrying the biggest payoff being the one we tend to act out. He ties this to evolution. The brain, he explains, is wired to secure calories, because calories meant survival. Sugar and fat are dense in calories, so when we eat cake, a part of the brain treats it as a survival win. Over time, that is why we come to prefer cake over broccoli. Our brains "remember which foods are more rewarding," which, as Brewer notes with a wry aside, is also why many parents keep dessert off the dinner table.

Calories are only part of the story. Brewer says the brain also learns the reward value of people, places, and things. He invites viewers to think back on childhood birthday parties. The brain, he says, combines everything into one composite reward: the taste of the cake, the presents, the ice cream, the friends. "All of this information goes into a single composite reward value," and each party reinforces it (2:21).

This is where the idea becomes useful for adults. When you see a piece of cake now, you don't reconstruct what it tastes like or replay the memories of those parties. The learned association fires on its own. "You just know that eating cake makes you feel good," Brewer says, "and it triggers that automatic and habitual response to eat it." His shorthand for the process is "set-and-forget": the brain sets the reward value and forgets the details. That efficiency is what makes habits powerful, and it is also what makes them so stubborn.

Why does willpower keep failing against a habit?

If the brain is running a prediction, then the standard advice, to use willpower and simply think your way out of the behavior, is aimed at the wrong target. Brewer acknowledges that this approach can work sometimes. Reminding yourself of the calories or the health consequences may help in a given moment. But, he says, "more often than not in the long run it fails." His explanation: "to change a behavior you can't just focus on the behavior itself. You have to address the felt experience of the rewards of the behavior" (3:40).

The logic here is worth sitting with. A habit is not stored as a set of instructions that a rational argument can overwrite. It is stored as a felt sense that a particular action pays off. Reasoning about the downside does not touch that felt sense. You can know perfectly well that cigarettes or cake are bad for you and still reach for them, because the reward prediction has not changed. Brewer's conclusion is blunt: "The only sustainable way to change a habit is to update its reward value. That's why it's called reward based learning after all."

How do you update a habit's reward value?

Brewer's answer is one simple ingredient: awareness. A habit persists because the brain is working from old information. Its reward estimate was set years ago, perhaps in a different context, and nothing has corrected it. To change that, the brain needs new data. "By paying attention to the results of the behavior in the present moment," Brewer says, "we can jolt our brain out of habit autopilot and see and feel exactly how rewarding or unrewarding it is for us right now" (4:15).

The distinction is subtle but crucial. Telling yourself that smoking is bad is one thing. Noticing, in real time, what smoking actually smells and tastes like is another. The first asks you to think. The second gives your brain fresh evidence. Brewer argues that this fresh evidence "resets the reward value on that old habit," and allows better behaviors to move into automatic mode.

Can awareness really change a deeply ingrained habit?

Brewer illustrates the approach with his Craving to Quit program, which he says does not tell people to force themselves to stop smoking, or remind them that smoking is harmful, since they already know both things. Most people, he notes, started smoking as teenagers, when cigarettes were tied to being young, cool, and rebellious against parents. Those associations are strong. So the exercise asks participants to pay attention when they smoke, and to notice how rewarding it is in that moment.

Brewer shares a comment from a participant that captures the shift: "smells like stinky cheese and tastes like chemicals, yuck" (5:27). He points out what is absent from that remark. The person was not thinking about health warnings. They were describing their direct experience of smoking as it happened. That, for Brewer, is the mechanism. Awareness lets the brain register the actual present-tense payoff, and that registration can begin to reset the reward value that had been driving the habit.

Brewer also addresses the obvious skeptical question: can awareness really overcome habits that are deeply ingrained? He says his team tested it. In the Eat Right Now program, which uses app-based mindfulness training to teach people to pay attention while eating, the team built in a craving tool. The tool asks participants to notice closely as they overeat or eat a particular type of food, so the brain can update the reward value of that behavior. Brewer reports that "it takes as few as 10 times of using the craving tool" for people to update those values and change their habits (6:38). In one study of the program, he says, researchers saw a 40 percent reduction in craving-related eating.

Those figures come from Brewer's own presentation in the video, and the full study details are not part of this article. Still, the logic he lays out is consistent: if the habit is a reward prediction, then changing the prediction should change the behavior, and he presents the results as evidence that this is possible without relying on sheer self-control.

"People are no longer habitually reacting to their triggers. They don't have to force themselves to stop. They can move beyond willpower." (Jud Brewer, DrJud video, 2020, approx. 6:50)

Brewer's closing move is to reframe the struggle itself. People trying to change habits are usually fighting their own brain strength. But the processes that built the old habit are the same ones that can dismantle it. "They're leveraging their brain strength, the very same processes that set up their old habitual behaviors, to break free from them," he says (7:03). It is a hopeful reframe, and it shifts the question from "why am I so weak?" to "what does this habit currently feel like it is paying me?"

What should you do differently starting now?

The practical takeaway from Brewer's video is compact. Stop treating habits as a test of willpower. Understand that a habit is a learned prediction built from trigger, behavior, and reward, and that its strength comes from the reward value attached to it. To change it, bring attention to the behavior while you are doing it, notice the actual result without judgment, and let the new information register. Brewer's own summary is the best one: "Quit relying on willpower and go to the source, reward value, and don't forget a little awareness goes a long way."

There is a reason this message resonates. It takes the most common self-criticism people carry about their habits and replaces it with a mechanism that can be observed and tested. Whether or not every reader finds the specific study numbers persuasive, the core idea is one that is easy to try on a small scale: next time the familiar urge arrives, look closely at what the behavior actually delivers in that moment.

Where to go from here

If you want to go further, start with Brewer's own video, which is short and built around concrete examples like the shoelace and the birthday party. His website, drjud.com, lists his work on habit change. The programs he names in the video description, Unwinding Anxiety, Eat Right Now, and Craving to Quit, are his own, and he presents them as examples of the awareness-based approach he describes. Whichever route you choose, the practice he returns to is the same: notice the reward while it is happening, and let that new information do the work that willpower alone has rarely managed.

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[0:06] why does your brain prefer cake to

[0:08] broccoli this seems like a simple

[0:10] solution cake tastes better but it's not

[0:13] as simple as you might think

[0:15] and the real answer gives us insights

[0:17] into why we act certain ways and how to

[0:19] break bad habits ready to dive in let's

[0:23] start with why and how our brains form

[0:26] habits why is simple habits free up our

[0:30] brain to learn new things think about it

[0:32] if every day you woke up in the morning

[0:34] and had to relearn how to walk put your

[0:37] clothes on tie your shoes make coffee

[0:40] cook food and eat you'd be exhausted

[0:42] before you even finished breakfast

[0:44] habits help us learn something once and

[0:47] then we can automatically act that

[0:49] behavior out without thinking simple

[0:52] right

[0:53] so how our habits form notice how every

[0:57] single action you take doesn't become a

[0:59] habit your brain has to choose what to

[1:02] lay down as a habit and what not to do

[1:04] again how do we do this we've learned a

[1:08] habit based on how rewarding the

[1:10] behavior is this is called reward based

[1:13] learning and it has three components a

[1:16] trigger a behavior and a reward let's

[1:20] say you see your shoelace is untied

[1:22] that's the trigger tie your shoes that's

[1:24] the behavior and then don't trip when

[1:27] you walk that's the reward the more

[1:30] rewarding a behavior is the stronger the

[1:33] hell in fact our brain is set up a

[1:37] hierarchy of behaviors based on their

[1:39] reward value the behavior with the

[1:42] bigger reward is the one we act out this

[1:45] goes all the way back to our caveman

[1:47] brains that are set up to help us get

[1:49] the most calories we can so we can

[1:51] survive for example sugar and fat have

[1:55] lots of calories so when we eat cake

[1:57] part of our brain thinks calories

[1:59] survival so we start to prefer cake over

[2:01] broccoli our brains remember which foods

[2:04] are more rewarding which is why our

[2:06] parents never serve to dessert at the

[2:09] same time as dinner given a choice we'd

[2:11] fill up on cake before we ate our

[2:13] vegetables but it's not just calories

[2:17] that count our brains all

[2:19] so learn the reward value of people of

[2:21] places and things for example think back

[2:25] to all of the birthday parties you went

[2:27] to as a kid your brain combines all of

[2:31] that information the taste of the cake

[2:33] as well as all the fun you had with your

[2:35] friends the presents and the ice cream

[2:37] of course all of this information goes

[2:40] into a single composite reward value and

[2:42] this reward value gets reinforced with

[2:45] each party we go to when you're a

[2:48] grown-up you see a piece of cake you

[2:50] don't have to relearn what cake tastes

[2:52] like or remember any of the fun from the

[2:54] times you ate it the Association learned

[2:57] as a kid kicks in you just know that

[3:00] eating cake makes you feel good and it

[3:03] triggers that automatic and habitual

[3:05] response to eat it think of learning a

[3:08] habit as set-and-forget

[3:09] set the reward value and forget about

[3:12] the details this is also why it's so

[3:15] hard to break bad habits if you're

[3:18] trying to cut down on automatically

[3:20] eating every piece of cake you see what

[3:23] is the standard advice that you get well

[3:25] use your willpower and just don't eat it

[3:28] think of all the calories and what think

[3:31] your way out of eating this might work

[3:34] sometimes but more often than not in the

[3:36] long run it fails why that's not how our

[3:40] brains work to change a behavior you

[3:43] can't just focus on the behavior itself

[3:45] you have to address the felt experience

[3:48] of the rewards of the behavior if it

[3:51] were as easy as thinking our way out of

[3:53] a behavior we just tell ourselves to

[3:55] stop smoking stop eating cake stop

[3:58] yelling and our kids when we're stressed

[3:59] or whatever and it would work but it

[4:02] doesn't the only sustainable way to

[4:05] change a habit is to update its reward

[4:07] value that's why it's called reward

[4:10] based learning after all so how do we

[4:14] update reward values and break that

[4:15] habits one simple ingredient awareness

[4:21] to change a habit our brains need new

[4:24] information so they can see that

[4:25] whatever the value that they had learned

[4:27] in the past is outdated by paying

[4:30] attention to the results of the behavior

[4:32] the present moment we can jolt our brain

[4:35] out of habit autopilot and see and feel

[4:37] exactly how rewarding for unrewarding it

[4:41] is for us right now this new information

[4:44] resets the reward value on that old

[4:46] habit and moves better behaviors into

[4:49] automatic mode here's an example in our

[4:52] craving equip program we don't tell

[4:54] users to force themselves to stop

[4:57] smoking or that smoking is bad for them

[4:59] they already know this instead we teach

[5:02] people to pay attention when they smoke

[5:04] most people start smoking when they are

[5:07] a teenager so they've laid down a strong

[5:09] reward value for cigarettes being young

[5:11] and cool at school rebelling against

[5:13] their parents all of that we have them

[5:16] pay attention when they smoke so they

[5:17] can see how rewarding smoking is for

[5:19] them right now what do they notice after

[5:22] doing this exercise someone in our

[5:24] program commented smells like stinky

[5:27] cheese and tastes like chemicals yuck

[5:29] did you notice how this person paid

[5:31] attention they weren't thinking Oh

[5:33] smoking's bad for me they brought

[5:36] awareness to their experience of smoking

[5:38] as they were doing it noticing the smell

[5:41] and tasting the chemicals in cigarettes

[5:44] yea smoking tastes like crap when we

[5:46] actually pay attention this kind of

[5:49] awareness helps us reset the reward

[5:51] value in our brain which in turn helps

[5:53] us break that habit can awareness really

[5:56] help us change deeply ingrained habits

[5:59] we wondered the same thing so we

[6:01] actually did the scientific studies to

[6:03] see for ourselves in our eat right now

[6:06] program where people use an app based

[6:08] mindfulness training to learn to pay

[6:10] attention when eating we built in a

[6:12] craving tool to measure exactly how

[6:14] rewarding certain eating behaviors are

[6:16] the craving tool has them pay careful

[6:18] attention as they overeat or eat a

[6:20] certain type of food so that their brain

[6:22] can accurately update the reward value

[6:24] we have found that it takes as few as 10

[6:28] times of using the craving tool for

[6:31] people to update the reward value of

[6:33] their habitual behaviors and change

[6:35] their habits in one study of our eat

[6:38] right now program we saw a 40 percent

[6:40] reduction in craving related eating

[6:43] just think about this for a moment this

[6:45] is Hugh these studies show that people

[6:48] are no longer habitually reacting to

[6:51] their triggers they don't have to force

[6:53] themselves to stop they can move beyond

[6:56] willpower how are they doing this

[6:59] they're leveraging their brain strength

[7:01] the very same processes that set up

[7:04] their old habitual behaviors to break

[7:06] free from them now that you know how

[7:11] your brain actually works it's time to

[7:14] update your approach to changing habits

[7:16] quit relying on willpower and go to the

[7:19] source reward value and don't forget a

[7:22] little awareness goes a long way

[7:27] [Music]

Jud Brewer, MD PhD
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Jud Brewer, MD PhD, describes reward-based learning as the process by which the brain forms habits according to how rewarding a behavior is. It has three parts: a trigger, a behavior, and a reward. The stronger the reward, the more firmly the habit loop is set.
Brewer argues that willpower addresses the idea of the behavior rather than the felt reward that drives it. Because habits run on learned reward predictions, thinking about the downsides often fails in the long run. He says the only sustainable way to change a habit is to update its reward value.
By paying close attention to a behavior as it happens, you give the brain new information about how rewarding or unrewarding it actually is. Brewer says this resets the old reward value and moves better behaviors into automatic mode.
In the video, Brewer says it takes as few as 10 uses of his craving tool for people to update the reward value of habitual behaviors. He cites this from the Eat Right Now program's work.
Brewer explains that the brain is wired to pursue calories for survival, and sugar and fat are calorie-dense. Over time the brain learns to rank cake's reward above broccoli, and it also blends in emotional and social associations, like childhood birthday parties.
Brewer reports that in one study of his Eat Right Now program, researchers saw a 40 percent reduction in craving-related eating. The program uses app-based mindfulness training to help people pay attention while eating.
The loop is the three-part structure Brewer uses to explain habits. In his example, the untied shoelace is the trigger, tying the shoe is the behavior, and not tripping while walking is the reward.

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