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[0:00] Do that with me for a minute. I am open
[0:03] and receptive to all good.
[0:06] How does that feel? How are we going to
[0:09] let it in?
[0:10] >> The whole thing to about fear,
[0:13] it never goes away.
[0:15] You're always going to be scared in some
[0:16] way. What scares you today won't scare
[0:19] you tomorrow. Absence of fear is not
[0:20] your goal.
[0:21] That's not what you're trying to do.
[0:23] >> And in the first year, in the first year
[0:25] after I made that decision and allowed
[0:27] that to happen, I made more money in the
[0:29] first year than I had made the previous
[0:31] 36 years of my life.
[0:32] >> Everything that you desire is in your
[0:35] vibrational reality, and the source
[0:37] within you knows where it all is and the
[0:40] path of least resistance to lead you to
[0:42] it. And it's not getting to it that is
[0:45] the big deal. It's the path that is so
[0:47] fun along the way.
[0:58] >> [music]
[1:04] >> I am open and receptive [music] to all
[1:07] good. Do that with me for a minute. I am
[1:10] open and receptive to all good.
[1:14] How does that feel?
[1:17] >> [laughter]
[1:18] >> Does it really feel wonderful for
[1:20] everybody?
[1:23] Too often, you know, we sit and I put
[1:25] well, people come to me and want to get
[1:27] prosperity and things like this and I
[1:29] see them sitting like this. And I think,
[1:31] how are we going to let it in?
[1:33] How are we going to let it in? And this
[1:35] is such a wonderful symbolic gesture. I
[1:38] am open and receptive to all good. Not a
[1:41] little bit, not just some, but all good.
[1:45] You know, when you do something like
[1:46] this, the universe notices. The universe
[1:49] notices. A lot of think that people
[1:51] think that prosperity is just money. But
[1:54] really, there's many, many other things
[1:56] that come under this auspices of
[1:58] prosperity. There's time and love and
[2:01] success and joy and comfort and beauty
[2:04] and wisdom and good health and money.
[2:07] You know, you can be very poor in time.
[2:11] If you feel really rushed all the time
[2:13] and always pressured, you have poverty
[2:16] in your time. But if you feel that you
[2:18] have all the time in the world and that
[2:20] whatever you want to finish, you'll get
[2:21] done and it will it will all happen,
[2:24] then you're really prosperous in time.
[2:27] And what about success? You know, if you
[2:29] feel that it's really way beyond your
[2:31] reach, then you're never going to get
[2:33] it.
[2:34] But if you feel that you can be
[2:35] successful, whatever that means to you,
[2:39] then that's wonderful. That's
[2:40] prosperity. Comfort. How many of you are
[2:43] prosperous in comfort or do you live
[2:45] lives that are really very uncomfortable
[2:49] and hard and tight?
[2:51] Wisdom. Do you have prosperity in
[2:54] wisdom? Do you feel that all the wisdom
[2:56] in the universe is available to you or
[2:58] do you think, "Oh, I'm just me and I
[3:00] don't know very much and you know, I
[3:03] can't figure things out." If you feel
[3:06] that you're really connected with the
[3:08] universe and you really trust that part
[3:10] of you that's inside, then you can be
[3:13] absolutely prosperous in the abundance
[3:16] of wisdom.
[3:17] And what about love?
[3:19] Do you feel that you are having
[3:21] abundance of love or are you very poor
[3:25] in love? Is there really just a little
[3:26] bit of it in your life?
[3:28] How about joy?
[3:30] Do you feel you're really prosperous and
[3:32] have an abundance of joy or is that
[3:34] something you just allow yourself a
[3:36] little bit of now and then?
[3:38] And you really are very poor in joy.
[3:41] And then what about beauty? Do you see
[3:44] beauty everywhere?
[3:46] Do you allow yourself to experience an
[3:48] abundance of beauty?
[3:51] And what about good health?
[3:54] Do you have no health? Is there very
[3:55] little? Are you poor in good health?
[3:58] Or are you prosperous and do you have an
[4:00] abundance of good health?
[4:03] And of course there's money then.
[4:04] There's money too.
[4:06] You know, what do you let yourself have?
[4:08] Are you poor in money or do you have an
[4:10] abundance of it? I like to use that
[4:13] uh image a lot of the ocean. Standing in
[4:16] front of the ocean with a container in
[4:18] your hand. You know, and you're there
[4:20] and you have this container, but what is
[4:22] it?
[4:23] Is it a thimble with a hole in it? Is it
[4:26] a small cracked cup? Is it a mug? Is it
[4:30] a vase?
[4:31] Is it a a a quart jar or a pail or a
[4:35] bucket or wash tub or do you have a
[4:38] pipeline?
[4:39] And remember, no matter how a pipeline,
[4:42] run it right in.
[4:46] But no matter how much you have,
[4:48] whatever your container it is, and no
[4:50] matter how much you're taking from the
[4:52] ocean of life, and even though we're all
[4:54] standing there, we're not robbing each
[4:57] other and there's plenty for everyone.
[4:59] And no matter how much we take, there is
[5:01] no way we're going to run that ocean
[5:03] dry. It's absolutely impossible. And if
[5:06] you can see yourself standing at the
[5:08] ocean of life in the same way.
[5:12] And remember the container that you have
[5:15] is your consciousness and you can always
[5:18] change your consciousness.
[5:20] And it doesn't matter if you came from
[5:21] poverty. Doesn't matter where you came
[5:24] from and it doesn't even matter what
[5:26] your parents' beliefs were or if they
[5:28] came from the depression or whatever
[5:30] because it's your consciousness and what
[5:33] you're choosing to think and believe
[5:36] about prosperity and your ability to
[5:38] deserve it
[5:40] is what's going to create it for you.
[5:42] See, it has nothing to do with getting.
[5:44] People always think, "Oh, I want to get
[5:45] this or I want to get this. It's really
[5:48] allowing yourself to accept,
[5:52] which is a different concept.
[5:54] When you're not having something that
[5:57] you want,
[5:59] it's because on some level you're not
[6:01] allowing yourself to accept it.
[6:04] You know, I like to think that we have a
[6:06] cosmic bank account, all of us. It's
[6:09] like a mental, a cosmic bank account,
[6:12] and we can put in deposits of
[6:16] affirmations, of positive thoughts, of
[6:18] believing we deserve,
[6:20] and we can eliminate the debts, the the
[6:24] negative debts and negative thoughts and
[6:26] negative beliefs. We can take those out.
[6:28] And the more that you put in wonderful
[6:31] experiences and wonderful thoughts into
[6:33] your cosmic bank account, the more you
[6:36] will bring take out big dividends.
[6:39] Remember, your consciousness
[6:41] is the best
[6:45] bank account that you can have. What you
[6:48] do up here is far more important than
[6:51] what you do just in a bank account.
[6:53] Loving yourself pays enormous dividends.
[6:57] Enormous dividends.
[7:01] I know lots of people
[7:03] get upset because they say they're on a
[7:05] fixed income. But remember, who fixed
[7:08] it?
[7:10] Who fixed it? And it's a thing of
[7:12] consciousness. It can be changed. We
[7:15] want to realize that where we are is the
[7:17] totality of possibilities, not a little
[7:20] bit, but the totality of possibilities.
[7:23] And all things are possible.
[7:26] We want to to know that
[7:29] our job is only one channel
[7:32] of an infinite source. There's an
[7:34] incredible infinite source that supplies
[7:37] everything, from the air we breathe to
[7:40] the vegetation, to the plants and the
[7:42] animals and the planets and the stars
[7:45] and everything that's imaginable.
[7:48] And our jobs are like one channel.
[7:51] That's all it is.
[7:53] We can ex- We can
[7:57] enlarge this enormously.
[8:00] Anything that's fixed, any fixed income
[8:02] in in our life has been fixed by us, by
[8:05] an acceptance or a belief. So, we want
[8:08] to enlarge that and really let it go.
[8:11] Think for a moment about money and
[8:14] success and work and bills and debt and
[8:17] envy and lack and guilt. How do you feel
[8:20] about that? What are your beliefs about
[8:22] it?
[8:23] What do you think about your work? Do
[8:24] you think work is a drudge that you have
[8:26] to go through? Or do you see it as
[8:29] something that you really love to do and
[8:31] enjoy?
[8:32] What do you feel about debt? Is debt
[8:35] something that really drags you down?
[8:39] Or do you just see it as something that
[8:41] that you can take care of easily and you
[8:42] don't allow it to pile up?
[8:45] What is your belief about lack? Is lack
[8:48] something that's always in your life? Or
[8:50] can you see that lack could be something
[8:52] that's part of the past and is not part
[8:55] of what's going on now?
[8:57] Again, what do you feel about bills?
[8:59] Bills are these things that people get
[9:02] such stuff on.
[9:04] But they're only pieces of paper and
[9:05] saying somebody trusted us enough.
[9:08] And what about envy? Are you jealous and
[9:11] envious of people who have?
[9:15] And what about guilt?
[9:17] Do you really feel that you don't
[9:19] deserve?
[9:21] See, these are all poverty-oriented
[9:23] thinking patterns.
[9:26] Any negative thought that you have about
[9:28] money is poverty-oriented.
[9:31] So, listen to what you say and listen to
[9:33] what you're thinking.
[9:35] I love the exercise of having people
[9:38] clean out their closets. Go and clean
[9:40] out your closets and your refrigerators.
[9:43] Take all the stuff in the closets that
[9:45] you haven't worn in a period of time and
[9:47] either sell it or give it away or burn
[9:50] it.
[9:51] But get it out so that you have room for
[9:53] the new. You want to make room for new
[9:56] stuff to come in. So clean out your
[9:58] closets, let it go and as you're doing
[10:00] it, you say this thing of I'm cleaning
[10:02] out the closets of my mind. Same thing
[10:04] with the refrigerators, you know, is
[10:06] that a place where there's lots and lots
[10:07] of little bits of food stuck in the
[10:09] corners.
[10:10] Let get it all out. Clean it out. Make
[10:13] room because people who have very
[10:15] cluttered closets and very cluttered
[10:17] refrigerators have cluttered minds.
[10:19] They're not thinking clearly. It's just
[10:22] symbolic. That's all it is. It's
[10:24] symbolic of what what we've have in
[10:27] here.
[10:28] You know, you can do some wonderful
[10:30] affirmations in the morning when you get
[10:32] up and again, I love this gesture
[10:34] because it it's so symbolic and it says
[10:37] to the universe, I'm ready. I'm ready.
[10:39] You know, and just say, I'm open and
[10:41] receptive to receiving all good. This is
[10:45] a wonderful day of prosperity. One of
[10:47] the affirmations that I've used for a
[10:49] long time is that my income is
[10:52] constantly increasing.
[10:54] Just that simple. My income is
[10:56] constantly increasing and then I watch
[10:59] it happen. What we believe for ourselves
[11:02] is going to come true. And when we're
[11:05] doing our affirmations again, if you do
[11:07] a positive affirmation and the negative
[11:09] comes up, just say, thank you for
[11:11] sharing.
[11:13] Thank you for sharing. Don't You want to
[11:14] hear it. We don't want to run from the
[11:16] negative affirmation, but what we want
[11:19] to do is acknowledge it, but not give it
[11:21] power. Not give it power. So whatever is
[11:25] coming up.
[11:27] So when you hear them, write them down
[11:29] again. Write them down and give yourself
[11:31] a chance
[11:33] to then turn them around into para- into
[11:36] positive affirmations.
[11:38] Yes.
[11:40] Yes, can we get the lady over in the
[11:41] corner there?
[11:43] >> [clears throat]
[11:43] >> No, I said
[11:45] >> My biggest fear about money is that um
[11:49] I won't um
[11:51] is that I won't be able to
[11:53] make enough money in the career that I
[11:56] want. I I
[11:58] I grew up in Beverly Hills, but I never
[12:00] had enough money like my friends did.
[12:02] >> Yes, yes.
[12:03] >> And so that was always that feeling like
[12:05] I never had enough.
[12:07] >> Yes, uh-huh, yes.
[12:08] >> And also I've been sick since 1986.
[12:12] >> Well, that keeps you out of the running.
[12:13] >> And that and that keeps me out of having
[12:15] to deal with
[12:16] >> Yeah.
[12:17] >> Yeah.
[12:17] >> Uh-huh.
[12:18] >> And I like I like it cuz
[12:19] >> one way to deal with it. See, a lot of
[12:20] people do that. They will go into ill
[12:22] health because then you can't expect
[12:24] people to do anything. And you you just
[12:26] takes you out of the running completely.
[12:28] And somebody else has to take care of
[12:30] you. But it's a terrible price to pay.
[12:33] How would you like your life to be?
[12:37] >> Well, I I have I would like um I see
[12:40] myself moving more towards how I'd like
[12:42] it to be because I've been working on
[12:44] this kind of stuff for for like 3 years.
[12:47] Um
[12:48] I'm feeling like the love part is really
[12:51] abundant. I've got a lot of love. So how
[12:54] how else I would like it to be is where
[12:56] I am
[12:58] I'm comfortable and feeling and feeling
[13:01] free in the job that I do in the career
[13:03] that I want. I'd like to
[13:06] to
[13:07] I'd like to work at the career that I
[13:09] want to work at and make enough money to
[13:11] live and get over that issue already.
[13:12] >> Okay, then why don't you make that an
[13:14] affirmation? I am working at the career
[13:16] that I really enjoy and I'm making an
[13:18] abundance of money and I'm comfortable
[13:21] with it.
[13:22] Money has [clears throat] become my
[13:23] friend.
[13:25] And I I all that I need. Put it into a
[13:27] an affirmation.
[13:29] And say it every day. Say it and every
[13:32] time those negative thoughts coming up
[13:34] just say this over and over again.
[13:36] You've got to tip the scale.
[13:41] >> So you So you believe that if I say that
[13:44] on a daily basis, those thoughts will
[13:46] really begin to change. And I believe it
[13:48] cuz I changed
[13:48] >> willing to let go of them. If you're
[13:50] willing to let go of them. If you really
[13:52] want to hold on to them, then it won't
[13:54] work. And what do you do when you're not
[13:56] doing that affirmation?
[13:58] You see, remember every thought we think
[14:01] and every word we speak is an
[14:02] affirmation and going out and coming
[14:04] back. So if you do
[14:06] one affirmation three times a day,
[14:08] that's great. But what are you doing the
[14:10] rest of the time? That's what's
[14:12] important.
[14:15] I love myself. I'm willing to go beyond
[14:17] my past. I am the only person who
[14:20] chooses my thoughts now. You know, I
[14:22] work in a career that I really enjoy.
[14:25] I'm earning good money. I'm comfortable
[14:27] with it. I release the limitations of my
[14:30] parents. I let them go.
[14:34] >> [clears throat]
[14:36] >> You've got part of your life working
[14:38] nicely now. So So, you know,
[14:41] work on this now. You'll get it. Again,
[14:43] remember we Our parents had lots and
[14:45] lots of beliefs about money and we
[14:47] picked up a great deal of it. So what
[14:49] were your parents' beliefs? It's another
[14:51] good thing to sit down and write down,
[14:54] make a list. What did my parents believe
[14:56] about money?
[14:58] And write it all down and then look at
[15:00] it and say, "Am I choosing to believe
[15:03] that now?" I like to use the word choice
[15:06] and choosing in lots of the questions
[15:08] that I ask myself because I want to make
[15:10] sure that I understand that I am
[15:13] choosing to do what I'm doing. I don't
[15:15] have to do it. It's a choice.
[15:18] So do I choose to believe what they
[15:20] believe or would I like to believe
[15:22] something else? Again, we want to go
[15:25] beyond our parents' limitations.
[15:27] And I think many of us had parents that
[15:29] grew up in the depression. And there for
[15:32] them, there was a lot of fear, but we're
[15:34] not there now.
[15:36] We're not there now.
[15:39] If you want to change your job,
[15:43] first of all, if you say I hate this
[15:45] job,
[15:47] it is not going to get you what you
[15:48] want. All you're going to do is take
[15:51] dissatisfaction with you into the next
[15:53] job. What I like to tell people to do if
[15:56] they want to change a job, first of all,
[15:58] is bless this current job with love. Put
[16:01] a lot of love into it. Thank it for
[16:03] being there when you wanted it, when it
[16:05] was there, when you first got it. And
[16:08] know that you're now passing it on to
[16:10] somebody else that will love it, and
[16:12] will probably do an even better job than
[16:14] you're doing.
[16:16] Then,
[16:17] open your In that state, then open
[16:19] yourself to a wonderful new position.
[16:22] Know that there are people out there
[16:24] that are looking for exactly what you
[16:26] have to offer. And that you're being
[16:28] brought together on the checkerboard of
[16:30] life. I love that image of Here you go.
[16:32] Oh, hi, there you are. But, you know,
[16:33] it's been happening like this for a
[16:35] while.
[16:36] And that you're working somewhere that
[16:38] you that uses your talents and
[16:40] abilities. You're being fulfilled.
[16:43] You're working with and for people that
[16:45] you love and that love you. And you're
[16:47] earning a good income. And it's in a
[16:49] beautiful location.
[16:52] You know, put it all in and and and with
[16:54] that sort of atmosphere, then you can
[16:56] attract something wonderful to you.
[16:59] It's the same thing with an apartment or
[17:01] a home. If you want to move from where
[17:03] you are, don't walk around saying, "Oh,
[17:05] I hate this apartment."
[17:07] Because you're not going to find
[17:08] something you really love. Or, if you do
[17:10] find something nice, you're going to
[17:12] find this awful dissatisfaction in it
[17:14] right away because you're taking your
[17:16] consciousness. When you move to your
[17:18] apartment, it was wonderful. So, put
[17:20] love into it and say thank you for being
[17:23] here for me. We really had a good time
[17:25] and now it's time for me to move on and
[17:27] I know somebody else wonderful is going
[17:29] to come and live here. And then I'm
[17:31] opening myself to a wonderful new place
[17:33] to live in the perfect location, you
[17:36] know, with lots of light and sun and air
[17:37] if that's important to you. It's very
[17:39] important to me. And put in everything
[17:41] that you want and always add at a price
[17:45] I can easily afford.
[17:48] At a price I can easily afford.
[17:51] Don't limit yourself and don't put
[17:54] something on there. Put at a price I can
[17:56] easily afford. Then it's amazing what
[17:59] can come in
[18:00] that is exactly what you want. Same
[18:02] thing with a car. If you want to leave
[18:05] the car that you have, if you want a new
[18:07] one, put love into it. Thank it for
[18:09] being there for you and say I'm moving
[18:12] on now. I'm moving to a wonderful new
[18:14] car.
[18:15] And I know somebody else will love you.
[18:18] The more you can do that, the better it
[18:20] is.
[18:21] The better it is. Yes, right here.
[18:24] >> I've been very pro- prosperous in my
[18:26] life and uh
[18:28] I have a hard time opening up my arms
[18:31] and and saying I'm willing to accept
[18:33] more prosperity because I have these
[18:35] fears that something terrible is going
[18:37] to happen.
[18:38] >> Okay, was that a family thing?
[18:41] >> Family and life experiences.
[18:43] >> Okay.
[18:44] >> So, fear and safety have a lot of
[18:45] meaning.
[18:46] >> Okay, so if you're like this, you're a
[18:47] lot safer.
[18:48] >> Yeah, I I really became aware of it when
[18:51] you put the throw up in your arms and I
[18:52] got really fearful like
[18:54] >> Okay. All right. Okay. All right.
[18:56] >> I don't know what to do to
[18:59] I have also a fear about
[19:01] with an affirmation, do I throw myself
[19:04] do I deny some part of myself? Or is
[19:07] there a
[19:08] and will I uh
[19:10] you know, everybody experiences denial
[19:12] and things like that. Well, I use an
[19:14] affirmation to hide myself.
[19:16] >> I don't know. You might.
[19:18] I don't know whether you will or not.
[19:20] But an affirmation really is like
[19:22] planting a seed in the ground. And an
[19:25] affirmation, remember, it usually
[19:27] doesn't feel true to begin with because
[19:29] it if it were a truth, you wouldn't need
[19:32] to do an affirmation. What you're trying
[19:34] to do is to create something that you
[19:36] didn't have before. And it you're
[19:39] putting a seed in the ground, a new
[19:41] seed. And when you put the seed in the
[19:44] ground, you don't get instant whatever.
[19:47] What you get is a seed in the ground and
[19:49] you have to nurture it. Now, to want
[19:52] something new in your life is not to
[19:54] deny what you have. Unless you're
[19:56] releasing something and then you you
[19:58] don't have to deny it, but you can say
[19:59] I'm letting it go because it no longer
[20:02] serves me.
[20:04] And now I want to create this new in my
[20:05] life
[20:07] and start the new affirmation going.
[20:11] And remember, if you have had
[20:13] experiences in your life that are not
[20:15] comfortable, on some level they're
[20:17] mirrors of you. We don't always like to
[20:20] hear that, but everything in our life is
[20:22] a mirror of us.
[20:23] So, if something's happening out there
[20:25] that's not comfortable, we have to look
[20:27] inside and say how are we creating it?
[20:29] What is it about me or what is it within
[20:32] me that believes that I deserve this
[20:34] experience?
[20:36] Cuz otherwise, we wouldn't bring it to
[20:37] us.
[20:39] So, perhaps I I would say that perhaps a
[20:41] little more loving yourself would help
[20:44] because when you get that flowing, you
[20:46] won't bring in uncomfortable
[20:47] experiences. When I was a little girl
[20:49] and then when I grew up and and started
[20:51] out in the world, my self-esteem was so
[20:53] low and I had such a terrible self-image
[20:57] that I created awful experiences, just
[20:59] terrible experiences.
[21:01] And that continued until gradually I
[21:04] learned how how use your mind and that
[21:07] loving yourself is the way to bring good
[21:09] things into your life and then my
[21:11] experiences changed. But you know, if
[21:13] you just say, "Oh, well, it's all it's
[21:14] scary and then if I open myself up, I'll
[21:16] get terrible things." You probably will.
[21:19] Until you've changed whatever it is
[21:21] inside of you that attracts that.
[21:25] And that can
[21:26] Yes.
[21:27] Okay, so so it's just a question. You
[21:29] say you you've had a lot of money, so
[21:31] that's not an issue with you, but you
[21:33] have other areas. See, money isn't the
[21:35] answer. We think it is. We think money
[21:38] is going to take care of everything and
[21:40] we won't have any problems anymore, but
[21:42] it's not our answer. Let's see what this
[21:44] gentleman right here wants to say.
[21:47] >> Hi Louise.
[21:48] >> Yes.
[21:49] >> Um
[21:50] my situation with finding a a new house
[21:52] is a little different. I love the one
[21:54] I'm in.
[21:54] >> Uh-huh.
[21:55] >> But I have to move.
[21:56] >> Okay.
[21:57] >> So, um a year ago, I also had to move. I
[22:00] didn't love the place I was in, but I
[22:02] ended up loving it.
[22:04] And this new place manifest
[22:06] which now I love and which I have to
[22:07] leave.
[22:08] >> Okay.
[22:09] >> And I'm going out looking at all these
[22:10] places and everyone is like, "No, I
[22:12] don't want this. I don't want this."
[22:14] >> Mhm.
[22:14] >> And like a whole month has gone by.
[22:17] >> Well, the right place is waiting for
[22:18] you. The right place is looking for you.
[22:21] Now, you know that you can find a
[22:23] wonderful place and just know and firm
[22:26] that the power within you that got you
[22:28] the other place or the other places will
[22:30] bring the new one in and you know it's
[22:32] the perfect place and it's coming to you
[22:35] in a delightful surprising manner.
[22:39] And yes, look for it, but sometimes it
[22:41] doesn't happen. I I remember
[22:43] once in Los Angeles, I was looking for
[22:45] an apartment. It took me 6 months and
[22:48] when I was looking, I couldn't believe
[22:50] the junk that I was seeing. I kept
[22:52] saying, "This is Los Angeles. It's
[22:53] filled with wonderful apartments. Where
[22:55] are they?" All I could see was junky
[22:57] apartments that I wouldn't consider.
[23:00] And it took me 6 months and then when I
[23:02] found the one that I wanted, it was
[23:05] magnificent. And the thing was that the
[23:07] building was being built.
[23:10] And I couldn't get it because it wasn't
[23:12] built yet. And when it was built, it was
[23:15] waiting for me.
[23:17] And sometimes that happens. You know,
[23:18] you look for something and you're not
[23:20] finding and you're not finding and
[23:21] you're not finding. There's a reason for
[23:23] that.
[23:24] Now, you know that you're going to get a
[23:25] wonderful place.
[23:28] >> Thank you for your support.
[23:29] >> keep knowing that you always live in a
[23:32] wonderful place. That it's easy for you
[23:34] to find homes and you you always have a
[23:37] wonderful place to live. Make that your
[23:39] personal law. The other thing that I
[23:40] like, and I used this for years, was
[23:43] that I always have good relationships
[23:45] with my landlords.
[23:49] Because that's something that makes life
[23:51] a lot nicer.
[23:53] Let's do this gentleman over here.
[23:58] >> Thank you. Um
[24:00] I'm I'm pretty well blessed with friends
[24:02] and joy, but like the other gentleman, I
[24:04] freelance, and so I get very well
[24:06] supported by the people around me, but
[24:09] that tends to make me feel very guilty
[24:10] because I can't reciprocate.
[24:14] >> Okay. Uh
[24:16] That's your problem, not theirs. Are
[24:18] they giving to you only to get back?
[24:21] >> It depends on the individual. You know,
[24:22] family tends to give with one hand and
[24:25] expect something in return,
[24:27] but the friends are giving out of the
[24:29] joy of giving.
[24:31] >> Okay. So so the family who is giving you
[24:33] with one hand and expecting in return,
[24:35] just give them some love.
[24:41] >> I've been trying that.
[24:42] >> Just do it, you know, and if they if
[24:44] that's not good enough for them, that's
[24:45] not your problem. That's their problem.
[24:49] There are times in life when we when the
[24:52] universe gives to us in a form, whatever
[24:55] form that we may need, and we may not be
[24:58] able to do anything to give back or
[25:00] anything, and that's okay. I mean,
[25:02] however the universe has decided to take
[25:04] care of you, you say thank you.
[25:06] >> Yeah.
[25:07] >> And then there will come a time in your
[25:08] life when you will help somebody else. I
[25:10] can think of many people in my life in
[25:12] the early days who really helped me
[25:14] enormously at a time when there was no
[25:16] way I could pay them back.
[25:19] But what's happened is that years later,
[25:21] I've taken an opportunity to help
[25:23] someone else.
[25:25] And that's the way life goes. Very often
[25:28] all we do is exchange prosperity.
[25:31] Somebody gives you something and you
[25:33] right away give it back.
[25:35] Or you reciprocate, or somebody takes
[25:36] you to lunch and you immediately have to
[25:38] take them to lunch. Or somebody gives
[25:40] you a gift and you immediately have to
[25:41] give them a gift.
[25:44] Learn to receive. Learn to accept. Learn
[25:47] to say thank you and just receive.
[25:50] And you know, if
[25:53] the universe likes to know that you can
[25:55] receive and not just exchange. And
[25:58] sometimes you don't need to give back to
[26:00] the person that gave to you. You'll give
[26:02] to somebody else at another time. But
[26:05] learn to accept. A lot of us have
[26:07] problems with that. We can give, but we
[26:09] can't. You know, and
[26:11] and when somebody gives you a gift, say
[26:13] smile and say thank you. It's all you
[26:16] need to do is smile and say thank you.
[26:18] You know, if somebody gave you a gift
[26:21] and you said to them, "Oh, it's the
[26:22] wrong size or it's the wrong color."
[26:25] I guarantee that person will never give
[26:28] you another gift. And the universe will
[26:30] say, "This person doesn't want any
[26:31] good."
[26:32] You know, you accept graciously. And if
[26:34] it really isn't right for you, then you
[26:36] pass it on to somebody that can use it.
[26:38] Same thing with compliments. If somebody
[26:41] gives you a compliment, smile and say
[26:44] thank you. Just smile and say thank you.
[26:47] And you know, speaking of prosperity,
[26:48] how do you nourish yourself? What do you
[26:51] do for yourself that's nourishing? What
[26:54] do you do to make yourself feel good, to
[26:56] take care of yourself, to make sure that
[26:59] you're in superb health?
[27:01] To make sure that you have lots of
[27:02] loving friends around you. What do you
[27:04] do? Do you take time to nourish
[27:06] yourself?
[27:08] Again, you know, going to the mirror in
[27:10] the morning, anytime of the day, but I
[27:12] like the morning because it sets the
[27:13] tone of the day and saying, "What can I
[27:16] do for you today to nourish you? How can
[27:18] I nourish you? How can I make you happy?
[27:21] How can I make you happy?"
[27:24] Another thing we want to do, you know,
[27:25] is we want to be grateful for what we do
[27:28] have.
[27:30] If we If we're only looking at what we
[27:32] don't have, if we're only seeing the
[27:34] lack, again, that's not a way to bring
[27:37] more good in. Start to be very aware of
[27:39] what you have and be very grateful for
[27:42] it. So that more stuff can come in. This
[27:45] lady over here wants to ask me
[27:46] something. I saw you.
[27:51] >> Hi. I'm having a hard time receiving
[27:54] happiness. Um
[27:56] actually, I'm very happy. I'm having a
[27:58] hard time with fear of being happy.
[28:02] And I'm newly married and I'm very happy
[28:05] and I feel like I'm receiving love more
[28:08] than I ever have. I have a 9-month-old
[28:11] baby who's very beautiful and I love her
[28:13] very much and I have a tremendous amount
[28:15] of fear that something's going to happen
[28:17] to her or
[28:19] something's going to happen if I'm too
[28:20] happy
[28:21] >> You know what that's called? That's
[28:22] called running anxiety. That's all it
[28:25] is. Uh it's like there's a part of
[28:28] There's an anxiety part of us that is
[28:30] here and usually it gets taken care of
[28:33] this way or that way. We have these
[28:34] little things going on. When our life is
[28:37] really magnificent,
[28:39] it's like there's we're not handling
[28:41] that part of ourselves. So these
[28:43] thoughts come up. So when you hear them
[28:46] or when you feel them, just say, it's
[28:47] okay, I'm just running anxiety. All is
[28:49] well. My life is so wonderful and I
[28:51] deserve and I'm willing to accept and I
[28:54] can have.
[28:56] It's That's all you're doing. Just just
[28:57] recognize it is that little part of you
[28:59] is saying, well, you know, she's not
[29:01] upset anymore and what we've got to do
[29:02] something.
[29:04] >> [laughter]
[29:05] >> Sometimes
[29:05] >> Something's going to go wrong. I just
[29:06] know it. Things are too good.
[29:08] >> Thank you for sharing, you know. Again,
[29:10] thank you for sharing. You know, I
[29:12] appreciate I know you're trying to take
[29:14] care of me. You know, one of the things
[29:15] that I do when a fear thought comes up
[29:18] is I say to it I thank it. I say thank
[29:21] you for trying to protect me. Thank you
[29:23] for taking care of me. I appreciate that
[29:25] you want to help me.
[29:27] And then I'll do an affirmation for
[29:29] whatever it is. But I acknowledge that
[29:31] the fear thought is there to protect me
[29:33] because that's what fear is really,
[29:35] isn't it? You know, you get frightened
[29:37] and the adrenal comes and it's saying,
[29:38] where's the danger? So I I say, thank
[29:41] you. And you can do the same thing for
[29:43] that. And just don't give it a lot of
[29:45] importance.
[29:47] Okay, let's give it to the lady in aqua
[29:49] here.
[29:51] >> Yes. Hi. I've read a lot of your books
[29:53] and I'm really trying to practice
[29:56] learning and applying what I'm getting
[29:58] out of the books.
[29:59] But I when I looked into the mirror, I
[30:01] expected to have the fear of
[30:05] not having enough money.
[30:06] >> Uh-huh.
[30:07] >> But what came to me was a fear of having
[30:10] the money.
[30:10] >> Uh-huh.
[30:11] >> And I sat here and thought about that.
[30:13] My family did keep playing these old
[30:15] tapes. We were pop poverty and welfare
[30:18] children and it was always, well, rich
[30:20] people are no good or they're selfish or
[30:23] they're whatever and
[30:24] >> Oh, so now if you have money, you're
[30:25] going to be no good.
[30:26] >> Oh, yeah, and you should never have a
[30:27] credit card. And what's really funny is
[30:31] I have a credit card and I I always
[30:33] sabotage myself with my credit cards. I
[30:36] always manage to have enough money to
[30:39] pay the rent and buy my food and if I
[30:42] start making too much money or becoming
[30:44] too successful, I will sabotage myself
[30:47] so that I only provide enough money to
[30:50] meet my needs and not my wants.
[30:53] >> Mhm.
[30:53] >> Well,
[30:54] then I started putting out these
[30:56] affirmations of it's okay to accept and
[30:59] to have things. And yesterday, I was
[31:02] driving down the street and I really had
[31:04] a strong need for a vacuum cleaner and a
[31:06] typewriter.
[31:09] And those are like so unrelated, but
[31:13] I turned up the wrong street and
[31:16] sitting on the corner
[31:18] was a vacuum cleaner that had a sign on
[31:20] it that said, "Free, it runs, take me."
[31:24] I stopped the car
[31:26] and I got out of the car and sitting
[31:28] next to the vacuum cleaner on the ground
[31:31] was a typewriter.
[31:32] There was a little Jewish man that was
[31:34] standing in the driveway and I said,
[31:36] "Excuse me, are these yours?" And he
[31:38] said, "No, dear, they're yours.
[31:40] I have had them for so long. I don't use
[31:42] them. The maid has her own vacuum
[31:43] cleaner. You take them and use them
[31:46] well." And I smiled and said, "Thank
[31:48] you."
[31:55] >> [applause]
[31:59] [applause]
[32:00] >> You must have made some changes in
[32:02] consciousness, I think.
[32:04] >> [laughter]
[32:05] >> How wonderful.
[32:06] >> [gasps]
[32:07] >> Okay, let's let this lady.
[32:10] >> I hear you talking about loving yourself
[32:13] and
[32:15] allowing
[32:16] being willing to learn to love myself.
[32:21] But how do I put it into practice?
[32:24] How do I really allow myself to love
[32:28] myself so that I can
[32:30] >> first thing that you do, absolute number
[32:32] one on the list, is you stop criticizing
[32:35] yourself. Just make a vow that you are
[32:37] not going to do that at all anymore.
[32:41] And work on that as much as you can
[32:42] because as you stop criticizing
[32:45] yourself, you are going to be amazed at
[32:48] how you lighten up on yourself. I find
[32:50] that that's the number one thing that's
[32:52] in the way of loving who we are.
[32:56] >> And I really
[32:57] I really appreciate what you said about
[33:00] if we couldn't say I love you to say I'm
[33:02] willing to learn to love you. That was
[33:04] very helpful. I appreciate that.
[33:05] >> to a a space that you can begin to work.
[33:09] >> Right.
[33:09] >> You know, don't don't force yourself. If
[33:11] the quicker you can get to I love myself
[33:13] the better it is. But if you can't do it
[33:15] to start with, I'm willing to learn. I'm
[33:17] willing to begin to learn to like you,
[33:20] you know, if you have to move that far
[33:21] [laughter] back. But someplace so that
[33:23] you can start inching up till you get to
[33:25] the point where you say, I love you.
[33:27] You're wonderful.
[33:29] You know, and really feel good about it.
[33:31] And that takes time for some people cuz
[33:33] we've got all this stuff in the way. And
[33:36] when we get to the point we can really
[33:37] do that, it's amazing the wonderful
[33:40] stuff that happens in our lives. But
[33:42] remember, we're only dealing with
[33:44] thoughts and thoughts can be changed. I
[33:47] love working in a group like this
[33:49] because we help each other, you know, we
[33:50] bring up stuff and we can see where
[33:52] other people are and it touches stuff
[33:54] inside of us. When we change our
[33:56] thinking, we change our reality. That's
[33:59] just that simple. So, let's know some
[34:02] positive things for ourselves.
[34:09] We are open and receptive to wonderful
[34:11] new ideas.
[34:13] We allow prosperity to enter our lives
[34:16] on a level that it has never entered
[34:18] before.
[34:19] We deserve the best.
[34:23] And we are willing to accept.
[34:26] Our income is constantly increasing.
[34:30] We move away from poverty thinking into
[34:33] prosperity thinking.
[34:37] We love ourselves.
[34:39] We rejoice in who we are and we know
[34:42] that life is here for us.
[34:45] And will supply us with everything that
[34:47] we need.
[34:49] We move from success to success, from
[34:52] joy to joy, and from abundance to
[34:55] abundance.
[34:56] We are one with the power that created
[34:59] us.
[35:01] And we express for ourselves
[35:04] the greatness that we are.
[35:07] We are divine magnificent expressions of
[35:10] life.
[35:11] And we are open and receptive to all
[35:14] good.
[35:26] >> Hey.
[35:27] You guys are ready?
[35:29] Haha.
[35:31] >> [cheering]
[35:31] >> Yeah.
[35:35] All right.
[35:38] What have you gotten us into?
[35:40] >> Oh my goodness.
[35:41] >> Are you happy with these chairs?
[35:43] >> I am happy with anything. I'm also happy
[35:45] to be here and talk to a ghost. I've
[35:46] been waiting for this for years.
[35:48] >> Do you want to turn and more facing each
[35:49] other? Are you happy?
[35:50] >> yeah, a little bit. Like this.
[35:51] >> Oh.
[35:52] >> I think it's going to be perfect.
[35:54] >> Yeah, I can do this.
[35:56] >> I love you, Wayne.
[35:57] >> Oh my goodness. I love you, too. I love
[35:59] all of you. So nice to be here.
[36:04] >> Well,
[36:06] somebody said, "What are you going to
[36:07] talk about?" And I said, "I don't know
[36:09] and I don't want to know."
[36:11] >> [laughter]
[36:12] >> I didn't want to get anything in my
[36:13] head, but I like the idea of someone
[36:17] brilliant like this.
[36:21] Yeah.
[36:22] >> [applause]
[36:23] >> Talking to Abraham.
[36:25] What could be better than that? It's
[36:26] like co-creating at its best, isn't it?
[36:29] >> It really is. That's 1987
[36:32] or 88. I
[36:34] uh someone sent me a
[36:35] big collection of cassette tapes and uh
[36:39] I started listening to them and uh and
[36:41] we made contact maybe a dozen years or
[36:44] so ago and uh
[36:45] I've been just an incredible fan of
[36:47] Abraham. I think it's the wisest and
[36:48] most profound teachings on the planet
[36:50] today.
[36:51] Uh
[36:51] >> Wow.
[36:52] >> [cheering]
[36:52] >> I do. [applause]
[36:54] And uh
[36:56] >> Wayne has sold more of our books than we
[36:58] have.
[36:58] >> Yeah.
[36:59] >> [laughter]
[37:00] >> I'm I'm a a true believer. I just know
[37:02] that this is you know when when someone
[37:04] is telling you the truth and when you
[37:05] really feel the truth that's in your
[37:06] heart uh and you know you're being
[37:09] you're being told exactly the way things
[37:11] are.
[37:11] >> Resonance, huh?
[37:12] >> Yeah, it all it just resonates with me.
[37:14] It always has. And I'm And you've never
[37:16] you've never missed in in the hundreds,
[37:18] thousands perhaps of times I've heard
[37:20] you.
[37:20] >> Well, tonight
[37:21] >> Uh you've never missed.
[37:23] >> We never know. I'm going to go get
[37:25] Abraham. Is that all right with you?
[37:27] >> Do you need a GPS or anything like that
[37:28] or something?
[37:30] >> It just takes a minute for me to clear
[37:31] my mind and they'll just uh say hey.
[37:35] Okay?
[37:36] >> I'm
[37:37] >> Who are you going to go get?
[37:38] >> [laughter]
[37:38] >> Yeah.
[37:40] >> I have a feeling you're going to go get
[37:41] Abraham, too. If you really want to If
[37:43] you really want to know, I think that's
[37:45] what you've been doing for a while, too.
[37:47] >> Well, you know, there are many times
[37:49] when I do exactly feel that way as well.
[37:51] >> Yeah.
[37:51] >> Okay, here I go.
[37:53] >> [sighs]
[37:59] [sighs]
[38:12] >> It is nice to have an opportunity to
[38:14] visit.
[38:19] Co-creating at its best, yes.
[38:22] >> Yes.
[38:24] >> So, now what?
[38:28] >> I'd first just like you to just tell me
[38:32] and everyone watching and everyone here
[38:34] in this room
[38:35] who you are.
[38:37] Who is Abraham?
[38:38] For those who don't know, including me.
[38:41] Would you Would you tell us?
[38:45] >> The most important thing
[38:47] to explain
[38:49] is
[38:51] we are a collective consciousness.
[38:55] A vibration.
[38:58] Not different from that which all of you
[39:00] have access to.
[39:03] But, because of Esther's focus over the
[39:06] years
[39:07] she's managed to accomplish
[39:10] a frequency, so to speak, that allows
[39:13] her to
[39:14] hone in on us.
[39:17] She can hear us in a more pointed way.
[39:20] Everyone who is physically focused, and
[39:23] that includes all of you
[39:25] are extensions of source energy.
[39:28] And we are just that source energy that
[39:30] you are all extensions of.
[39:33] But, as you move around through your
[39:35] day-to-day experiences, not meaning to
[39:38] you often find vibrational frequencies
[39:42] because of what you are observing that
[39:45] prevents you from receiving the fullness
[39:48] of who you are.
[39:49] And we are the fullness of that, you
[39:53] see.
[39:54] So,
[39:56] some have tried to get us to define
[39:58] ourselves in physical terms, but we
[40:00] cannot.
[40:01] And we are not whispering words to
[40:03] Esther that she is repeating. We are
[40:05] offering blocks of thought.
[40:08] And she is finding physical words that
[40:12] match those blocks of thought. Everyone
[40:14] does this. You are all inspired.
[40:18] It's just that
[40:20] you can be inspired from
[40:23] different points of attraction. You
[40:24] could be in a very bad mood
[40:27] and receive inspiration. But you're not
[40:29] receiving inspiration from source
[40:31] energy. You're receiving inspiration
[40:33] from blocks of thought that have been
[40:35] sort of left on the physical trail.
[40:38] And so, it's a matter of tuning to high
[40:40] frequency and doing it consistently
[40:42] enough that there is consistency to what
[40:46] you are receiving. That's the easiest
[40:48] way to explain it. And the most
[40:50] important thing that we want to say to
[40:52] you and to everyone is you're all doing
[40:55] it. You just don't usually do it
[40:58] consistently. And Esther doesn't either.
[41:01] A forum like this, it's easy for her to
[41:03] do it because you all come expecting.
[41:07] And so, it is on the desire momentum of
[41:11] desire that you have going that we ride
[41:14] in on, so to speak.
[41:17] >> It's been my teaching mission almost to
[41:19] uh
[41:21] to encourage people to um
[41:24] you know, you you call it conscious, but
[41:26] to to uh rid ourselves I mean, I
[41:29] it was an act of forgiveness, if you
[41:31] will, that uh totally transformed my
[41:34] entire life and affected
[41:36] >> We know, but what took you so long to
[41:37] get there?
[41:38] >> Um
[41:40] >> In other words, that's what's happening
[41:41] to everyone. They would feel better if
[41:43] they would think thoughts that feel
[41:44] better. But there's this thing you've
[41:46] been taught that said Esther said to us,
[41:48] "But Abraham, it's true.
[41:50] It's true. Therefore, shouldn't I think
[41:52] about it? This happened to me. This is a
[41:54] true thing." And we said to her many
[41:56] times, "There are many things that are
[41:58] true that feel good when you focus upon
[42:00] them. And there are many things that are
[42:02] true that feel horrible when you focus
[42:04] upon them. We would be selective because
[42:07] when you focus upon the things that feel
[42:08] horrible, you're out there on the raw
[42:10] and ragged edge without your source.
[42:13] Now, not really without your source
[42:15] because source never stops perceiving
[42:17] life through you, but you've got
[42:18] yourself pinched off so that you don't
[42:20] recognize it, you see.
[42:22] >> Can't Can't someone who's living closer
[42:24] to source energy, you know,
[42:27] impact
[42:28] like in a family or in a community or
[42:31] >> Certainly.
[42:31] >> Can't Isn't that what Abraham is doing?
[42:33] >> Certainly. Certainly.
[42:35] >> What you are doing? I'm sorry.
[42:36] >> Certainly, but they have to be ready.
[42:38] They have to be in the vicinity. You
[42:40] can't set your radio dial on 98 and hear
[42:43] what's being broadcast on 101. The
[42:45] frequencies have to match up. And what
[42:47] happens with people is then they become
[42:50] self-degrigating.
[42:51] In other words, they beat up on
[42:53] themselves when things aren't going
[42:54] well, and we just want them to
[42:55] understand it was a vibrational choice
[42:57] that they have some control over if they
[43:00] will try a little bit. That's why we're
[43:01] so excited about talking you into first
[43:05] thing in the morning, just finding some
[43:07] general thought that feels good, and try
[43:09] to stay there until some momentum gets
[43:10] going, and show yourself what this day
[43:13] how this day is different because you
[43:15] did that. And after 30 days of doing
[43:17] that, you'll know what we're talking
[43:19] about.
[43:20] >> What about the last 5 minutes before you
[43:22] go to sleep?
[43:23] Which is what I tell people in talks
[43:25] often is that
[43:26] when you are when you are in slumber
[43:30] that your your subconscious mind starts
[43:33] to get programmed, you know, and if you
[43:34] if the last five five minutes before
[43:36] you're just going off to sleep, you're
[43:37] thinking about all the things that went
[43:38] wrong and how it didn't happen, and this
[43:41] is never going to work for me, and I'm
[43:42] not financially, and I'm sick, and this
[43:44] doesn't work. You're really Aren't you
[43:46] programming your subconscious mind? Then
[43:47] you wake up, and the universe just
[43:49] offers you this, you know,
[43:51] >> We agree with you.
[43:52] >> experiences that match up to what you've
[43:53] placed in there. So, those last 5
[43:55] minutes, it seems to me it's like you
[43:57] want to put in there all of your I ams.
[43:59] I am content.
[44:00] >> the here's the thing.
[44:02] If you've had a hard day,
[44:04] you can't just say it different in the
[44:05] last 5 minutes cuz the universe doesn't
[44:07] hear what you say, the universe hears
[44:09] how you feel.
[44:10] So, your best chance of really feeling
[44:12] good is after a night of momentum
[44:15] slowing,
[44:17] rather than after a day of momentum
[44:19] increasing.
[44:20] >> That's very
[44:21] That's very very well said.
[44:22] >> Yeah.
[44:26] Certainly, it's always better to speak
[44:28] positively, but don't you find yourself
[44:30] sometimes challenging your own thoughts?
[44:34] People will say, "It's like my thoughts
[44:35] are thinking me."
[44:36] And we say, "Don't just If If you've got
[44:40] a negative train of thought going,
[44:42] you What you want to do is make it more
[44:44] general if you can.
[44:46] Just generalize it. Step back from it,
[44:48] if you can."
[44:49] >> I'm just thinking in terms of uh
[44:52] you're [clears throat] going to sleep
[44:53] for 8 hours, let's say. Um
[44:55] and you're going to marinate in whatever
[44:57] thoughts that you have just filled your
[44:59] subconscious mind
[45:01] >> That's the thing that we're really
[45:02] wanting to explain is that law of
[45:04] attraction, the momentum of law of
[45:06] attraction, is not active while you are
[45:09] unconscious.
[45:10] Now,
[45:11] it's logical that when you wake up,
[45:14] you'll refocus, and you'll
[45:17] get the that your propensity of thought
[45:19] is already there.
[45:20] But that can change with this new
[45:22] discussion about
[45:25] getting a different trajectory going.
[45:28] Someone the other day gave us the best
[45:29] word
[45:30] because he's been
[45:32] deliberately getting on that high-flying
[45:34] disc and staying there with some
[45:36] success. He's in his 60th or 70th day of
[45:40] that.
[45:41] And he said, "Now it's beginning to feel
[45:42] like I'm tethered there. Like sometimes
[45:45] I'll dip down, but it's like a bungee
[45:47] cord that takes me right back up."
[45:50] And we said,
[45:51] "That's exactly what we're saying about
[45:53] this non-physical you. You're tethered
[45:56] You're tethered to this pure positive
[45:59] energy, but you've practiced not being
[46:01] there enough that you've sort of
[46:03] stretched your bungee cord to its
[46:04] limits. And now you're dangling around
[46:07] in vibrations that don't serve you and
[46:09] that are not really who you are. But it
[46:11] doesn't take much to get that elasticity
[46:14] back so that
[46:15] >> Is this like a conditioning process? I
[46:17] mean, like from the time that we're
[46:18] little boys or little girls, we're told
[46:20] what we can do, what we can't do, what's
[46:21] possible, what's not
[46:22] >> Yeah, by those who don't know.
[46:24] By those who are looking from lower
[46:26] discs, who are wanting to prepare you
[46:29] for the inevitable failure that they
[46:31] think you will live. And in the early
[46:33] days, you didn't like that at all. You
[46:35] protested in the beginning.
[46:37] You did.
[46:39] You protested.
[46:40] And the source within you knows who you
[46:43] are and is always reminding you. That's
[46:45] why at 3:13, some of those thoughts
[46:46] flow.
[46:50] >> I'm just thinking about as as babies,
[46:51] there's the poet William Wordsworth who
[46:53] said, "Our birth
[46:55] Our birth is but a sleep
[46:57] and a forgetting.
[46:59] Heaven lies about us in our infancy."
[47:03] >> It's a forgetting
[47:05] because
[47:06] it's a forgetting in the sense that
[47:09] you don't remember the details.
[47:11] But you remember your worthiness. You
[47:13] know your value. You know you came with
[47:15] purpose.
[47:16] That's why when people try to tell you
[47:18] otherwise, you don't take it well in the
[47:20] beginning. They can condition you to let
[47:23] go of that, but you can spring back.
[47:25] Start tomorrow morning.
[47:27] >> Yeah.
[47:28] But I'm thinking about all the parents
[47:30] out there.
[47:30] >> Yeah.
[47:31] >> And and and how often they they
[47:33] condition
[47:34] "You can't do this" or "That's not
[47:36] possible" or
[47:37] >> If we were If we were If we were giving
[47:39] one encouragement to parents, we would
[47:42] say
[47:43] choose your disc
[47:45] and then talk to your kids.
[47:48] Don't let the subject choose your disc.
[47:50] In other words, they've misbehaved or
[47:52] they've disobeyed or they've
[47:54] disappointed or or or or or or. So, as
[47:57] you observe that, that chooses the disc.
[48:01] And then you you can have a lifetime of
[48:03] hating someone under those conditions.
[48:05] But if you choose the disc because you
[48:08] want to feel good and then are inspired
[48:11] from that broader perspective, you got
[48:13] to remember that they've got inner
[48:15] beings, too. Your inner being knows
[48:17] everything you that you've asked for, is
[48:20] swirling in this vibrational reality,
[48:22] knows everything that you want and where
[48:24] you are right now in relationship with
[48:27] everything that you want and knows the
[48:28] path of least resistance to get you to
[48:31] it, you see.
[48:32] So, when you begin practicing what the
[48:34] path of least resistance feels like,
[48:36] then you can guide some others, too.
[48:39] >> Well, couldn't we get it from babies? I
[48:40] mean, couldn't we learn it from babies?
[48:41] It's
[48:42] >> Well, hang around with them. They know
[48:43] it.
[48:43] >> Yeah.
[48:44] >> That's one of the most fun things
[48:45] >> lately with a little boy quite a good
[48:47] actually, a little boy named Jesse. He's
[48:49] 2 years old and um
[48:51] >> You can feel his wisdom, his knowing,
[48:53] his love.
[48:54] >> I'm just so in love with this little
[48:56] boy. I mean, and I talk when I take him
[48:58] by myself and I just take him down to
[48:59] the swimming pool and I'm just with him.
[49:01] I look him in the eye. I just ask him
[49:02] about God. I ask him about source and
[49:05] energy. I ask him about, you know, come
[49:07] on, tell me. Tell me more. And and
[49:09] he doesn't
[49:10] >> And what he says is,
[49:12] "You make too much of all of this
[49:14] and don't make me think about things
[49:16] that I don't want to think about yet.
[49:17] And I'm new here and I really like it so
[49:20] far and
[49:21] I want everybody to feel about it like I
[49:23] feel about it and
[49:25] um I would like to maintain this
[49:27] alignment with my source energy through
[49:29] all of the days of my life experience
[49:31] and it's fun to hang out with somebody
[49:32] like you who has reconnected with all of
[49:35] that. And so, you feel really good to
[49:37] me. You don't feel like most people. You
[49:40] feel like that which I know to be.
[49:42] That's why I gravitate to you." That's
[49:44] what he's saying to you.
[49:45] >> Amazing amazing Abraham because
[49:47] the first time I saw him, he was I don't
[49:49] know, five six months old.
[49:51] >> Yeah.
[49:51] >> Um I recognized it.
[49:53] >> Yeah.
[49:53] >> It wasn't like, "Oh, this is a cute
[49:55] little boy." and all of that, but I just
[49:56] I saw something. In fact, I saw myself
[49:59] in him as a little as a little baby
[50:01] myself. Sometimes I even wonder, can can
[50:03] you be
[50:04] >> Yes, but that's not what it is. You felt
[50:06] the resonance with his alignment.
[50:07] >> Yeah.
[50:08] >> In other words, he's tuned in, tapped
[50:09] in, turned on.
[50:10] >> Yeah.
[50:11] >> He hasn't disconnected from that. He's
[50:13] still tethered. You see.
[50:15] Yeah.
[50:16] >> He just brings so much joy even even
[50:18] thinking about his just his little face
[50:20] and his little
[50:21] >> what the infusion of new ones coming in
[50:22] is all the time. You think You think
[50:24] you're there to teach you. You think
[50:26] that you are here to teach them. They
[50:28] are coming to teach you.
[50:30] Because what they're teaching you,
[50:31] animals too, we're on the high-flying
[50:33] disc. Don't mess it up.
[50:37] >> And we do mess it up.
[50:38] >> You don't mean to. And you don't have
[50:40] to.
[50:41] And when you do, you don't feel good.
[50:43] When you deviate from the vibration of
[50:45] who you are, you feel separation's too
[50:48] strong a word, but you feel the pinching
[50:49] off. And you feel when the pinching off
[50:52] releases. And if you want to play with
[50:54] it, just take some subject that you feel
[50:57] resistance about. And just get more
[51:00] general about it. And watch what
[51:02] happens.
[51:03] >> What What do you mean?
[51:05] >> Well, for example,
[51:07] you could let's say that it was before
[51:09] you had that
[51:11] wonderful
[51:13] realignment with who you are at the
[51:14] gravesite.
[51:16] And you're still railing about the
[51:19] inappropriateness of this
[51:21] ne'er-do-well father. And it's just
[51:24] eating you up. You just feel the discord
[51:26] in a really strong way.
[51:28] And so, and you don't want to feel the
[51:30] discord, but you can't change what
[51:32] happened.
[51:33] You can't change the stories that you
[51:35] heard, and you can't change the way you
[51:37] have felt about it.
[51:39] In other words, it happened, and so it's
[51:41] a strong momentum within you.
[51:43] But nevertheless, you don't like the way
[51:45] it feels.
[51:46] So, you could change the subject.
[51:48] And think about things that feel better.
[51:50] But with something as
[51:53] significant as parent and child, it
[51:57] comes up all the time. You see parents
[51:58] with their kids and you see kids with
[52:00] their parents. And so it's something
[52:02] that comes up. So it's important for you
[52:04] to find a way of soothing the energy. So
[52:06] you say
[52:10] I can't believe how that guy just left
[52:12] us. I can't believe how he turned his
[52:13] back on us.
[52:14] Feel how the momentum is getting
[52:15] stronger. Never even look back. I don't
[52:18] even think he even acknowledged that I
[52:20] was alive. I don't think he cared about
[52:22] me at all. He certainly didn't care
[52:23] about the others. He didn't care about
[52:25] my mother. Momentum is speeding up. And
[52:27] the more momentum you add to that, the
[52:28] worse you feel. You can get really
[52:30] strong momentum going until you can
[52:32] really hold yourself for a long time out
[52:34] of sorts with who you really are.
[52:36] But now you don't want to do that. You
[52:38] have listened to us, maybe heard a
[52:40] little bit. And so you're saying to
[52:42] yourself, I just want to feel better
[52:44] about this. And I really don't know what
[52:47] the guy was thinking. I don't know what
[52:49] was going on in his world. I don't know.
[52:52] Nobody's really explained to me how he
[52:54] felt. He might have felt broken. He
[52:56] might not have felt like he had anything
[52:58] to offer any of us.
[52:59] He might have felt like we were better
[53:01] off without him. I don't know what he
[53:03] really felt.
[53:04] I do know that he provided an avenue for
[53:07] me into this time-space reality. I'm
[53:10] glad about that.
[53:11] And I do know that I had a lot of
[53:13] contrast early on.
[53:15] And I think that has served me.
[53:17] And I do know that the relief I will
[53:19] feel when I let go of this
[53:22] is going to be pretty significant.
[53:24] And
[53:25] and I don't believe that source is
[53:27] hating him.
[53:28] I don't believe that source is holding
[53:31] him as object of attention and finding
[53:33] what's wrong. Oh, maybe that's why I
[53:36] feel so awful. I have a different
[53:38] opinion with source about my father.
[53:43] >> And when I step out of this form,
[53:47] >> you'll re-emerge into the opinion that
[53:48] source has about everything.
[53:50] >> And what about my father? Will he be
[53:52] there?
[53:52] >> Right there. Oh, right there. Right
[53:54] there.
[53:56] And offering no explanation whatsoever.
[54:02] Don't look for closure.
[54:04] There is no closure. Just keeps opening.
[54:07] You never get to the bottom of anything.
[54:11] Law of attraction just gives you more
[54:12] detail.
[54:14] >> Did I need to have all of that contrast,
[54:17] all of that rage, all of that in order
[54:19] to get to uh
[54:20] >> You didn't need it, but
[54:22] you didn't not want it. You said, "I'll
[54:25] go forth. I'll figure it out. I'm going
[54:28] I'm a teacher, and I'm going to teach a
[54:30] lot of people. And the majority of
[54:32] people aren't born in feathered nests on
[54:35] high-flying discs. The majority of
[54:37] people are born somewhere on the
[54:39] emotional scale. And I'm a teacher, and
[54:41] I'm wanting to write books that assist
[54:43] them, and I can't write what I don't
[54:45] know."
[54:45] >> Wow.
[54:47] You can't imagine what you just touched
[54:48] in me because uh
[54:51] >> [applause]
[54:56] >> Because I've just I've just written a
[54:57] book that's not even published. It won't
[54:59] be out until March.
[55:01] And it's called I Can See Clearly Now.
[55:03] Uh
[55:04] >> Clarity is Esther's new favorite word.
[55:06] >> Yeah.
[55:07] >> Because when you're on that high-flying
[55:08] disc,
[55:09] clarity feels better than
[55:12] anything. To be clear-minded, which
[55:15] means to be sure-footed, to know what to
[55:16] do.
[55:17] >> Yeah.
[55:18] >> The book is I Can See Clearly Now.
[55:20] >> I Can See Clearly Now.
[55:21] Mhm. It's a song, but it's it's also uh
[55:25] It's But I I can't tell you
[55:28] >> everything that I knew before I came
[55:29] forth into this physical body, and so
[55:32] much more that I picked up along my
[55:33] physical trail.
[55:35] All the contrast that I lived put things
[55:37] into my vortex that for a long time I
[55:39] didn't allow myself to see. But now,
[55:43] I'm a vibrational match to everything
[55:44] that I put there, and it's a beautiful
[55:46] world that I have created.
[55:48] I've put enough in my vortex to keep
[55:50] myself busy for 20 or 30 lifetimes.
[55:53] And I'm eager about all of that.
[55:56] I see where the world is going.
[55:58] I see that others have the capacity to
[56:01] do this, too. That no one needs to hold
[56:03] themselves in discomfort and
[56:05] disconnection.
[56:07] That there's no reason for it. The
[56:08] source is right there for all of us,
[56:11] whispering to us, speaking clearly to
[56:13] us.
[56:14] All we have to do is just listen a
[56:15] little.
[56:16] >> That's what I was going to ask you
[56:17] because it's
[56:18] this this what I've done is
[56:21] I've taken
[56:22] the 58 chap- this turns out there's 58
[56:25] chapters and and and each one of them is
[56:27] just a
[56:28] um a look at I'm going along this way
[56:31] and then suddenly I'm making a left turn
[56:33] or right turn or I'm doing a about-face
[56:36] and
[56:37] um and it's like
[56:40] you know, like the first five books that
[56:41] I wrote for the public, uh I never
[56:43] mentioned the word spirit, God,
[56:45] consciousness, higher consciousness,
[56:47] higher was never was mentioned. I wrote
[56:48] books about psychology and all
[56:49] >> They weren't ready.
[56:50] >> Yeah, yeah. And then um
[56:53] I wrote a book uh
[56:55] and I look in the index cuz I was
[56:56] writing this book looking back at it and
[56:58] uh
[56:59] in the next book it was called
[57:02] uh
[57:02] you'll see it when you believe it. And
[57:04] it was uh this like 39 references to
[57:07] that. And then the next book after that
[57:09] has it in the title. And then I'm giving
[57:11] lectures about it and then and it's like
[57:15] is there something is there is there
[57:17] some force in there? I mean, what
[57:20] I made it a dramatic shift one time on
[57:22] the Long Island Expressway.
[57:24] Um I was teaching at at the university
[57:27] in 1976,
[57:29] shortly after the the visit to my
[57:31] father's grave.
[57:32] And I was driving down the LIE and I
[57:36] which means lie.
[57:38] And I pulled off to the side. It was
[57:40] something overwhelming. And I was about
[57:43] to be granted tenure
[57:44] at this university. And now everybody
[57:47] was looking for tenure and wanted
[57:48] tenure. Tenure is like, you know, you
[57:50] got a job here for the rest of your
[57:51] life. You know, you're guaranteed you're
[57:53] going to be staying right here
[57:55] in this office doing the same thing that
[57:58] you've been doing for the last 6 years.
[58:00] And it was like a frightening kind of
[58:02] feeling for me.
[58:03] And and I had to How do you turn down
[58:05] tenure? I mean, it was hard to get it
[58:06] was I was going to be a full professor.
[58:08] I was going to have a guaranteed job
[58:10] for, you know, and all of this and
[58:12] and I pulled off and something just was
[58:14] overwhelming. I mean, I I actually got
[58:16] uh
[58:17] flushed.
[58:18] And I got back in the car. I didn't call
[58:20] my family. I didn't do anything. I drove
[58:21] right to the university, went into the
[58:24] Dean's office. Her name was Sarah
[58:25] Fastenmeier.
[58:27] I said, "Dr. Fastenmeier, I said um
[58:30] this is my last semester. I can't I've
[58:32] written a book. It was called Youronious
[58:34] Sounds. I just took it out. I said, I I
[58:37] can't take this uh and do It was like I
[58:40] can That was one of the chapters and I
[58:42] can see clearly now that moment when I I
[58:45] think, "What What was that? Was that
[58:46] source energy? Was that What What I
[58:48] mean, it's just And from that moment on,
[58:51] I mean, I gave up
[58:52] I gave up all the benefits that you get
[58:55] from being employed with, you know, so
[58:56] many years.
[58:57] >> up bondage.
[58:58] >> Yeah,
[58:59] yeah, I did. And in the first year in
[59:01] the first year that I after I made that
[59:04] decision and allowed that to happen, I
[59:06] made more money in the first year than I
[59:08] had made the previous 36 years of my
[59:10] life.
[59:11] >> That
[59:11] >> And that was just one little aspect of
[59:13] it.
[59:13] >> That's what we meant earlier when we
[59:15] said that everything that you desire is
[59:18] in your vibrational reality. And the
[59:20] source within you knows where it all is
[59:23] and the path of least resistance to lead
[59:25] you to it. And it's not getting to it
[59:28] that is the big deal. It's the path that
[59:30] is so fun along the way.
[59:33] So So, when you
[59:34] really quick So, when you came into this
[59:36] physical body, there was that trajectory
[59:38] that we're talking about, that
[59:39] trajectory of well-being. So, let's say
[59:42] it's a path of least resistance, but
[59:44] it's one of ease, it's one of fun, it's
[59:47] one of following your bliss, it's one of
[59:49] joy. And most of the world doesn't
[59:51] resonate very well with that because you
[59:53] just look lazy to them.
[59:55] So, you take a little tributary where
[59:58] you choose some other things, and you
[1:00:01] give it everything you've got. But, the
[1:00:03] whole time you do it, you can feel that
[1:00:05] this natural path is calling you. And
[1:00:07] sometimes the stakes get pretty strong.
[1:00:10] In other words, you could really feel,
[1:00:12] but the ultimate trajectory of who you
[1:00:14] really are always always wins, you see.
[1:00:18] We just don't know what it takes you all
[1:00:20] so long
[1:00:21] to relax and give in to your natural
[1:00:24] well-being, you see. And what we do know
[1:00:26] it's that you're listening to the others
[1:00:28] who have all the lists of things that
[1:00:31] you need to do in order to please them
[1:00:33] instead of listening to what the source
[1:00:36] within you knows.
[1:00:38] >> You said something before when I said
[1:00:40] you hit a chord with me. It was like I
[1:00:43] If when you read I can see clearly now,
[1:00:45] it's um
[1:00:46] not that you're you need to read. I know
[1:00:48] that you know everything.
[1:00:51] But, uh
[1:00:52] I'm speaking to all the rest of you
[1:00:53] mortals out there.
[1:00:56] The affirmation or the words I am a
[1:00:58] teacher, which you must have said to me
[1:01:00] five or six times before, is throughout
[1:01:03] this entire thing. I'm over and over
[1:01:05] saying these words, I am a teacher. I am
[1:01:07] not an employee. I am not somebody, you
[1:01:10] know, to I'm not to be told where to go
[1:01:12] or how I'm going to do it.
[1:01:15] >> I am an extension of source energy who
[1:01:17] has practiced my vibrational frequency
[1:01:20] into such alignment with my true nature
[1:01:22] that anything less than that feels off
[1:01:25] to me. And because I care about the way
[1:01:27] I feel, I guide myself easily now toward
[1:01:31] the things that feel good. And
[1:01:33] therefore, I am always on my path.
[1:01:36] >> And when the if the things that
[1:01:38] >> book will lead you to yours.
[1:01:40] >> And And the things that feel good, um
[1:01:43] sometimes uh
[1:01:45] we confuse like things like it's safer,
[1:01:48] it's easier, it's
[1:01:49] >> Well, that's And it's like it doesn't
[1:01:50] feel so good inside.
[1:01:52] >> Well, it safer feels better than than
[1:01:55] fear, than danger. And so, it's a step
[1:01:58] in the right direction, but you don't
[1:02:00] want to hang around
[1:02:02] reaching for safety because
[1:02:04] you can get a vibration going and then
[1:02:07] everything that's about that just shows
[1:02:09] itself to you.
[1:02:10] In other words, this is a
[1:02:12] self course that you're all on. And
[1:02:16] you have source energy guiding you every
[1:02:19] step of the way.
[1:02:21] And when you find something that feels
[1:02:22] good, go that way.
[1:02:26] >> I had a
[1:02:27] a great teacher in my life. I was
[1:02:28] studying early to be a a Youngian
[1:02:30] analyst, Carl Jung.
[1:02:32] And he said this, and I had to ask you
[1:02:34] this.
[1:02:36] He said at the same moment
[1:02:38] that you're a protagonist in your own
[1:02:40] life and you're making choices,
[1:02:42] at the very same moment, you're also the
[1:02:45] spear carrier or the extra
[1:02:47] in a much larger drama.
[1:02:49] He said, "All of you are doomed
[1:02:52] to make choices."
[1:02:54] And it sounds like such a
[1:02:56] contrast. It's such like a like it's
[1:02:58] like that's not a possibility. If you're
[1:02:59] doomed, how could you be making choices?
[1:03:01] But within our physical bodies, we're
[1:03:03] doomed. I mean,
[1:03:05] Esther showed up in a female body of a
[1:03:08] certain height and certain color hair
[1:03:09] and certain things, and and I showed up
[1:03:11] in a 6-foot-1 male body, and and its
[1:03:15] hair is falling out and growing in its
[1:03:16] ears and all of the crazy things that
[1:03:18] are happening to it and I'm just
[1:03:19] watching it. And so I know that within a
[1:03:22] but I also have choices to make about
[1:03:24] this body. I can feed it well, I can
[1:03:26] exercise it, I can you know, do so many
[1:03:28] things to So I'm making choices within
[1:03:30] sort of a doomed state. But what about
[1:03:32] the other stuff part of us? The
[1:03:34] spiritual side of us, the the uh
[1:03:36] >> Well, we can see how someone who is
[1:03:38] trying to explain to someone who's not
[1:03:41] in this moment on the high-flying disc.
[1:03:43] >> Right.
[1:03:44] >> In other words, if someone's having a
[1:03:45] really hard time,
[1:03:46] we understand why someone would use
[1:03:49] words like doomed.
[1:03:51] >> Right. Doomed He didn't mean it in a,
[1:03:53] you know,
[1:03:54] >> Meaning meaning unwanted choices.
[1:03:56] Meaning Meaning that there are unwanted
[1:03:59] choices.
[1:04:00] But what we have noticed is that
[1:04:04] as you have the
[1:04:06] long and longer and longer opportunity
[1:04:09] to sift through the details of your life
[1:04:11] and personal preferences are born within
[1:04:14] you.
[1:04:15] Did you become
[1:04:17] clearer and clearer about who you are
[1:04:19] and what you want.
[1:04:20] And then that's usually when we begin
[1:04:22] meeting
[1:04:23] our physical friends because they're
[1:04:25] usually at the point where they know
[1:04:28] that they
[1:04:29] or they want to believe that they are
[1:04:30] the creator of their own reality. They
[1:04:32] just don't know how to go about it.
[1:04:36] This is a new conversation that we are
[1:04:37] having recently
[1:04:39] because
[1:04:42] we want we so much want our physical
[1:04:44] friends to understand
[1:04:46] that you come as non-physical energy
[1:04:49] to explore contrast more than you would
[1:04:54] in other words, in your physical body
[1:04:55] you explore the contrast more than we do
[1:04:58] from the our non-physical vantage point.
[1:05:01] And out of that comes more detail, more
[1:05:05] improvement about this physical
[1:05:06] time-space reality. The evolution of all
[1:05:09] species is
[1:05:11] dependent upon that contrasted
[1:05:14] experience.
[1:05:15] But when humans explore contrast and
[1:05:19] then want to compare manifestations,
[1:05:22] these are good manifestations, these are
[1:05:24] bad manifestations, these are
[1:05:25] manifestations that we want you to
[1:05:27] pursue, these are manifestations that we
[1:05:29] don't want you to pursue, and we need to
[1:05:31] come to some form of agreement which
[1:05:33] defies the intention that you all held
[1:05:35] when you came into your physical form,
[1:05:38] then you just become shortage
[1:05:39] consciousness. Then you just become sort
[1:05:42] of
[1:05:44] fighting over the spoils rather than
[1:05:46] tapping into the energy that creates
[1:05:47] worlds and really loving the life that
[1:05:49] you've come to live.
[1:05:51] So, we get it that
[1:05:54] from a place of not feeling good, that
[1:05:56] you could measure all kinds of not
[1:05:58] feeling good and separate it into all
[1:06:00] kinds of distinct um categories, but we
[1:06:05] would like you to just for a little
[1:06:07] while accept that you are vibration.
[1:06:10] Accept that you are source energy in
[1:06:12] physical bodies.
[1:06:13] Accept that you are offering a vibration
[1:06:16] and that that vibration is being
[1:06:17] responded to by law of attraction.
[1:06:20] Accept that you can feel the opinion of
[1:06:22] source and the opinion of your
[1:06:24] vibration, of your focused consciousness
[1:06:27] in every moment and every every day, and
[1:06:29] that you can bring yourself back online
[1:06:32] with who you really are and what you
[1:06:34] came to live. Now, that sounds a little
[1:06:36] bit like
[1:06:38] you're a puppet on a string and that
[1:06:39] source energy is already defined what
[1:06:41] you're supposed to live, and that isn't
[1:06:42] what we mean at all because all this
[1:06:45] sifting and sorting has caused you to
[1:06:46] expand and your inner being has become
[1:06:50] the equivalent, the vibrationally
[1:06:51] equivalent of all of that expansion. So,
[1:06:54] there is nothing that you have lived
[1:06:57] that the larger part of you has not
[1:06:59] become.
[1:07:00] And when you care about the way you
[1:07:01] feel, now you can become it here and
[1:07:04] now, and when you do, the first thing
[1:07:07] you feel is clarity. Clarity about which
[1:07:10] way to go, clarity about whether to do
[1:07:12] this or not, clarity about whether to
[1:07:14] have this conversation, clarity about
[1:07:16] whether to go that way or that way,
[1:07:18] clarity about whether to invest with
[1:07:20] that, whether to marry that, clarity
[1:07:22] because broader perspective knows who
[1:07:25] you are, knows everything about you, and
[1:07:27] is offering a very strong, very clear
[1:07:30] opinion.
[1:07:32] But you got to practice tuning into it
[1:07:34] if you want that kind of guidance. And
[1:07:36] the alternative is really miserable
[1:07:37] because your physical friends are all
[1:07:39] wanting different things from you, you
[1:07:41] see. Go this way, go this way, go this
[1:07:43] way, go this way, go this way.
[1:07:44] >> If you're off that path, if you if if
[1:07:46] you know that
[1:07:47] you have a dharma, you have a destiny,
[1:07:49] you have this something, I don't know
[1:07:50] you're you're a great artist, you're for
[1:07:52] me it was a teacher, for me it was a
[1:07:53] writer, for me it was a expe- These are
[1:07:55] things that I've
[1:07:56] >> For you, it is an uplifter. For you, it
[1:07:59] is a keeper of the light so that others
[1:08:02] may find it.
[1:08:03] >> But when I got off that path
[1:08:05] when I got it when I would get away from
[1:08:07] it, you know, um
[1:08:09] some of the most profound and changes in
[1:08:11] my life came when I was at the those
[1:08:13] lowest places in
[1:08:15] >> Because when you you don't know what you
[1:08:16] do want until you know what you don't
[1:08:18] want. And some of that contrast launches
[1:08:20] some really big rockets. And it put you
[1:08:22] in touch with your emotional guidance
[1:08:23] system so that you can tell when you're
[1:08:25] on and when you're off.
[1:08:27] >> Is this is is this source energy,
[1:08:29] whatever it's like if it finds if you
[1:08:32] you're programmed, if you will, or
[1:08:34] whatever it is that you
[1:08:36] you have something that you're to
[1:08:37] accomplish here, you know, in in this
[1:08:39] time and
[1:08:39] >> it's not like that.
[1:08:41] >> I know accomplish isn't the right word,
[1:08:42] but it's like
[1:08:42] >> You have come for freedom, growth, and
[1:08:45] joy.
[1:08:45] >> And when you're away from that, when
[1:08:46] you're on a path that's taking you away
[1:08:48] from freedom, from joy, from love
[1:08:51] >> Yeah.
[1:08:52] But does does
[1:08:54] does divine guidance come into your life
[1:08:57] at that time and say, "Okay
[1:08:58] >> No, divine guidance is in your life all
[1:09:00] the time.
[1:09:02] All the time, all the time. Divine
[1:09:04] guidance never goes away. It's just that
[1:09:06] the contrast makes you listen more.
[1:09:07] >> Yeah. I listen to
[1:09:09] >> Esther Esther has found alignment that
[1:09:12] she never knew was there for her because
[1:09:14] of the discomfort she felt in Jerry
[1:09:17] making this transition.
[1:09:18] >> Right.
[1:09:20] >> Didn't even know it was possible.
[1:09:22] Miserable at first, worth it now.
[1:09:25] >> Yeah.
[1:09:26] I was
[1:09:28] being interviewed by the New York Times
[1:09:29] and Arthur Miller was there and Arthur
[1:09:31] Miller was a great American playwright,
[1:09:33] you know.
[1:09:34] Most of you know the
[1:09:35] Death of a Salesman, The Crucible, and
[1:09:37] so on. He was 91 years old.
[1:09:39] And he was asked the question by the
[1:09:41] interviewer, "Are are you working on
[1:09:42] another play?" He was 91 years old.
[1:09:45] And he said uh and I've never forgotten
[1:09:47] this cuz it it really resonated with me.
[1:09:49] He said
[1:09:50] he said, "I don't know, but I probably
[1:09:52] am."
[1:09:54] Meaning, I think that uh
[1:09:57] that there's something else moving these
[1:09:58] checkers around in this checker game
[1:10:00] that we're playing. That uh that
[1:10:02] >> Well,
[1:10:03] here's the thing and then we'll take a
[1:10:04] segment of refreshment. You have been
[1:10:07] asking
[1:10:09] and you've put your preferences into a
[1:10:11] vibrational reality that you are not
[1:10:13] cashing in yet.
[1:10:15] So,
[1:10:16] yes, he's going to write another play.
[1:10:18] It's already there. And when he stops
[1:10:21] talking about how tired he is and stops
[1:10:24] fussing over how incorrectly they handle
[1:10:27] his material and gets a good night's
[1:10:29] sleep, he'll wake up with an impression
[1:10:32] or an inspiration and off he'll go
[1:10:33] again.
[1:10:34] >> Exactly what I did with this last book.
[1:10:35] On the day on June the 26th, I announced
[1:10:38] to my kids that I'm not writing any more
[1:10:40] books. I'm done writing. I've done
[1:10:41] enough. I've got it I don't have to
[1:10:43] prove myself. I've done 40 books and so
[1:10:45] on. June 27th, I was I woke up and I was
[1:10:48] right and I
[1:10:49] five months I wrote morning, noon, and
[1:10:51] night until I put my neck out of joint.
[1:10:53] I mean, I could not stop the writing.
[1:10:55] just
[1:10:55] >> to accept that your vortex has enough
[1:10:57] content in it to keep you busy for 20 or
[1:10:59] 30 lifetimes. And as long as you're
[1:11:01] having fun, then isn't that the point?
[1:11:04] >> Yeah, it was fun. It was just great joy.
[1:11:06] Great joy. As it is to be with you.
[1:11:08] >> We're enjoying this immensely. Really
[1:11:10] good time for a segment of refreshment.
[1:11:13] >> [applause]
[1:11:18] [music]
[1:11:19] [applause]
[1:11:30] >> Let's talk about money blocks.
[1:11:33] And
[1:11:34] again, if you've read any of my books,
[1:11:37] podcast, anything, it's the same stuff.
[1:11:40] But,
[1:11:42] new level,
[1:11:44] new devil, right? So, you can do it
[1:11:46] either way. So, David Neagle, I always
[1:11:49] This is the first time I heard him say
[1:11:50] it, new level, new devil, right? You get
[1:11:52] to a new level, new gremlins come up.
[1:11:55] But, I actually think it's the old
[1:11:57] devils that the things you have to watch
[1:11:59] out for.
[1:12:00] Because the same money block that you
[1:12:02] start with at the start of your business
[1:12:05] will follow you and continue to be
[1:12:08] there. It will just be in slightly
[1:12:10] different ways. So, my big one at the
[1:12:13] start was always like, you know, people
[1:12:14] are going to think I'm too big for my
[1:12:16] boots.
[1:12:17] And that comes up again and again and
[1:12:18] again for me. It's always the same
[1:12:20] thing. And so, a big trigger for me,
[1:12:23] like when I was at the um
[1:12:25] event in
[1:12:26] uh in March,
[1:12:28] I was like really being super helpful
[1:12:31] and trying to just, you know, be like,
[1:12:33] "I'm here. Whatever you need." to the
[1:12:35] organizers. And even the yesterday, I
[1:12:38] almost did it again. The um the people
[1:12:41] who did out the tables, they left out
[1:12:43] one row of tables and there was like 180
[1:12:46] seats, right? And so, I was like ready
[1:12:48] to like pull chairs out and do all the
[1:12:51] things because my thing's like, I am so
[1:12:53] down-to-earth.
[1:12:54] I am so humble and I'm so down-to-earth.
[1:12:57] And so, um at this event in March,
[1:13:00] people are like, "Oh my god, Denise, you
[1:13:01] are so humble and down-to-earth." I was
[1:13:02] like, "Well, I'm going TO BE EVEN MORE."
[1:13:05] LIKE, "WHAT CAN I DO? Let me do the
[1:13:07] things." And
[1:13:09] I think there's a point I'm always like,
[1:13:11] "Oh no, now I can't make any more money
[1:13:12] cuz now I won't be humble and
[1:13:14] down-to-earth anymore."
[1:13:15] But I thought that from like
[1:13:18] the first couple of dollars that I made
[1:13:20] in my business. Does that make sense?
[1:13:22] So, you might think there's a certain
[1:13:24] amount of income where you're like, "Oh,
[1:13:26] I won't have that block anymore." You
[1:13:28] will. It'll be the same block.
[1:13:32] So, that's the one you have to watch out
[1:13:34] for.
[1:13:35] Um
[1:13:36] yeah. And you know, the whole thing too
[1:13:38] about fear,
[1:13:40] it never goes away.
[1:13:42] You're always going to be scared in some
[1:13:43] way. What scares you today won't scare
[1:13:45] you tomorrow. That's always a good thing
[1:13:47] to hang on to, but there will always be
[1:13:49] fear. And so, absence of goal Sorry,
[1:13:52] absence of fear is not your goal.
[1:13:54] That's not what we're trying to do.
[1:13:56] You're never going to get to a point
[1:13:57] where you're like, "Oh, no fear.
[1:13:58] Brilliant." Um
[1:14:01] yeah.
[1:14:02] Good news, bad news, right?
[1:14:03] Okay, so
[1:14:05] number one block for so many people,
[1:14:09] I have to work really hard to make
[1:14:11] money.
[1:14:12] Now, this has come
[1:14:14] from different areas for different
[1:14:16] people, okay? This could come from your
[1:14:18] background, it could come from the
[1:14:20] country you grew up in, the city you
[1:14:22] grew up in, the era you grew up in.
[1:14:25] We'll talk about a little bit of that in
[1:14:26] a sec.
[1:14:27] But this is just such a common block for
[1:14:29] so many of so many of us, right?
[1:14:32] Especially since most of us grew up in a
[1:14:36] time pre-internet.
[1:14:38] Okay? I'm sure there's some young
[1:14:39] whippersnappers here. You all look very
[1:14:41] young and fabulous.
[1:14:43] But do you know what I mean? Like when
[1:14:45] when you were growing up, like making
[1:14:47] money is like you
[1:14:49] you sell one thing, you sell an hour of
[1:14:51] your time. Like there's no there was no
[1:14:53] way to leverage anything, let alone our
[1:14:58] imaginations, right? And so now we live
[1:15:00] in this world where it's like, oh, you
[1:15:02] can get paid multiple times
[1:15:05] for your intellectual property, for who
[1:15:07] you are. But it doesn't it kind of just
[1:15:08] break your brain a little bit?
[1:15:10] It doesn't quite compute and we're in
[1:15:12] the industry of personal development and
[1:15:15] and possibility. So that can get
[1:15:18] reinforced by other people in our life.
[1:15:20] Well, how are you making money?
[1:15:22] Are you qualified to do that?
[1:15:24] And it just reinforces this thing of
[1:15:26] like, oh, an honest day's work for an
[1:15:28] honest day's pay. Another day, another
[1:15:31] dollar. And it doesn't quite compute to
[1:15:33] our
[1:15:34] beautiful little brains
[1:15:36] that it can be leveraged.
[1:15:38] You know, and I I know I've I've said
[1:15:40] this a million times, too, but when I
[1:15:42] first um was selling my first ebook,
[1:15:46] I really felt like, hi Natasha. Um that
[1:15:48] I had to every person who bought it, I
[1:15:51] had to call them and read it to them
[1:15:53] over the phone.
[1:15:55] No, I'm serious. Does it Do you
[1:15:57] understand? Has anyone felt that as
[1:15:59] well? Because I was like, it doesn't
[1:16:01] make sense that someone is paying me
[1:16:05] money for something that I did 2 years
[1:16:08] ago.
[1:16:09] It was like, where's the connection
[1:16:11] here?
[1:16:12] And so we need to be okay with that it's
[1:16:16] safe for me to make leveraged money.
[1:16:19] It's safe for me to make money when I'm
[1:16:20] sleeping. It's safe for me to make money
[1:16:23] from things I've already done. It's safe
[1:16:25] for me to make money from things that
[1:16:27] are really easy for me.
[1:16:29] It's safe for me to make money from
[1:16:31] things that are really obvious to me
[1:16:33] and not from someone else. So who do you
[1:16:36] Who thinks they this is their probably
[1:16:38] number one block?
[1:16:39] That I have to work really hard.
[1:16:41] Okay, so it could be showing up in a few
[1:16:43] different ways for you. So, burning
[1:16:45] yourself out,
[1:16:47] doing too much stuff, reinventing the
[1:16:49] wheel is part of this as well. Oh,
[1:16:51] that's too easy and obvious. Now I have
[1:16:52] to make it really complicated.
[1:16:55] Anyone do that? Oh, yeah.
[1:16:57] Um I'm a little bit better at it now,
[1:16:59] but I'll tell you who's not so good at
[1:17:01] it.
[1:17:08] Mark likes to reinvent the wheel because
[1:17:10] he's got this work ethic.
[1:17:13] You know, and I get that. Who is really
[1:17:15] prides themselves on their work ethic?
[1:17:18] Me, too. Had four jobs at university.
[1:17:21] Like I I'm a hard worker. And it's hard
[1:17:24] to get out of that mentality. Who comes
[1:17:27] from a family of like hard workers?
[1:17:30] Yeah.
[1:17:31] And I I really find that this can be
[1:17:33] really amplified in certain
[1:17:35] circumstances. So, if your parents are
[1:17:37] immigrants, for example, and had to work
[1:17:39] really hard, um you know,
[1:17:42] especially if you've come from a family
[1:17:44] who um comes from a family who owned a
[1:17:46] restaurant or a shop or something like
[1:17:47] that.
[1:17:49] Okay, so how weird does it feel? Oh, I
[1:17:52] can just make money talking to people.
[1:17:54] Just doing it playing on the internet.
[1:17:57] Um you know, who came from a family um
[1:18:00] of like laborers?
[1:18:02] Okay, so how how weird does that feel?
[1:18:05] Can just make money from
[1:18:06] my imagination? That doesn't feel
[1:18:09] appropriate or ethical. Um
[1:18:12] my mom had me at 17. She always had
[1:18:16] manual labor jobs, so she cleaned
[1:18:18] houses.
[1:18:20] Um you know, she didn't have a lot of
[1:18:21] choice in those kind of things. And so
[1:18:23] when I that first year that I started
[1:18:26] making money, you know, someone paid me
[1:18:28] $500 to go speak at a workshop.
[1:18:31] And I was just like, "Oh my god, this is
[1:18:33] so cool." And mom was like, "That's my
[1:18:36] weekly salary at the nursing home."
[1:18:39] And she was a assistant nurse. So, you
[1:18:42] know, it's doing the bed pans and doing
[1:18:45] the really hard work. And I honestly
[1:18:47] felt like
[1:18:49] Because I went, "Who am I
[1:18:52] to make $500
[1:18:55] to go speak to people
[1:18:57] and my mom has to do a week's worth
[1:18:59] getting up at 4:30 in the morning and
[1:19:02] doing real work for that?"
[1:19:04] Okay?
[1:19:06] Here in the UK, I feel like it's really
[1:19:08] even more amplified because you have the
[1:19:10] NHS.
[1:19:12] You have all of these hard-working
[1:19:14] nurses and doctors in the NHS, and it's
[1:19:17] almost like this extra layer of guilt.
[1:19:20] Who am I to do something that I love?
[1:19:23] Um who else really feels that too of um
[1:19:28] uh especially people who have a really
[1:19:29] big heart, you see poverty
[1:19:32] in this country as well.
[1:19:34] You see poverty and you just think, "Who
[1:19:36] am I
[1:19:37] to do this?" And so, then you over
[1:19:41] deliver.
[1:19:42] You burn yourself out because you're
[1:19:43] trying to justify it, right? It's like,
[1:19:46] "Well, I might be making money, but I'm
[1:19:48] going to I'll burn myself out for it.
[1:19:50] I'll really earn it." And I have to
[1:19:52] watch this all the time. I really do. Um
[1:19:56] uh and that could be over delivering for
[1:19:58] a particular client. Who does that? Just
[1:20:01] put up your hand if you over deliver
[1:20:02] with clients and you know you do.
[1:20:03] Okay. So, um put your hand back up if
[1:20:06] it's with time. Over delivering with
[1:20:08] time. Such a common one, right? My
[1:20:11] 1-hour sessions would turn into 3-hour
[1:20:13] sessions cuz I'd be like, "Let me solve
[1:20:16] every problem of your life."
[1:20:18] Um let me give. Um what about just over
[1:20:21] delivering in terms of stuff? Maybe
[1:20:23] you're really gifty, yep.
[1:20:25] Or, you know, they order one thing and
[1:20:28] you put five things in there. Okay,
[1:20:30] cool. I see you.
[1:20:32] That's fine. Um
[1:20:34] too many offerings. That can also be a
[1:20:36] thing, too, right? Of let me be
[1:20:39] everything to you. Let me solve every
[1:20:42] problem of your life. Um especially if
[1:20:44] you're a like a jack-of-all-trades kind
[1:20:47] of person. Who's a jack-of-all-trades in
[1:20:49] here? Yeah, me, too. And so we're just
[1:20:51] like, well, if I can, I should. So let
[1:20:53] me solve your problem. And actually, a
[1:20:55] friend of mine, Victoria Gibson, who is
[1:20:57] an amazing business coach, I remember
[1:20:59] she would be she would do it Facebook
[1:21:01] ads for people, and then she'd go,
[1:21:04] but their website copy is really
[1:21:05] so I'll just change that. Oh, their
[1:21:07] graphics are not that great. I'll just
[1:21:09] change that. Oh, their pages are loading
[1:21:11] really slowly. Let me just get in the
[1:21:12] back end and fix that. And she would
[1:21:15] just do it all for them. And sometimes
[1:21:18] that's not the best thing for your
[1:21:19] clients, but often it comes from this
[1:21:22] place of, well, I have to work really
[1:21:23] hard to justify it. Especially again, if
[1:21:26] you have any guilt around your prices.
[1:21:29] Or thinking, oh, who am I to charge
[1:21:30] that?
[1:21:32] Um doing too many things in general,
[1:21:34] feeling guilty about success or money.
[1:21:37] That's a huge one. Who's had some like
[1:21:39] financial success, you know, in the last
[1:21:41] couple of years?
[1:21:43] And it's let's be honest, doesn't it
[1:21:45] feel
[1:21:46] icky sometimes and weird? Because
[1:21:51] money makes people weird sometimes. So
[1:21:54] other people might be projecting stuff
[1:21:56] onto you.
[1:21:58] You might be just feeling it in yourself
[1:22:00] for a variety of different reasons. Um
[1:22:03] and it can just it's one of those things
[1:22:06] you just have to do that new level, old
[1:22:08] devil thing. It's safe for me to make
[1:22:09] money. It's safe for me. And it could be
[1:22:12] that
[1:22:13] I don't know, you you sabotage it.
[1:22:16] Um or moving on to the next thing too
[1:22:17] quickly. Who's guilty of this? This is
[1:22:19] totally me.
[1:22:20] Um I'll have a friend go, oh my god,
[1:22:22] your launch was so great. You must be so
[1:22:23] I'm like, what launch?
[1:22:26] What are you talking about? Um and
[1:22:28] they're like,
[1:22:30] "Your big launch that you just had." And
[1:22:31] I was like, "Oh,
[1:22:33] yeah."
[1:22:34] I'm on to the next thing. I'm just into
[1:22:36] my next thing. Actually, I do want to
[1:22:38] celebrate one thing. So, I think it's on
[1:22:40] Monday, my house um settles, my the
[1:22:43] beach house that Mark and I built, which
[1:22:45] Mark actually did most of the building
[1:22:47] stuff for it. And it was the house that
[1:22:50] Lucky built.
[1:22:51] You know? And it sold, it was the record
[1:22:54] price in Newcastle.
[1:22:57] It sold for um 11 million and 50. 11
[1:23:00] million, yeah.
[1:23:01] Thank you.
[1:23:03] THANK YOU.
[1:23:03] >> [applause]
[1:23:06] >> AND FOR I MEAN, FOR THAT FOR THAT WEEK,
[1:23:08] IT WAS THE highest sale in Australia,
[1:23:10] but broke the record for Newcastle. And
[1:23:13] you know, again, that was one of those
[1:23:15] things people are like, "Oh my god,
[1:23:16] you're" And I was like,
[1:23:17] "Oh, yeah, I guess."
[1:23:20] And it's just that that part of my
[1:23:22] personality of like, it doesn't count.
[1:23:26] You know, it doesn't count, move on.
[1:23:28] I've got more things to do. I'm so busy.
[1:23:30] And you know, so we'll hopefully we'll
[1:23:32] celebrate it on Monday
[1:23:34] um when the money clears. But, you know,
[1:23:36] it's just one of those things of like,
[1:23:38] not celebrating stuff is a symptom of
[1:23:41] this money block. I have to work really
[1:23:43] hard to make money.
[1:23:45] And or it doesn't count, but you know
[1:23:46] what? It doesn't count anyway, no matter
[1:23:48] how hard I work. So, that could be one
[1:23:50] of it's just like, it's safe for me to
[1:23:52] make money with ease.
[1:23:54] That could be that could be your
[1:23:55] challenge. Safe for me to make money
[1:23:57] with ease.
[1:23:59] Okay. Number two. Oh, so by the way,
[1:24:01] sorry. Um I'll come back to the number
[1:24:03] one, but if you're a ruler in money
[1:24:05] money archetypes, that's your thing.
[1:24:08] It's rulers. Um but, it can come up for
[1:24:10] some of the other archetypes, too.
[1:24:12] Uh accumulators, you can be
[1:24:14] perfectionists, right? So, it might come
[1:24:17] up for you. Okay, so number two. Who has
[1:24:19] this one? I can help people
[1:24:22] or I can make money
[1:24:23] but never both.
[1:24:25] Or you're evil. Who's got that one?
[1:24:28] Okay, not as many people, but hear me on
[1:24:31] this because this often comes up um
[1:24:35] definitely way more in female-dominated
[1:24:37] spaces than male-dominated spaces.
[1:24:39] You'll find that um if you do go to a
[1:24:41] lot of male-dominated conferences,
[1:24:43] they don't really talk about money guilt
[1:24:45] that much. They're just like, "Yeah,
[1:24:47] make money."
[1:24:48] Um
[1:24:49] but also in different professions. So,
[1:24:51] who Do we have anyone in the room here
[1:24:53] who's uh like in a woo-woo spiritual
[1:24:56] kind of profession? Okay, quite a few of
[1:24:58] you.
[1:24:59] So, you might have heard this from some
[1:25:01] of your clients. It's not spiritual
[1:25:04] to charge for your gifts. Or, you know,
[1:25:07] this should be free. And that can be
[1:25:09] really hard because often
[1:25:12] they're the people with the biggest
[1:25:13] hearts and you really want to help
[1:25:14] people, but it just
[1:25:17] you have that feeling, I can't charge
[1:25:19] for this. Anyone in like a
[1:25:20] health-related field?
[1:25:23] Okay, cool. So, we might have physios in
[1:25:25] the room. Yeah? What's yours?
[1:25:28] Physio, exactly. Uh what else?
[1:25:32] Osteopath. Okay, so it's dealing with
[1:25:34] people's health,
[1:25:35] right? And so that layers the guilt on
[1:25:38] even more.
[1:25:39] Funerals.
[1:25:41] Yeah.
[1:25:42] But that's big, right? That's absolutely
[1:25:44] big cuz it's like I'm dealing with
[1:25:46] people when they're in pain and grief
[1:25:49] and they're hurting and I can fix it.
[1:25:52] Not You can't fix it necessarily, but
[1:25:54] you can make it nicer.
[1:25:57] Um
[1:25:58] and so then there's that feeling of
[1:25:59] everybody should be able to have this
[1:26:02] information. Everybody should be able to
[1:26:04] have healing. Everyone should be able to
[1:26:06] feel better. And that can be such a
[1:26:08] guilt trip, right? And, you know, I
[1:26:12] always talk about things about leverage.
[1:26:14] For example, if you can write a book,
[1:26:15] [clears throat]
[1:26:16] you can help heaps more people, you
[1:26:18] know? But if you're burning yourself
[1:26:19] out, how many people can you really How
[1:26:22] many people can you really help? What
[1:26:23] other industries have that kind of
[1:26:25] guilt?
[1:26:26] Yeah.
[1:26:27] >> A child therapist.
[1:26:28] >> A child therapist.
[1:26:30] Yeah. Anyone else in the therapy mental
[1:26:32] Yeah.
[1:26:34] So, you want to help people, you know?
[1:26:36] And especially when you see people who
[1:26:38] maybe can't afford it, and you know that
[1:26:40] there's such a great need out there.
[1:26:42] Um what else? Other professions? Yeah.
[1:26:45] >> It could be
[1:26:46] a specialist in community work.
[1:26:48] >> Oh, okay. So,
[1:26:49] helping teenagers.
[1:26:51] >> Social work.
[1:26:54] >> Yes.
[1:26:55] Yeah, exactly. So, helping teenagers,
[1:26:58] helping, you know, vulnerable
[1:27:00] populations.
[1:27:01] This can be really big. And so, that's
[1:27:04] when it starts to show up who is doing
[1:27:06] some bartering. So, it's when instead of
[1:27:09] um paying someone, you swap services.
[1:27:11] Who does bartering in here?
[1:27:13] Okay, sometimes it can be great. I'm not
[1:27:15] saying never ever ever do it, but it can
[1:27:18] often set up this wishy-washy energy,
[1:27:21] where you just not open for business.
[1:27:24] And sometimes it attracts more people
[1:27:26] who also don't want to pay you. And so,
[1:27:30] you know, even if it's with another
[1:27:31] practitioner, pay each other. And that's
[1:27:33] what I learned from my money mentor,
[1:27:34] Kendall Summerhawk. She said it should
[1:27:37] never be inconvenient to exchange money.
[1:27:41] And I was like, I just remembered that
[1:27:42] so much, cuz it's like, well, if we
[1:27:43] value each other, let's pay each other.
[1:27:46] Especially, um you know, if you want to
[1:27:48] buy a house later on, you you want to
[1:27:51] have that on your on your records, you
[1:27:52] know? Those are the things that
[1:27:53] disadvantage women, especially again and
[1:27:55] again.
[1:27:56] Discounting. Who's discounting without
[1:27:59] even being asked sometimes?
[1:28:00] >> Yeah.
[1:28:01] >> It's big. Because of guilt, right? We
[1:28:03] want to help people.
[1:28:04] Um
[1:28:05] over-delivering. Again, this is a one of
[1:28:08] these things. Under-charging.
[1:28:11] Okay? Um working for free.
[1:28:15] Especially, you know, when people are
[1:28:17] like, "Oh, come and speak at a, you
[1:28:19] know, women's empowerment event."
[1:28:21] For free.
[1:28:23] And I've done it so many I felt so
[1:28:25] guilty about it. And then someone said
[1:28:26] to me, "You know what? The caterer is
[1:28:29] being paid. The cleaner is getting paid.
[1:28:32] The venue is getting paid. The AV guy is
[1:28:35] getting paid. Everyone's getting paid
[1:28:36] except for you. What message is that
[1:28:38] sending?" And I was like, "Yeah, that's
[1:28:41] true." Especially when, you know,
[1:28:44] no one's coming to see the cleaner. They
[1:28:46] do an important job, but I I've done
[1:28:49] that because I felt guilty. Cuz I was
[1:28:51] like, "Well, of course I care about
[1:28:52] women's empowerment. Of course I do."
[1:28:55] Yeah. What are the industries? Wedding
[1:28:56] industry?
[1:28:58] You know? And again, everyone else is
[1:29:00] getting paid, but somehow it's the
[1:29:01] creatives that feel guilty about it,
[1:29:03] right? Yeah. Exactly. I've heard from
[1:29:06] makeup artists,
[1:29:07] you know, hair people for weddings.
[1:29:09] They're not charging cancellation fees,
[1:29:11] but hotels do. Hotels will get you every
[1:29:14] time. Um,
[1:29:16] it could be that you're
[1:29:19] attracting codependent clients.
[1:29:21] Cuz you feel guilty. You want to help
[1:29:22] everyone. So, you become a magnet for
[1:29:24] people like that.
[1:29:26] Um, who is slow to invoice?
[1:29:29] Don't be a shy to Yeah.
[1:29:31] It's a big thing, right? Because of that
[1:29:33] guilt. What's going on in your mind when
[1:29:35] you're slow to invoice?
[1:29:37] What if they think it's too expensive?
[1:29:40] What if they think it's not worth it?
[1:29:42] Um, what if they think I'm a
[1:29:44] for talking about money?
[1:29:46] Um,
[1:29:48] feeling guilty about charging in
[1:29:49] general. Hating to chase clients for
[1:29:52] default payments, late payments,
[1:29:54] cancellation payments.
[1:29:56] Feeling resentful or unappreciated.
[1:29:58] That's a really big sign. And fear
[1:30:00] setting boundaries. Who hates setting
[1:30:02] boundaries?
[1:30:04] Yeah, it's it can be tricky, right? It
[1:30:06] can be really, really tricky, But it
[1:30:08] comes from this I can help people or
[1:30:10] make money but not both. So I want you
[1:30:13] to say it's safe for me to charge.
[1:30:16] Say that aloud. It's safe for me to
[1:30:17] charge.
[1:30:19] To help people.
[1:30:22] And when I say these affirmations,
[1:30:25] sometimes it does not feel good.
[1:30:27] It does not feel good and it's an
[1:30:29] acclimatization
[1:30:31] to help yourself feel better about it.
[1:30:34] Okay, so the third big money block
[1:30:37] is more money, more problems.
[1:30:40] And it's this idea it I think it's both,
[1:30:43] right? It's like this idea that if you
[1:30:44] make more money
[1:30:46] there's some bad stuff that's going to
[1:30:48] happen.
[1:30:49] But also it's almost this thing of like
[1:30:54] I have to be perfect to make money.
[1:30:57] You know, and so I want the good news
[1:30:58] and the bad news is however you are now,
[1:31:01] you'll be like that with money.
[1:31:04] For good and bad.
[1:31:06] Really. And so sometimes we think oh,
[1:31:08] I've got to be perfect to earn it and to
[1:31:11] keep it. And we're just kind of pushing
[1:31:14] it away. It's like here's, you know, you
[1:31:16] with all your flaws and then here's this
[1:31:18] perfect version of yourself that is
[1:31:20] magically perfect all the time.
[1:31:23] And you're just pushing them away all
[1:31:26] the time because it's never going to be
[1:31:28] you. So whatever
[1:31:30] like good and bad traits you have now,
[1:31:33] it'll just be the same with more money.
[1:31:35] Who doesn't believe me though?
[1:31:37] Now put up your hand if you think no,
[1:31:38] no, no, I'll definitely be perfect with
[1:31:40] more money.
[1:31:43] Yeah? Yeah. I'll definitely be a nicer
[1:31:45] person with more money.
[1:31:48] Yes. [laughter]
[1:31:49] I'll definitely be a more patient mother
[1:31:51] with more money.
[1:31:56] I will never um
[1:31:58] yeah.
[1:31:59] I will never pick my nose or fart with
[1:32:01] more money.
[1:32:03] Never.
[1:32:04] Um and so there's this fear of like more
[1:32:07] money, more problems. So, who honestly
[1:32:09] has a fear about taxman?
[1:32:12] Yeah.
[1:32:14] It's a big fear. If I make more money,
[1:32:15] I'll have to pay more tax. And it's just
[1:32:18] such a like it could be just in the back
[1:32:20] of your mind and it stops you from
[1:32:22] making more money because you fear
[1:32:24] what's on the other side. You fear what
[1:32:26] other people will say about you. You'll
[1:32:28] fear um what it will mean about
[1:32:30] yourself.
[1:32:32] You'll fear maybe
[1:32:34] I don't know, other people judging you.
[1:32:36] And so these things could be happening.
[1:32:37] You're spending all your money. You're
[1:32:38] sabotaging your business. You're
[1:32:40] avoiding paperwork.
[1:32:42] I mean, you have to register for VAT
[1:32:44] here, right?
[1:32:46] So, who's putting that off?
[1:32:49] Yeah.
[1:32:50] Yeah. I did it as well. We as GST in
[1:32:53] Australia, I put it off because I was
[1:32:55] thinking, "Oh my god, I'm going to get
[1:32:57] in trouble.
[1:32:59] I'm going to screw this up. I'm going to
[1:33:00] get in trouble with the taxman." And so
[1:33:02] I was holding myself under the
[1:33:03] threshold. What's the threshold for
[1:33:04] registering for VAT here?
[1:33:07] 80 85? 85. Who's holding themselves
[1:33:10] under that unconsciously, do you think?
[1:33:13] Be honest. It's okay. It's okay. We're
[1:33:15] in a safe space to to talk about this.
[1:33:17] Sometimes we're holding ourselves back
[1:33:19] under a uh like a tax bracket.
[1:33:22] But often we're holding ourselves back
[1:33:24] under a very symbolic amount of money.
[1:33:27] Like what someone else is earning in our
[1:33:29] life or what you were earning in a
[1:33:31] previous job because you're like, "Oh,
[1:33:33] if I earn that again, I'll burn out
[1:33:34] again."
[1:33:35] There could be lots of different reasons
[1:33:37] why you could be holding yourself back.
[1:33:38] You could be in feast or famine.
[1:33:40] You could be hiding away, not marketing
[1:33:42] um or just talking negatively about
[1:33:45] money. I don't even care about making
[1:33:46] money. That's fine.
[1:33:47] You know, who who even wants to make six
[1:33:49] figures, seven figures? Ugh.
[1:33:53] It's not even that good, I'm sure. Uh
[1:33:55] it's great. It's good.
[1:33:58] It is good.
[1:33:59] But, it's not perfect. And so, some of
[1:34:01] you have this more money more problems
[1:34:03] thing.
[1:34:05] So, out of the one, two, and three, what
[1:34:07] do you think is your biggest one? So,
[1:34:08] put your hand up for um
[1:34:10] I have to work really, really hard to
[1:34:11] make money, that's your biggest one.
[1:34:13] Okay. Number two is I can help people or
[1:34:15] make money, but not both.
[1:34:17] And number three is more money, more
[1:34:18] problems.
[1:34:20] Okay. So, the working hard thing. And
[1:34:23] again, even if you've heard this,
[1:34:26] the last time you heard it, you might
[1:34:27] have been at a different level in
[1:34:28] business. And so, that's why you have to
[1:34:30] watch it. You have to see the new ways
[1:34:32] it's showing up. You have to see the
[1:34:33] sneaky ways that it's coming back into
[1:34:36] your life. You have to almost start from
[1:34:38] scratch a little bit, especially if
[1:34:39] you're in money boot camp. Go go to
[1:34:41] lesson one again, because you'll see
[1:34:44] different things at different levels of
[1:34:46] your business. The same lesson of how is
[1:34:49] this continually showing up for me?
[1:34:51] How am I making it true that I have to
[1:34:53] work really hard to make money?
[1:34:56] Okay. So, in your bag, um you've got two
[1:34:59] cards. They'll be somewhere in your bag.
[1:35:01] So, the cards. So, I I love these
[1:35:05] affirmations. It's safe for me to and
[1:35:09] this is a direct acknowledgement to the
[1:35:11] work of Louise Hay.
[1:35:14] You know, this is the work that she
[1:35:15] teach or that she taught us and that's
[1:35:18] her legacy is the safety
[1:35:21] and the self-love.
[1:35:24] And I honestly think that is the key to
[1:35:26] everything.
[1:35:28] Um it's the key to success in business,
[1:35:30] it's the key to success in life. If you
[1:35:33] learn nothing else um from my work, I
[1:35:36] hope that you learn that. It's just that
[1:35:38] self-love and acceptance, because
[1:35:40] there's nuances to it, of course, but
[1:35:42] that's the most important thing. And um
[1:35:45] I called I had to call this the
[1:35:48] um Hay House US
[1:35:50] last year sometime.
[1:35:52] Um
[1:35:53] and Louise Hay answered the phone.
[1:35:57] The recording that they still use of
[1:35:59] Louise Hay. Isn't it beautiful, Joe?
[1:36:02] Made me cry to think about it. And so
[1:36:04] she's the switchboard.
[1:36:07] You know, and she's like press one for
[1:36:09] this, press two for this. For Suze Orman
[1:36:11] say press three. And it was it was so
[1:36:13] beautiful but at the end she just goes,
[1:36:15] all is well.
[1:36:18] My god. I wanted to call up again and
[1:36:20] hear it.
[1:36:22] Because I just I needed to hear that all
[1:36:23] is well. All is well. And so this is the
[1:36:26] point behind these affirmations that I
[1:36:27] always share. It's safe for me to
[1:36:31] because I want you to tell yourself all
[1:36:35] is well.
[1:36:36] As many times and as many ways as you
[1:36:39] can.