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[0:00] What the is going on in the world of
[0:02] comedy right now? Why are comedians
[0:05] front page news like every single day?
[0:09] What they say, what they think, what
[0:10] they joke about. There's podcasters and
[0:14] there's comedians and they're political
[0:16] commentating often times through all of
[0:19] them.
[0:20] >> They're everywhere and they're news
[0:21] drivers. They've become really popular
[0:23] because I guess they're all speaking to
[0:25] the same audience, which is disaffected
[0:28] men who are pissed at women or pissed at
[0:30] everyone really. I think comics always
[0:32] have have a lot of influence whether
[0:34] that's good or bad.
[0:35] >> More influence now than ever before.
[0:38] >> More political now than ever before.
[0:40] >> A lot of young people kind of get their
[0:42] news and their opinions from standups.
[0:45] >> We're all addicted to this nonsense
[0:47] which kind of, you know, is shrinking
[0:49] our brains. So why not listen to
[0:51] comedians telling you what to do? But
[0:53] we're dumber than ever as a country.
[0:55] >> As a comedian at the cutting edge of
[0:57] this, how do we fix our country? How do
[0:59] we move forward?
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[1:47] Here's my question for you. What is
[1:50] going on in the world of comedy right
[1:51] now? And I and I really mean this in the
[1:54] most sincere way. Like what the [ __ ] is
[1:56] going on? Like why are comedians front
[1:59] page news like every single day? What
[2:02] they say, what they think, what they
[2:04] joke about, what they don't joke about.
[2:06] Different kind of pods of comedians
[2:08] going at each other. There's podcasters.
[2:12] >> Yes.
[2:12] >> And comedy standup. And there's standup
[2:15] specials and there's social media.
[2:19] >> Yes.
[2:19] >> And and they're acting and they're
[2:22] political commentating oftentimes
[2:25] through all of them. The world of
[2:27] comedy. I'm not in the world of comedy.
[2:28] I'm just an actor. I was on one show.
[2:31] Booby boohoo. [clears throat] And here
[2:34] we are. But seriously, what is going on?
[2:37] >> Well, I mean, that's a great way to
[2:39] frame it. They're everywhere and they're
[2:40] news drivers. And because I guess
[2:43] because podcasting blew up in the way
[2:45] that it has and in that like you know
[2:47] Joe Rogan type culture that they've
[2:49] created in Austin with all those other
[2:51] guys that have kind of sprouted from Joe
[2:54] Rogan. Um there's a lot of them and
[2:56] they've become really popular because I
[2:58] guess they're all speaking to the same
[3:00] audience which is kind of like you know
[3:02] disaffected
[3:03] men who are pissed at women for or
[3:06] pissed at everyone really kind of like
[3:08] we need our power back like people are
[3:10] taking stuff from us. That's the vibe I
[3:12] get when I hear those guys talking,
[3:14] which is kind of like a lack of respect,
[3:16] a lack of empathy.
[3:18] >> And and then there's a whole other
[3:20] movement happening. Like, first of all,
[3:22] there are more women doing standup than
[3:23] ever before, which is awesome. That's
[3:25] awesome.
[3:25] >> I just hosted uh a show at the improv
[3:28] and I decided
[3:29] >> why are we It's been nicer not to have
[3:31] any male comics around. You know, there
[3:33] are some great male comics obviously,
[3:35] but a lot of them aren't. And so, it was
[3:38] such a nice vibe. And everyone came up
[3:40] to me after the show and they're like,
[3:41] "Wow, what what a nice vi I'm on tour,
[3:43] so I don't get to be in town a lot." But
[3:45] when I am in town, I'm like, you know,
[3:47] the improv is a place I came up and I
[3:49] want to like that place needs a little
[3:51] bit of a revitalization. It's a little
[3:53] bit depressed. You know, there's the the
[3:55] shows are full, but there remember I I
[3:57] know you've been to the improv times,
[4:00] but it's been a while.
[4:00] >> That opening room where you walk in kind
[4:02] of the ante room and everyone would hang
[4:04] out and drink and eat and blah blah
[4:06] blah. that's not happening in the way
[4:07] that it used to happen and it kind of
[4:09] saddens me because that was a vibe. And
[4:12] so while comedy is hot and people are
[4:14] out and about like that that needs a
[4:17] little revitalization. So I'm spending a
[4:18] lot of time with the improv because I
[4:19] want to bring the vibes back. And having
[4:22] all female shows without calling it an
[4:24] all female show is more advantageous
[4:27] than saying because I remember coming up
[4:28] and being like pretty funny women. It's
[4:30] like don't we don't have to say that.
[4:32] >> We just we don't have to say anything.
[4:34] Just book a line up with all women.
[4:35] vagina yucks.
[4:36] >> Yeah. Or penis list. And
[4:38] >> penis list is pretty good.
[4:40] >> Yeah. That's euphonious actually.
[4:41] >> So to get circle back to what your
[4:43] question was, which is what's happening
[4:45] in comedy. I think comics like they
[4:47] always have have a lot of influence, you
[4:49] know, if and whether that's good or bad,
[4:52] it's true because people like comedians.
[4:56] They like
[4:57] >> more influence now than ever before.
[4:59] >> Yeah. I mean, more political now than
[5:02] ever before. A lot of young people kind
[5:04] of get their news and their opinions
[5:06] from standups,
[5:08] >> right?
[5:08] >> But but literally they get news facts
[5:10] like, "Oh, I heard so and so talking
[5:12] about this issue and I heard so and so
[5:15] giving this opinion about that issue and
[5:18] taking that on."
[5:19] >> But that's the world we live in right
[5:20] now anyway. You see something on your
[5:22] Instagram feed and you take that as a
[5:23] news story. I certainly do it, you know.
[5:26] I mean, I'm smarter than that. I haven't
[5:27] read like an Atlantic article in a in a
[5:30] while because you can summarize
[5:32] everything. You read a headline, you
[5:33] read three paragraphs and you're like,
[5:34] "Oh." And our attention, you know,
[5:37] deficit disorder, ADHD or ADD, what? We
[5:40] all [ __ ] have it. We're all addicted
[5:42] to this nonsense, which kind of, you
[5:44] know, is shrinking our brains. And so,
[5:46] why not listen to comedians telling you
[5:48] what to do? You know, we're dumber than
[5:50] ever as a country. We've gotten really
[5:52] stupid. and for a host of reasons, but
[5:55] social media being one of the primary
[5:57] reasons.
[5:57] >> Mhm. So, as a comedian at the cutting
[6:00] edge of this, what do we do? Give it
[6:03] give us your opinions. How do how do we
[6:05] fix our country? How do we move forward?
[6:06] >> Oh, god. How do we heal?
[6:08] >> I don't know how we heal all because,
[6:09] you know, I'm another person that likes
[6:11] to give out my political opinions, you
[6:12] know? So, I can't say don't do it. I
[6:14] like to make sure I'm factchecking [ __ ]
[6:16] before I talk about it, but I sometimes
[6:18] I get it wrong and you know, and then
[6:19] you're like, "Oh [ __ ] what did you I
[6:21] wasn't smart enough about that or I
[6:23] wasn't I didn't do enough research about
[6:24] that. I think what happened was listen
[6:26] there was this whole cancel culture
[6:28] where people didn't really get cancelled
[6:30] but everybody felt like they were being
[6:31] told that there were parameters. I like
[6:34] that. I like when people say these are
[6:36] the rules that you these are the four
[6:38] walls that you can play within and these
[6:40] are the people that you don't that don't
[6:42] want to be made fun of anymore. This is
[6:44] disrespectful. This is you know not
[6:47] appropriate. We're not using language
[6:48] like that anymore. I like those
[6:51] parameters. I think that's actually
[6:53] makes you more clever as an artist. You
[6:55] have to work within four walls. I don't
[6:56] want to offend people. I don't want to
[6:58] hurt people's feelings. I'm there to
[6:59] make people laugh and be joyful. So,
[7:02] there was a big, you know, men didn't
[7:04] like that obviously because they were
[7:07] the focus of attention about, you know,
[7:10] treating people badly and saying things
[7:12] and they were bitching. You can't say
[7:13] this, you can't say anything anymore. So
[7:15] then there was like a whole
[7:16] reverberation on that movement which is
[7:18] like we're going to say everything and
[7:20] we're going to get away with murder and
[7:22] everyone who was cancelled had was not
[7:24] cancelled. Louis CK just performed at
[7:26] the Hollywood Bowl, you know, he just
[7:28] came out with a special. Um he
[7:30] masturbated in front of multiple people.
[7:32] So there's no cancel culture. And now
[7:35] it's kind of like I want to draw the
[7:38] parallel between this and like the Me
[7:41] Too movement. Like the Me Too movement
[7:43] happened and guess what happened after
[7:45] that? Like Roie Wade was overturned. It
[7:47] was like women were like we're going to
[7:49] tell on you and men were like oh no you
[7:50] don't. And I feel like it's analogous
[7:53] the two things. Men are more brazen and
[7:56] they can they feel more latitude to say
[7:58] whatever the hell they want to say. And
[8:01] now there's a second wave of this kind
[8:03] of cancel culture happening. So I just
[8:06] think society we've lost the plot. You
[8:08] know I know you probably feel that way.
[8:10] I definitely feel that way. What is the
[8:12] answer? I have no [ __ ] idea what the
[8:14] answer is. I'm trying to just be like a
[8:16] solid A+ human being. You know what I
[8:18] mean? And double down on
[8:19] >> which is hard enough.
[8:20] >> Which is Well, no. In the face of this,
[8:22] I think that's the antidote is to be
[8:24] like, I'm not you're not going to
[8:26] >> make me angry and in in a way that's uh
[8:29] not constructive.
[8:32] >> You're going to embolden me to be nicer,
[8:34] to be kinder, to double down on all of
[8:37] that in the face of this darkness that
[8:39] we're living in in this moment. It's
[8:41] [clears throat] It's pretty ugly. So,
[8:42] I'm just like getting happier by the
[8:44] minute, you know, just to like that's my
[8:46] medicine and that's what I'm putting
[8:48] out.
[8:49] >> Yeah. There's parts of woke one that I
[8:51] do miss where it's kind of like racism
[8:54] is real.
[8:55] >> It really does exist. Yeah.
[8:57] >> And it creates lots of income inequality
[9:01] and
[9:02] >> people are pissed about it and it deeply
[9:04] affects millions of American lives. And
[9:07] that's just a fact. and roll it back all
[9:10] you want in the Florida history books.
[9:12] That's not going to change that reality.
[9:14] So, I miss that kind of reality check of
[9:16] woke one. I do feel like people were
[9:18] cancelled. I remember reading this
[9:20] article about this woman. I don't know
[9:22] if you remember the story. This woman
[9:23] got on an airplane and she was flying to
[9:26] like South Africa and she's like, I'm
[9:28] flying over Africa. I hope I don't get
[9:30] AIDS. And then she logged off and it
[9:34] caused such a Twitter storm by the time
[9:36] she landed she had been fired, canceled,
[9:38] blah blah blah blah. And she apparently
[9:41] to her and her friends was trying to
[9:43] make a joke about racism
[9:46] saying she was trying to make a joke.
[9:48] She wasn't saying like oh like she she
[9:51] was about people that think that way. Do
[9:53] you know what I mean? And
[9:55] >> but it was a bad joke and poorly because
[9:58] that's what Twitter is. I mean give me a
[9:59] break. So there were kind of like
[10:02] reverberations from it. There was there
[10:04] was kind of a a squad with a lot of uh a
[10:07] lot of uh torches uh along the way. But
[10:09] I think you're right. I think you have
[10:11] to look at history of like these giant
[10:13] swings back and forth.
[10:15] >> Yeah. Like we had that and then we have
[10:16] Trump. We had Obama and Obama led to
[10:19] Trump. So many angry angry white men and
[10:22] racist people. Their reaction to having
[10:25] a black president is what led us down
[10:27] this road. So, like it is a longer lens.
[10:29] Like you look at, you know, this moment
[10:31] we're in is so ugly and just so uh
[10:34] dehumanizing.
[10:35] >> Yeah.
[10:36] >> Uh for so many people, you know, but
[10:39] it's back to the comics. You know, my
[10:41] issue with a lot of these guys is
[10:43] they're so busy defending themselves and
[10:45] the defending the words they use or the
[10:47] actions they take or oh, it's a joke.
[10:49] It's a joke. You can't say anything. You
[10:50] can't say anything. They're not taking
[10:52] into account all of what you just said.
[10:54] All of the people that are so
[10:56] disaffected by racism, including them,
[10:59] like they're affected and impacted by
[11:01] racist and racist beliefs and racist,
[11:03] they don't think they're a part of it
[11:05] because they have friends or they put
[11:06] black people up like this. I had an
[11:09] issue with some comic and he's like, I
[11:10] put trans people on stage all the time.
[11:12] I'm like, that that's great. You're not
[11:14] giving them a safe place to perform in.
[11:16] You know, that's not enough to just say,
[11:18] I know someone or I have a friend. Like
[11:21] that is the lamest argument you could
[11:23] possibly make. So it's like more white
[11:26] men standing up and actually talking
[11:28] about what the [ __ ] is going on and
[11:30] taking aside on behalf of women's
[11:32] rights, on behalf of trans LGBTQ
[11:35] communities, on behalf of any minority
[11:38] is what we're lacking.
[11:40] >> Or how about making a stand on anything?
[11:42] Like if you have a microphone that's
[11:44] that big, if you have a microphone that
[11:46] is so big that you're affecting tens or
[11:49] hundreds of millions of young people,
[11:51] especially young men, like to spend that
[11:55] time kind of taking shots at lowest
[11:57] common denominator, punching down
[12:00] >> or or just musing on like what kind of
[12:03] bear you'd want to wrestle. It's like
[12:05] it's not
[12:07] >> like that's how you're going to use your
[12:08] time. Not that you need to like be like,
[12:10] "Yeah, I'll I'll turn into Greta Dunberg
[12:12] or something like that, but like can
[12:15] there be some like some causes that are
[12:17] meaningful to you, whatever they are,
[12:20] >> uh, including the ones that you named.
[12:22] >> Um, and you know, use that as a as a as
[12:25] a force for good. This is where I think
[12:26] comedy's gotten a little off whack is
[12:29] there are very few comedians, Josh
[12:30] Johnson's one of them, who kind of uses
[12:32] their their microphone and their wit to
[12:35] kind of help make the world a better
[12:36] place and lead people there
[12:39] >> through both sides spplitting comedy and
[12:42] joy and serious conversation
[12:44] >> and humanity.
[12:45] >> Yeah.
[12:45] >> Like there there Yeah. Like you know,
[12:47] you sit around with those guys and they
[12:49] just want to talk about farting and
[12:50] burping and [ __ ] and eating [ __ ] and
[12:52] you're like, are you guys serious? A
[12:54] this is there's no there's no there's
[12:57] there you're not clever. There's no
[12:58] jokes. You're just being it's so mid.
[13:01] >> Yeah.
[13:02] >> Like male comics can be so mid. There's
[13:05] some really talented comics, but like
[13:07] you know there's John Molinis, there's
[13:09] uh Anthony Jesseleneck, that's a guy who
[13:11] writes jokes, you know, whether you like
[13:14] them or not, these are real people that
[13:16] actually aren't participating in that
[13:19] kind of gross culture. There's a a
[13:21] definite specific group of guys that are
[13:23] participating in this gross culture and
[13:25] want to take no responsibility for it.
[13:28] >> And it's depressing. Even the way they
[13:30] talk about women, it's like you guys are
[13:31] so gross and it's so antiquated. Like
[13:34] get the iPhone update. Get up to speed.
[13:36] You know what I mean? They need the
[13:38] [ __ ] iPhone update. Not on their
[13:39] phones, in their brains.
[13:41] >> Wasn't the guy who was the guy, the New
[13:42] Jersey guy. The who who
[13:44] >> Andrew Dice Clay.
[13:45] >> Yeah. What? Andrew Dice Clay did it
[13:47] already. You know what I mean? We don't
[13:48] need to re revisit and dice clay.
[13:51] >> It's just so they get rewarded for such
[13:53] mid behavior like their musings are
[13:56] important enough. It's like no, I'd
[13:58] rather have you have a strong underlying
[14:01] message of like human kindness,
[14:04] goodness, humanity or a [ __ ] joke.
[14:07] Right. A joke.
[14:08] >> Yeah. Do you think comedians have any
[14:10] kind of social responsibility or should
[14:12] they just be [ __ ] funny?
[14:14] >> I mean that's really up to each person
[14:16] individually. I do feel a sense of
[14:17] social responsibility. I like to use my
[14:19] platform to make sure people are aware
[14:21] of certain things that are going on. And
[14:23] I know that, you know, a lot of people
[14:24] have an issue with that. So, I try to be
[14:26] very discerning about when I do
[14:28] contribute because otherwise it's just
[14:30] noise. You know what I mean? Like, if
[14:32] you're constantly screaming and yelling,
[14:34] no one could ever hear you. So, it's
[14:36] I've learned that over time, that lesson
[14:38] about when to chime in and what to say
[14:40] and not and and how to say it, not to be
[14:43] screaming and not to be whining and not
[14:45] to be yelling, to be calm. Um, and you
[14:49] get your point across a lot, you know,
[14:50] more effectively.
[14:52] >> But [clears throat] I guess I don't want
[14:53] to say men will be men.
[14:56] >> There's there's a lot of like people
[14:58] worth mentioning that are good good
[14:59] people out there, but there's just not
[15:01] enough activism on behalf of white guys
[15:03] happening. And that's the situation. It
[15:06] feels like the death cough of white
[15:08] patriarchy right now,
[15:09] >> you know, like men holding on so tightly
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[18:01] >> what
[18:01] >> were you post picture pretty pictures
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[18:08] >> no it was like
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[18:34] in the Tumblr world. And in 4chan, 8chan
[18:36] was kind of like, we're going to use the
[18:38] nword as much as we want. we're going to
[18:40] we're going to live to offend and that's
[18:42] where we're going to get our kind of and
[18:44] then all of a sudden those two worlds
[18:46] kind of converged and connected on
[18:48] Twitter and on Instagram and in other
[18:50] places and and these two kind of petri
[18:53] dishes that had both been one had been
[18:55] extremely sensitive with lots of purity
[18:58] tests about liberalism and one had just
[19:01] been like just balls out flamethrower
[19:05] offensive gross racist and then they met
[19:08] and this is the this is the storm that
[19:10] we have.
[19:11] >> Yeah. It's like when you're so far right
[19:13] or so far left, those two parties end up
[19:15] meeting too.
[19:16] >> But I think the problem now and we're on
[19:19] the verge of the midterms right now and
[19:20] and it looks like the midterms are going
[19:22] to swing back to the political left. And
[19:24] what I always talk about is like, okay,
[19:25] great. That's great. And then what
[19:28] happens? Then we've got a deadlocked,
[19:30] you know, presidency in Congress and
[19:32] then that and then then there's going to
[19:34] be someone else elected and then in two
[19:35] years and four years it's going to swing
[19:37] this way and it's going to swing that
[19:38] way and it's going to swing this way.
[19:39] Like how can we have a conversation that
[19:41] is kind of above the swinging back and
[19:43] forth? Is it possible to have a
[19:45] conversation that kind of elevates
[19:49] kind of hey where are we folks? Do we
[19:51] really want to wait every two to four
[19:53] years to kind of have a slightly less
[19:56] corrupt candidate and then a slightly
[19:57] more corrupt candidate and just kind of
[19:59] just riding this pendulum?
[20:02] >> I just think so many people don't have
[20:03] time to have these conversations, you
[20:05] know? That's what's so sad about all of
[20:07] it. It's like people are working two or
[20:09] three jobs. Like the last thing they
[20:10] want to do at at the end of the day is
[20:11] sit down and [ __ ] deal with the
[20:13] problems that our country's created. You
[20:15] know, people are so scared of like the
[20:17] DSA party and it's like, well, look
[20:18] where capitalism got us. this is good
[20:21] that we have an oligarchy or
[20:22] plutoaucracy or however you want to
[20:24] frame this. This is a disaster. We have
[20:26] five men who are so hard up for power
[20:29] because nobody ever gave them a [ __ ]
[20:31] Like we're dealing with the it's just so
[20:33] basic. Yeah. You know, like we should
[20:35] look at places like Scandinavia, you
[20:37] know, and and look at people who are
[20:39] happy and like getting along well and
[20:41] not having protests in their streets.
[20:42] But I I don't you know it's a massive
[20:46] macro issue that we're you know
[20:49] unfortunately we have to get different
[20:51] leaders into positions of power and and
[20:54] this what's happening in America is I
[20:57] mean it's a shondaanda it's so bad for
[20:59] the world it's so bad for everybody and
[21:02] I mean I think that there will be I am a
[21:05] very hopeful person I really think
[21:08] there's going to be a reckoning after
[21:09] Trump and with these Republicans who
[21:11] have aided him in all of this everything
[21:14] he's done by plundering our government
[21:16] by plundering the taxpayers monies by by
[21:18] everything he's done to us our global
[21:20] standing I mean I think there is going
[21:22] to be some sort of reckoning where we're
[21:24] going to have to change a just even the
[21:27] money in politics like let let's let's
[21:30] make that a goal like to overturn
[21:32] Citizens United put somebody in the
[21:34] administration or who is going to bring
[21:36] that case back to the Supreme Court and
[21:38] overturn it $3 trillion for an election
[21:41] is what we're going to end up spending
[21:42] on this election.
[21:43] >> Oh my god.
[21:44] >> Something I think one trillion or I
[21:46] don't know, maybe it's whatever.
[21:48] >> It's an ungodly.
[21:50] >> We could be giving kids health care.
[21:52] Every single child could be covered in
[21:53] healthcare and you we're paying for why
[21:56] don't we have publicly funded elections?
[21:57] And this is my point is like if we're
[21:59] able to rise above this, I love the word
[22:02] reckoning because I think reckoning is
[22:04] not just like, oh, let's let's have at
[22:07] the corrupt fat cats, but it's kind of a
[22:09] national reckoning of like, guys, what
[22:11] are we doing?
[22:13] >> Like, why can't public service servants
[22:16] be serving the public? And let's elect
[22:18] public servants and let's elevate the
[22:21] conversation and because the writing's
[22:24] on the wall. I mean, with with our
[22:25] deficit, with climate change, with AI,
[22:28] um, and the state of the economy, it's
[22:30] it's hard for me to stay hopeful. And
[22:33] you have said to, uh, in quotes that
[22:36] you're you're not going to allow the
[22:38] chaos of contemporary America to affect
[22:41] your joy and you're going to still bring
[22:43] joy to your work. Can you talk a little
[22:46] bit about what keeps that motivated? I
[22:50] just know that I have a big audience and
[22:53] a big platform and I I can inject people
[22:56] with optimism and hopefulness and the
[22:59] other the opposite is useless. To be
[23:02] hopeless and to be, you know, to be sit
[23:04] around and be
[23:05] >> cynical or pessimistic.
[23:07] >> Yeah. And to just be kind of like
[23:08] rudderless or listless or desolatory and
[23:11] just be like nothing is ever going to
[23:13] change. I'm not gonna like that's the
[23:15] opposite. We need act. That's what they
[23:17] want. They want you to lie down and then
[23:19] they can run you over. So if you want to
[23:22] take on that attitude, then you're not
[23:23] for me. Like I am I want first of all I
[23:27] am an optimistic person by nature. I
[23:30] didn't tap into that until I was a
[23:31] little bit older because I had a lot of
[23:33] anger issues when I was younger. But
[23:34] then I realized my natural like my
[23:36] natural predisposition is actual it's
[23:39] humor and like you know it's funny and
[23:41] happy and like yeah let's get after it.
[23:44] Let's have a good time. Especially if
[23:45] we're all going to [ __ ] blow up soon.
[23:47] I'd like to have a good time up until
[23:49] then. [laughter] You know, I'm not going
[23:50] to be scared, scared, scared, scared,
[23:52] and then it ends. Like, what's the point
[23:54] of that, you know? My nervous system
[23:56] isn't going to so isn't that's not good.
[23:59] So, so what? So, what was it for? You
[24:01] know, at least spread joy and sunshine.
[24:03] And I love being a comedian now more
[24:05] than I ever have because it's like it's
[24:08] a job. It's a job to make people forget
[24:10] and give them a reprieve. I'm actually
[24:12] doing a job now. Whereas it was pretty
[24:15] much wouldn't be classified as that for
[24:17] a long time in my opinion.
[24:18] >> What was it before? It
[24:19] >> was just like easy. Like my life was
[24:21] easy because I I'm a comedian. I can do
[24:23] what I want. I can perform when I want.
[24:25] I can tour when I want. And now it's
[24:27] like no, I'm out here making sure people
[24:30] are leaving in a much better mood than
[24:32] when they came in. Yeah.
[24:33] >> And I don't talk about politics in my
[24:34] standup at all because it's not it's
[24:36] enough.
[24:37] >> And tell me this. Why do you still do
[24:38] standup? And I and I really mean that in
[24:40] the in the best possible way. Like you
[24:42] fly to like a casino in Omaha or a big
[24:46] theater in Minneapolis or whatever and
[24:49] you know you've got what a thousand two
[24:52] 3,000 people there and you do your I
[24:54] mean you make a nice chunk of change but
[24:56] you don't have to do that. I'm just I'm
[24:58] just curious.
[24:59] >> I like connectivity with people. I like
[25:01] connecting with people. I like I go out
[25:03] on stage after my shows.
[25:04] >> But all those flights, all those hotels.
[25:06] >> Yeah, that's I'm used to that. That's
[25:07] been I took six years off of standup.
[25:09] This is six. I took six years [laughter]
[25:12] I took six years off of standup and I
[25:15] was great because I realized what it was
[25:17] really what what it meant to me and also
[25:20] how to do it better and how to
[25:21] recalibrate myself. So I came back like
[25:24] a fine-tuned instrument if I do say so
[25:27] myself. Now I know what I'm doing and I
[25:29] know what I'm there for and I don't like
[25:32] and I'm and I don't do anything I don't
[25:34] want to do, you know. So that is like a
[25:36] huge luxury and yeah, you're right. I
[25:38] don't have to do it, but I want to do it
[25:41] because it is a great way to change
[25:43] someone's vibe and like that's what I'm
[25:46] about in the in this period of my life
[25:48] is just changing the vibe.
[25:50] >> That's beautiful. So you see your comedy
[25:51] as a service.
[25:52] >> I do. I do. Like bringing people
[25:55] together. Like I started this
[25:56] matchmaking service on my Instagram a
[25:59] few months ago. I was just I came home
[26:00] from this party and all these women were
[26:02] bitching about how terrible it is out
[26:04] there to meet a real guy and guys don't
[26:06] follow through with anything because of
[26:07] all these dating apps and there's such a
[26:09] swipe culture. So, I started this
[26:12] Instagram matchmaking. I was like, I'm
[26:13] going to start setting people up. I'm
[26:14] like, DM me if you're looking for
[26:16] someone. Send me a bio. Send me some
[26:18] pictures. Open up your Instagram account
[26:20] and I'll connect people. And I've
[26:22] connected six couples have been together
[26:24] for over six months. three lesbian
[26:27] couples, two straight couples, and one
[26:29] gay couple, male gay couple, and they've
[26:32] and two of them are moving in together
[26:34] already. Obviously, the lesbian couple
[26:35] because, you know, they can't help
[26:36] themselves. But, I mean, to me, that's
[26:39] providing another service.
[26:40] >> A Subaru,
[26:41] >> they probably already have a Subaru, but
[26:44] if they moved in that fast, I'm sure
[26:45] they already have a Subaru.
[26:47] Um, for me that's just another thing I
[26:49] can do because I have such a big
[26:51] platform and there's so many people
[26:52] following that I can connect people and
[26:54] like that's another nice thing like that
[26:56] I feel good about like okay you're
[26:58] bringing joy to people, you're bringing
[26:59] connectivity. So kind of just using
[27:02] whatever you've got to do the right
[27:04] thing is a good move right now.
[27:06] [laughter] You know, my dad passed away
[27:08] about six years ago, and I've told this
[27:09] story before, but I'm going to tell it
[27:10] again because I think about it all the
[27:12] time. And my dad and I fought a lot, a
[27:15] lot of problems, a lot of issues, a lot
[27:17] of them deep-seated.
[27:19] But here's one thing my dad did better
[27:22] than almost anyone I know. Every room he
[27:25] went into, he tried to make a better
[27:27] place. He would give a compliment. He
[27:29] would tell a joke. He would ask someone
[27:31] about their day. He would like introduce
[27:34] two people and start a conversation with
[27:36] them. He was always trying to better the
[27:40] situation. He didn't have any money. He
[27:42] didn't have any influence. Um, right.
[27:44] >> Other than when he would wear Dwight
[27:46] Shroo t-shirts around and people be
[27:48] like, "Oh, Dwight Shroo". He goes,
[27:49] "That's my son."
[27:51] >> But I love that because you don't need
[27:54] the kind of platform that you have
[27:56] >> to kind of make that kind of difference.
[27:58] Right.
[27:59] >> It's it's literally a mindset of like
[28:02] I'm going to go into my life in a
[28:04] proactive way and I'm going to better
[28:06] all of these different my church group,
[28:09] my school group, my kids soccer club, my
[28:12] you know my my D&D game, my my my
[28:16] business, whatever it is. I was at this
[28:18] like kind of it's a was a retreat sort
[28:21] of but it was for people who were
[28:23] grieving and and it was obviously
[28:26] already the tone of that is kind of low
[28:28] right you know you're grieving that's a
[28:30] low frequency or and you're just kind of
[28:32] everyone's sad and I went in support of
[28:34] a person so I went as a friend and I and
[28:38] there was a small it was like 15 people
[28:40] and I just went the first day and I
[28:42] realized like you know everyone is
[28:43] grieving together and you got to get
[28:44] that out that's important grief is
[28:45] important to get out and exhaust from
[28:47] your body, but there's also room for
[28:50] like, you know, so the second day I was
[28:52] like, "Okay, I'm going to since I'm part
[28:53] of this, like I'm just going to see if I
[28:55] could pick the vibe up one person at a
[28:56] time because you can still grieve, but
[28:58] in a group there's room for laugh, like
[29:00] let's create room space for laughter and
[29:02] space for being silly and like, you
[29:04] know, making comments that are like
[29:06] inappropriate, you know what I mean?
[29:08] Just lift it up a little bit, have a
[29:09] little levity."
[29:10] >> And um because I find in my own
[29:13] experience with grief, laughter is
[29:15] important. And so each day, like the
[29:18] first day I was like, I, you know, I
[29:19] befriended these two women and I was
[29:21] like kind of got into it with them and
[29:23] then their mood changed. And then the
[29:24] next day I was like, "All right, I'm
[29:25] going to go over to this group and and
[29:27] see if I can like light them up a little
[29:28] bit." And before you knew it, that's
[29:31] exactly what happened. Like you're
[29:32] shifting the energy from one person to
[29:34] another, like a soul boom. You're
[29:37] shifting it and you're and you're giving
[29:38] it to someone and then they're taking it
[29:40] and they're spreading it. And so it
[29:42] doesn't matter which person that's
[29:43] coming from. It just matters that you're
[29:45] constantly, not constantly, it's
[29:47] impossible to do it constantly, but to
[29:49] be consciously aware of your power as a
[29:51] human being. It doesn't just belong to
[29:53] one of us, it belongs to all of us.
[29:55] >> It's energy. So, we have the opportunity
[29:58] to tap into like our fierce great energy
[30:01] and spread that around and like that's a
[30:04] very powerful thing to do.
[30:05] >> I love that fierce great energy. Is
[30:08] there I'm going to get really hokey
[30:09] right now. Is there is there God in
[30:11] that?
[30:12] >> There's a source. that fierce great
[30:14] energy you're talking about.
[30:15] >> There's something I don't know if it's
[30:16] God or if it's if it's people, you know,
[30:19] like I think about the people who have
[30:22] died in my life and I just always think
[30:24] of them as my people up there. Yeah.
[30:26] >> Like taking care of things and when I
[30:28] when I get quiet, I've learned to like
[30:30] ask for guidance from those people. I
[30:33] don't know how many there are. If it's
[30:34] just I know
[30:36] >> I did the same thing this morning. I did
[30:38] the exact same thing.
[30:39] >> Oh my god. I did it this morning. Wow. I
[30:41] wonder if we were doing it at the same
[30:42] time.
[30:44] >> I went to this place called Hoffman.
[30:45] Have you heard of Hoffman? Yes.
[30:47] >> And they they do that. It's it's a great
[30:48] just therapy, like standard good therapy
[30:51] stuff, processing parental stuff and
[30:53] child stuff and, you know, just really
[30:56] straight up psychology. And it has this
[30:58] little compartment that is about spirit,
[31:02] spirit guides, and being open to what
[31:04] spirit tells you and leads you. And you
[31:06] can make that God or you can make it
[31:07] Jesus or angels or or whatever or people
[31:10] that have passed that uh are there for
[31:13] us to draw on. Um and it sounds
[31:16] incredibly like a Canyon. But
[31:19] >> we don't even have to say that anymore
[31:21] because I used to go and frame that. You
[31:23] know, when I'd say it, I'd be like, "All
[31:24] right, go with me here." But [ __ ] that.
[31:26] It's true. If you believe it, if you
[31:28] want to believe in that, life is better.
[31:30] So, I'm going to choose to believe that
[31:31] I can still talk to my mother. I feel
[31:33] her presence around me a lot. My
[31:35] brother's dead. I feel his presence
[31:36] around me. Every time I walk out on
[31:38] stage, I look up and I see them like
[31:40] these I visualize them like these two
[31:42] little dancing nymphs, you know,
[31:44] [laughter] like kind of in the ceiling
[31:45] of whatever theater I'm in. And and I
[31:48] >> I love that unapologetic nature that you
[31:51] have and that you bring to everything
[31:52] that you do because like you said right
[31:54] now, like why aren't we apologizing for
[31:56] that?
[31:56] >> Yeah. It's like we have to we have to
[31:58] contextualize, well, I'm from Tanga,
[32:00] Kenya, or I've lived in LA. I did that a
[32:02] lot, but I'm not doing that anymore
[32:03] because we don't know anything. So,
[32:06] choose to figure out what you believe
[32:07] in. You know what I mean? I'm going to
[32:09] believe it.
[32:10] >> That's helpful to me.
[32:11] >> Yeah.
[32:12] >> And it's quite nice to think that your
[32:14] the loved ones are accessible to you.
[32:16] And I've seen too much evidence that
[32:18] they are.
[32:19] >> You had a lot of death early on. Your
[32:21] brother died when you were you were six
[32:23] or nine. Okay. And
[32:25] >> and your mom dealt for 15 years with
[32:28] breast cancer or something like that. So
[32:31] sickness, death,
[32:32] >> abandonment,
[32:33] >> this has been an underbelly of a lot of
[32:37] what you dealt with. A lot of it
[32:40] >> when you were a kid, but a lot of it
[32:42] when you were at the height of your
[32:43] fame.
[32:44] >> Yeah.
[32:44] >> So
[32:44] >> it creeps up on you.
[32:45] >> Can you talk a little bit about that?
[32:47] >> Yeah.
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[34:56] >> It it was a good tool for me for many
[34:59] many years. The anger that I had like
[35:01] the suppressed anger even though it it
[35:04] started to kind of come out. It was it
[35:06] was I I didn't want to I never really
[35:08] dealt with my brother. But so it when I
[35:10] was young I didn't deal with it because
[35:12] my parents nobody knew how to deal with
[35:13] that. they weren't going to therapy. But
[35:15] when I got,
[35:17] you know, I didn't like the subject that
[35:19] my brother died. That didn't I didn't
[35:21] like the number that our family was. We
[35:23] were six and then it was like caved in.
[35:26] Do you know what I mean? Like the way I
[35:27] thought about in my head, I was like,
[35:29] "Something's off. Our family isn't
[35:30] robust. We're missing something. We're
[35:32] missing something." And I couldn't face
[35:34] that. So instead, I just distracted and
[35:37] became more of who I was probably going
[35:39] to be in the first place, but with a lot
[35:42] more drive because I was like, "Let's
[35:44] get to the next part of my life cuz this
[35:46] [ __ ] sucks." You know? I wanted to
[35:48] graduate. I
[35:49] >> So that's interesting because I was
[35:51] listening to your audio book or your new
[35:52] book, which are just filled with
[35:54] hysterical, fantastical stories of
[35:57] growing up and they're just [ __ ]
[35:59] hysterical. But I can totally see that
[36:01] now. You're talking about cuz you tell a
[36:03] lot of stories like your hard lemonade
[36:05] stand and your 10-year-old Chelsea who
[36:08] was selling booze fil lemonade and
[36:12] making thousands of dollars so she could
[36:13] fly first class as kind of a response to
[36:16] the grief of the loss of your brother to
[36:17] kind of like I'm going to be myself but
[36:19] times a thousand.
[36:20] >> Yeah. Like you're not going to tell me
[36:22] what to do. You're not going to tell me
[36:23] to talk about my brother because for a
[36:24] while they were like oh she's
[36:26] something's wrong. She won't talk about
[36:27] him. I'm like no I won't talk about him.
[36:28] I'm f in fact I'm busy starting my own
[36:30] vodka lemonade business like everything
[36:33] was a kind of distraction but it be I
[36:35] became more entrenched in the who I was
[36:38] and then it worked for me it made me
[36:40] really successful and then it came to a
[36:43] point where it just was it wasn't my
[36:47] anger got calibrated to a point
[36:50] >> when was this
[36:51] >> this was after I had left Chelsea lately
[36:53] and I started working at Netflix and I
[36:56] did a year of documentaries for them and
[36:58] I did my talk show and Trump was elected
[37:00] so I had something to be angry about so
[37:03] I could hang my anger on that and
[37:06] pretend that that was what I was really
[37:08] so mad about for the last 20 years of my
[37:12] life. You know what I mean? So it and
[37:14] until I met with a psychiatrist Dan
[37:17] Seagull who worked with me and explained
[37:18] all that to me, I didn't know that.
[37:20] >> I'm trying to get him on this show.
[37:22] >> Oh, he'll come on. He's got a new book
[37:23] coming out.
[37:24] >> I know. I We just have to arrange it.
[37:26] >> Oh yeah. He's the best.
[37:27] >> He's incredible. I've read a bunch of
[37:28] his books.
[37:29] >> He's written a bunch of books, but he
[37:30] has a brand new book out that he just
[37:32] sent me because he talks about our
[37:33] relationship in it a little bit. Um
[37:35] because I've spoken about him in my
[37:37] books. Um but he was, you know, he just
[37:39] unlocked
[37:40] >> you saw him as a therapist.
[37:41] >> Yeah. For like two years and and he
[37:44] unlocked my whole my whole, you know,
[37:47] and that was unpleasant. That's not fun
[37:49] at all. And it's not fun to be around a
[37:52] person that's going through that because
[37:53] I was having an identity crisis on top
[37:55] of it because I'm like, well, if I'm not
[37:56] this person, who the [ __ ] am I? And when
[37:59] you say not this person, not the angry,
[38:01] >> if I'm not this anger, this person who
[38:03] I've always identified with who's going
[38:05] to stand up for something and but you
[38:07] know, like more sanctimonious than real
[38:10] because I did stand up for things, but I
[38:12] was still just always trying to show
[38:15] everybody the right way to do things or
[38:18] I just had this energy that was very un
[38:21] uh it was unsustainable. And so he
[38:23] really kind of ripped me open and was
[38:26] like here like he let me
[38:29] >> do my thing blah blah blah blah blah
[38:30] blah blah pretending like I didn't have
[38:32] any major issues. I just wanted to
[38:34] sharpen some skills. I'm like I remember
[38:37] my first session I was like I just need
[38:40] to work on my patience. I was like
[38:41] people are really stupid and I'm really
[38:43] impatient and and he's like well tell me
[38:46] about your childhood. And I was like
[38:48] that's not relevant to this
[38:49] conversation. [laughter]
[38:50] And he was like what? And then, you
[38:53] know, weeks went by and eventually he he
[38:56] unwrapped me and I was like, "Oh, wow."
[38:59] I mean, he's very good at his job. And
[39:01] he's still my therapist. I don't really
[39:02] go very often, but when I do have an
[39:04] issue or I need, you know, someone to
[39:06] advise me on tricky, you know, something
[39:09] in a relationship or a circumstance, I
[39:12] always go to him and I always end up
[39:13] apologizing whether it's been my fault
[39:15] or not because that's one of the great
[39:17] things he's taught me is like if you
[39:19] know that you're right, then you should
[39:21] have no problem apologizing, which is
[39:24] kind of true and hard to do when you're
[39:26] not used to apologizing.
[39:27] >> Very hard to do.
[39:28] >> Yeah.
[39:28] >> Yeah. Yeah.
[39:29] >> Yeah. I was thinking a lot about as I
[39:33] was getting ready for this conversation
[39:34] about uh Chelsea lately and how great
[39:38] that show was and I really always felt
[39:41] like you never got the respect that you
[39:43] deserved for creating that show and
[39:47] being like a woman at the forefront of
[39:49] comedy talk,
[39:51] >> you know, at a totally male-dominated
[39:54] >> field. And uh how do you look back on
[39:58] that experience?
[40:00] >> I fondly uh I I loved that experience
[40:04] and when I was done with it, I was done
[40:06] with it, you know, and that's very me. I
[40:08] don't have time to like dotle if I've
[40:10] lost interest with regard to almost
[40:12] anything. But people have to understand
[40:14] at the time, you know, there was
[40:15] Letterman and there was Leno and there
[40:17] and even at late night, you know,
[40:19] there's there's John Stewart and there's
[40:21] this and that and then in the middle of
[40:22] that is a brash, ballsy blonde woman
[40:28] who's not daytime talk,
[40:31] >> funny as [ __ ] and at the cutting edge
[40:33] of comedy, you know, right smack in the
[40:35] middle of this kind of male-dominated
[40:37] world. And you weren't there to sell
[40:38] blenders or make brownies. Nothing wrong
[40:40] with selling blenders and making
[40:41] brownies, but you were you were there
[40:43] for comedy, but also to bring people
[40:45] together. It was it was amazing. It was
[40:47] remarkable.
[40:48] >> Yeah, thank you. It was it was really
[40:50] Especially looking back on it, it's more
[40:52] impactful now for me than it was at the
[40:53] time because when you're in it, you're
[40:55] not really thinking about the impact
[40:56] you're having. But then to see all the
[40:57] people from that show blow up and become
[40:59] stars and and to see how uh what an
[41:03] egalitarian
[41:05] that show was like it was it was it was
[41:07] a display of e egalitarianism. It was
[41:10] everyone you know whether you were
[41:12] trans, gay, white, black, Mexican, like
[41:14] you were welcome and the the you know
[41:16] the more off-white you were the better
[41:18] you know like let's bring everyone
[41:20] together. And so I loved that show and
[41:22] when I look back at it now I see the
[41:23] impact more than I did then. But in
[41:26] terms of respect, I mean, going around
[41:28] and trying to get respect isn't really
[41:30] the way to get it. So, that wasn't at
[41:33] top of mind. I've experienced a lot of
[41:36] disrespect from people in similar
[41:39] positions that I was in or that were
[41:42] competitors to me. I've experienced a
[41:44] lot more disrespect since that show from
[41:46] men in those positions than I had than I
[41:49] did during that time, which is
[41:50] interesting to me.
[41:51] >> Wow.
[41:52] >> So, there's a definite
[41:53] >> You're saying after the show?
[41:54] >> Yeah. In terms of me as a person, me as
[41:57] a performer, I have a lot of stories of
[41:59] which I won't share because it's
[42:01] pointless, but just the men's reactions
[42:04] to the success of that is very
[42:07] surprising and very telling. And a lot
[42:10] of these guys and and it's again, it's
[42:12] back to the situation we were talking
[42:13] about. A lot of these guys think they're
[42:14] with it and that they support women and
[42:16] that they're champions of that. But yet
[42:20] when it comes to me there has been a lot
[42:22] of you know I' I've seen a lot of things
[42:24] that go I've seen things they don't know
[42:26] that I've seen I've heard conversations
[42:27] they don't know that I've heard I'm sure
[42:29] you could have said that about anybody
[42:30] you know but yeah there's a definite
[42:32] lack of respect among like my
[42:34] compatriots regarding that it's like
[42:36] >> but I think if you're looking at
[42:38] television over the last like let's say
[42:41] 40 years and you're looking at comedy
[42:44] and television and you're charting it
[42:46] and you're looking at like oh here's
[42:48] Roseanne and and here's where Ellen sits
[42:50] and here's the sitcoms and here's the
[42:53] the great rise of the sitcoms and the
[42:55] decline in the sitcoms and here's
[42:57] standup and blah blah blah blah blah
[42:58] like Chelsea lately sits right in the
[43:01] middle of that and is an important
[43:03] marker at looking at comedy and it's not
[43:07] really given that credence that's my
[43:08] point
[43:10] >> and I feel like in the cultural
[43:11] conversation that should be given more
[43:14] >> yeah yeah you're probably right yeah
[43:16] thank you
[43:17] >> yeah What are three things women should
[43:19] stop apologizing for?
[43:22] [sighs]
[43:24] >> Being emotional
[43:27] >> always whenever someone I'm sorry, I'm
[43:28] sorry or interrupting I'm sorry. I'm
[43:30] sorry. Women are saying I'm sorry about
[43:32] 50,000 times a day. And um and and
[43:36] taking up space uh you know, women like
[43:40] have every right to be here. And what
[43:42] we're learning is that we're a lot
[43:44] smarter than most men. So,
[43:47] >> I would agree with that.
[43:48] >> So, it's like go with that knowledge.
[43:50] Like, you know, we're being fed a whole
[43:52] bunch of nonsense about ourselves. So,
[43:54] it's up to you to go in and find out how
[43:56] [ __ ] smart you are. I didn't know how
[43:58] smart I was for a long time. And then I
[44:00] was like, "Wow,
[44:02] >> you I I found out I was smarter than I
[44:03] thought I was. Not with regard to
[44:06] learning Spanish, but with regard to
[44:07] learning a lot of things.
[44:09] >> I have an intense curiosity about
[44:10] things. I read books all the time. I'm
[44:12] constantly looking for ways to challenge
[44:15] myself. Like we all are. Um and the more
[44:19] open you become and the less contracted
[44:21] you are about your belief system, the
[44:24] more gifts come your way. You know, the
[44:26] more magnetism that you employ or
[44:28] create.
[44:29] >> My wife uh who I think you met way way
[44:33] back in the day
[44:34] >> uh holiday close. Okay. I knew it was
[44:37] along those lines.
[44:38] >> Yeah, it was. Yeah.
[44:38] >> You taught me about Bahigh. You were the
[44:40] first person who taught me what Bahigh
[44:42] religion was.
[44:43] >> Yeah.
[44:43] >> Yeah.
[44:43] >> Yeah.
[44:44] >> Yeah. Okay. Your wife Holiday,
[44:46] >> she just got her shaman's license.
[44:48] >> Oh, really?
[44:49] >> Yeah.
[44:50] >> Oh, for
[44:51] >> for She studied I mean that's what we
[44:54] joke about shaman's license, but she's
[44:56] studying like indigenous healing,
[44:58] intuitive healing [clears throat]
[45:00] that's very much about like
[45:02] >> feminine kind of spiritual intuition.
[45:07] Uh,
[45:08] >> I have this book. I just ritual. I'm
[45:10] gonna send her this book as soon. It's
[45:11] called Season of the Witch, and I'm
[45:12] going to get it to you later today. I'm
[45:14] gonna get you. She needs to read it.
[45:15] It's all about that. It's a brand new
[45:17] book. It just came out. I just had the
[45:18] author on my podcast. Um, but I [ __ ]
[45:21] love that. We all need to lean into our
[45:23] witchiness. We Yeah, we've been told
[45:25] witches witchiness is bad. That it's
[45:27] bad, you know, because we have an
[45:29] intuition.
[45:30] >> Her intuition is off the charts. I mean,
[45:32] it's crazy.
[45:33] >> Like what? Give me an example. Uh, I'll
[45:36] start working with someone on a project
[45:38] and she'll be like, "No, not that
[45:41] person." She will just know and I'll be
[45:42] like, "You're crazy. Look, they do this
[45:44] and this and this." And sure enough,
[45:47] >> three years later, there's a lawsuit and
[45:50] >> I didn't I just completely missed it.
[45:52] And she picks up on some deep inner
[45:55] vibes.
[45:56] >> Yeah. Yeah. And that's a that's a skill
[45:57] set that you have to really hone and
[46:00] focus on, you know, like
[46:02] >> so she sounds like someone who's worked
[46:03] at it. Yeah, I could see you doing that.
[46:05] I could see you getting your shaman's
[46:07] license.
[46:07] >> Yeah, I like helping people. I like
[46:09] giving people LSD and different types of
[46:12] drugs. Also, when I find something
[46:13] helpful, [laughter]
[46:14] I always share it. Like,
[46:15] >> wait. Okay. Wait, what? How did we get
[46:17] there? Well, just because I was thinking
[46:19] about I love giving people.
[46:20] >> I was thinking about shaman and being a
[46:22] medicine woman and intuition. Like, I
[46:25] have all this. Are you talking about
[46:26] psychedelic like experiences and
[46:29] >> I get lots of good drugs sent to me and
[46:31] I and I have a house in Canada for
[46:33] winter and uh they have all these
[46:35] >> That's your drug house?
[46:36] >> Yeah, that's my drug house for sure.
[46:37] They have all all these things.
[46:38] >> In Spain, it's your Spanish language
[46:39] house. Canada's [laughter] drugs.
[46:42] >> Exactly.
[46:43] >> Mandville's for I guess fires.
[46:45] >> Yeah. And uh we but I have a lot of
[46:49] access to really good medicine up there
[46:51] because because so many people and first
[46:54] of all it's legal in Canada and a lot of
[46:55] my therapist friends do journeys with
[46:58] the medicine with LSD. It's all micro
[47:00] dose. You know it's not like you're
[47:01] going on a trip trip or you can if you
[47:03] want but that's not what I but I love to
[47:05] give out LSD. I love to give out
[47:08] mushrooms. I love to give out edibles.
[47:10] Anything that's just going to make you
[47:11] >> Are we going to get arrested for this
[47:13] conversation?
[47:13] >> No. I've been talking about this
[47:14] publicly for years and I'm still walking
[47:16] in my car at the end of this interview.
[47:18] >> Yeah.
[47:18] >> So, and you're just a laying witness to
[47:20] it. But, but that's a form of medicine.
[47:23] >> Gotcha.
[47:23] >> You know, I feel like it's a form of
[47:25] medicine anyway.
[47:26] >> I got into a lot of trouble with drugs
[47:27] and alcohol in my 20s. I just don't feel
[47:30] like I can do that stuff.
[47:31] >> But you're talking about bad drugs,
[47:33] right? Like coke and stuff.
[47:35] >> Coke is plant medicine, babe.
[47:37] >> Yeah. But cocaine
[47:38] >> cut up from a leaf comes grows on a
[47:40] tree.
[47:41] >> Yeah. But something it's very addictive.
[47:44] >> The sacred,
[47:45] >> right?
[47:46] >> Yeah. I've known people addicted to I
[47:48] know I knew a kid who blew out his mind
[47:50] >> on LSD.
[47:50] >> I micro doing LSD. Really f got really
[47:55] and Paul Simon in his autobiography
[47:57] talks about getting addicted to Iwasa
[48:00] that he was secretly he just started
[48:03] doing more and more and he was like
[48:04] secretly using it like all the time. And
[48:07] so I mean I just think that if you're if
[48:09] you're wired for addiction, you just got
[48:10] to be super super careful.
[48:11] >> Yeah, I guess that's maybe not. I guess
[48:13] that's true. That's definitely true. I
[48:14] don't want to like, you know, I don't
[48:15] want to pretend that that that's not an
[48:17] issue for people. Addiction is a serious
[48:18] issue for people. It's not an issue of
[48:20] mine. I don't have a problem with that
[48:22] kind of stuff thankfully. But I do find
[48:25] that a lot of people just need a little
[48:27] bit of medicine to be a better person
[48:29] and to calm down. Thanks, Mary Poppins.
[48:31] >> Quiet down those thoughts, the negative
[48:33] thoughts.
[48:34] >> Okay.
[48:35] >> That stuff. And it just kind of makes
[48:37] you see things in a more beautiful way.
[48:40] >> Can you do that without medicine?
[48:42] >> I suppose you could, but that would take
[48:43] a really long time.
[48:44] >> It's meditation. Yeah. And it does take
[48:46] a long time.
[48:46] >> It takes a long time to accumulate. Then
[48:48] enough. You wanted therapy in six weeks.
[48:50] And you want medication.
[48:52] >> I want sometimes I see like I saw this
[48:54] guy skiing in Whistler once that he the
[48:55] way he was talking to his kids. He had
[48:57] no patience. He wasn't happy being
[48:58] there. I saw his wife and I was like and
[49:01] she was so exhausted by her husband and
[49:03] his negativity.
[49:04] >> She [clears throat] slipped her a tab of
[49:04] LSD. No, I slipped him. I said, "Hey,
[49:06] sir, you should put this under your
[49:08] tongue." And I swear in like an hour,
[49:10] you're going to be in a much better
[49:11] mood. And he was. And I ran.
[49:14] >> He took He took Yeah. She said, "Please
[49:16] do something." He's like, "I'm I'm at my
[49:18] wit's end." I go, "This is medicine." I
[49:19] go, "You're just going to be in a good
[49:20] mood. You're not going to lose the plot.
[49:22] It's just going to make you more
[49:23] patient.
[49:23] >> I want to slow this down. You're skiing
[49:25] at Whistler. You see a grumpy mean dad."
[49:29] >> You come up to him. He's like, "Oh,
[49:30] Chelsea Handler." Whoa. Yeah.
[49:32] >> I'm going to need you to take a tab of
[49:34] >> LSD. That's exact
[49:38] >> yellow window or whatever. And he's down
[49:41] and his light he's like he's skiing on
[49:43] dandelions and and unicorns.
[49:46] >> He just was in a much better mood and he
[49:48] was able to appreciate the beauty of the
[49:50] mountains and the trees. Yeah. Instead
[49:52] of focusing on the minutiae and the kids
[49:54] and just letting it go. I mean, do you
[49:56] know how many people could tell you I
[49:58] mean, there are hundreds there are
[49:59] thousands of people in this world that
[50:00] could tell you a story about me giving
[50:02] them LSD or MDMA or
[50:04] >> There's thousands of people you've given
[50:06] LSD to my
[50:08] >> So, when people come up to you at the
[50:11] airport
[50:11] >> and they do they come up be like, "Give
[50:13] me give me your best stuff."
[50:14] >> Well, I don't usually travel with it,
[50:16] but I mean
[50:17] >> that's tough.
[50:18] >> Yeah. It's hard to travel with,
[50:20] [laughter]
[50:20] >> especially when I talk so publicly about
[50:22] it. You know what I mean?
[50:23] >> Hysterical. Have you ever done Iawaska?
[50:27] >> I don't do that stuff. I don't. Yeah, I
[50:29] don't do that stuff. Is
[50:29] >> she is holiday training to do Iaska with
[50:32] people or
[50:33] >> she is not necessarily, but I think she
[50:36] she might be open to something like
[50:38] that.
[50:38] >> I don't know. When my wife I think my
[50:41] wife might be open to some kind of like
[50:43] medicine, plant medicine journey, you
[50:46] know.
[50:46] >> She's just into being a shaman.
[50:48] >> Yeah. She's into healing people and
[50:50] intuiting
[50:51] >> what's going on in their with their
[50:53] spirit lives and their past lives and
[50:57] who's speaking to them and through them
[50:59] and what's going on in their body. I I
[51:01] don't even know. She hasn't done it to
[51:02] me yet. I keep asking her to align my
[51:04] chakras and she hasn't.
[51:06] >> That must be a really nice benefit. I
[51:08] mean to your marriage.
[51:09] >> Well, yeah. But
[51:11] >> you have all these I mean to have
[51:12] someone like that right next door to
[51:14] you. I mean literally, you know, not
[51:16] next door to you. I mean, next to you,
[51:19] that's a huge advantage for you.
[51:21] >> I admire my wife so much, and I'm not
[51:23] saying this for brownie points. She
[51:25] started studying Tai Chi about 10 or 12
[51:27] years ago. And then they were doing a
[51:30] Tai Chi trip to Wuang Mountain in
[51:32] central China, which is where it began.
[51:35] Tai Chi and Kung Fu began on this
[51:38] mountain with these in these
[51:39] monasteries. And she went there and it's
[51:42] in the middle of nowhere, China. And
[51:45] it's not like fancy airport China. It's
[51:47] like the middle of nowhere, China. And
[51:48] you have to walk everywhere up thousands
[51:50] of steps. And they're getting up at 5:00
[51:52] a.m. for the hour and a half meditation.
[51:54] And then they're doing Tai Chi all day.
[51:56] And then they're walking up thousands of
[51:58] steps to various monasteries and stuff
[52:00] like that. And every week she's out
[52:02] there just
[52:04] >> doing her doing her thing. It's
[52:06] absolutely It's absolutely nuts.
[52:09] >> Yeah, I like that.
[52:10] >> I'm watching the NFL. I'm looking out
[52:11] the window and she's [laughter] like
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[52:25] You walk this line between kind of
[52:27] fearless humor
[52:29] and you don't get cruel. But some people
[52:33] that blur that line between fearless and
[52:36] cruel. Do you know what I mean? They
[52:37] they cross a line and it and it starts
[52:39] to fearless becomes kind of mean.
[52:42] >> How do you how do you how do you walk
[52:44] that line?
[52:45] Well, I mean, I think that's easy
[52:47] because cruelty is an outward act
[52:50] whereas fearless is an inward act. Like
[52:53] fearlessness is me
[52:56] telling me being like I'm very open,
[52:59] right? Open-minded. I love drugs. I love
[53:01] experimentation. I love travel. I love
[53:03] different kinds of people. Like if you
[53:04] say, "We're going on an adventure
[53:06] tomorrow. I'm not telling you anything
[53:07] about it." Da da da. I'll be like, "I'm
[53:09] down. I'll go." But and that's kind of
[53:13] being fearless. That's a sense of being
[53:14] fearless. Like I have a freedom or devi
[53:17] like I like adventure. I like newness. I
[53:20] like I want to hang out with all the
[53:23] people. You know what I mean? Not just
[53:24] the people that are like me. I want to
[53:26] hang out with people I don't know that
[53:28] I've never met that I can't even
[53:29] communicate with in their own language.
[53:30] I I want to go down that road. So I
[53:33] think the fearlessness is just an
[53:34] inherent part of my personality that
[53:36] people think I you know I I hear that
[53:39] quite often. I don't feel fearless. I
[53:41] feel free. I feel very free as a person,
[53:43] as a woman especially. And like I want
[53:46] every woman to feel that, you know, I
[53:47] don't feel like I have to do anything I
[53:49] don't want to do or I don't feel
[53:50] tethered to anything. I don't feel guilt
[53:53] about stuff.
[53:54] >> But I I I'm afraid to speak out about
[53:56] some things that I believe in and maybe
[53:59] take on some people in a in a direct
[54:01] way. You don't seem afraid about that at
[54:03] all.
[54:03] >> Well, back because I've been that's
[54:05] experience. I mean, I've been dealing
[54:07] with blowback in my career since I
[54:08] started talking. M
[54:10] >> men, you know, a lot of men don't like
[54:12] me and I've heard a lot about it,
[54:14] >> so I'm used to it and I it like it
[54:18] doesn't
[54:18] >> it's that inherent hypocrisy that a man
[54:20] tells a dick joke, they're cool. And a
[54:23] woman tells a dick joke and she's a
[54:25] [ __ ]
[54:25] >> She's a [ __ ] And then if she
[54:27] [clears throat] talks about telling a
[54:28] dick joke and being being called a
[54:30] [ __ ] then she's whining.
[54:32] >> It's like, okay, okay, whatever. But
[54:35] those are people those those aren't
[54:36] those people aren't my problem. You
[54:38] know, cruelty is going after somebody
[54:42] who can't stand back up for themselves.
[54:45] Cruelty [clears throat] is making fun of
[54:47] people unnecessarily. Like
[54:49] >> the whole idea of becoming standup comic
[54:51] is self-examination and making fun of
[54:54] yourself and your observations. Those
[54:56] observations don't have to be cruel.
[54:58] They can be a reflection of your
[55:00] narrow-mindedness. You know, your your
[55:02] the cruelty is an outward act that you
[55:05] just don't have to you don't have to be
[55:07] cruel. It's so easy not to be cruel.
[55:10] >> So, here's something that freaked me out
[55:12] about you. Your dad was Jewish. You were
[55:14] raised pretty much Jewish, used car
[55:17] salesman. His wife, your mom, was
[55:20] Mormon.
[55:21] >> And then her grandfather was a Nazi.
[55:26] >> He served in the Yes. German army. So
[55:29] then
[55:30] >> if it walks like a dog. But here's what
[55:32] I want to say, and I will I only I would
[55:34] only defend him because I do think my
[55:36] grandmother was Nazi, but she was
[55:39] [laughter] she was a little bit more
[55:40] hateful. Although my whole family would
[55:41] be like, "How could you say such a
[55:43] thing?" Um, my grandfather, you know, a
[55:46] lot of those men, he was a P, so he
[55:48] served in the war for like, you know, a
[55:50] little bit and then he was taken uh
[55:52] taken and back to America actually. And
[55:54] I did this show, who do you think you
[55:56] are? And they were like, you know, there
[55:57] were the red shirts and they're taking
[55:58] us through all this history. and like
[56:00] your grandfather is a f was a Nazi and d
[56:03] and and when they explain it to you, you
[56:07] get a better understanding of what was
[56:09] happening in terms of like conscription
[56:11] in Germany. You know, if you were a
[56:12] German man, you were going to be in the
[56:14] war whether you wanted to or not. No
[56:16] matter what you believe, your family was
[56:18] going to murder you or your family would
[56:19] be murdered if you resisted. There were
[56:21] going to be, you know, so I get it. I
[56:23] get it. Do I think my father was like at
[56:26] the forefront of my grandfather at the
[56:27] forefront of the Nazi movement? No. like
[56:29] not at all. He was a gentle, loving man
[56:31] who said he who who who told us that he
[56:34] tried very specifically to get captured
[56:36] in in the war because they didn't want
[56:38] to serve. He said his whole like uh I
[56:41] don't know what it's called,
[56:41] >> platoon or troop like half of them were
[56:43] like what are we doing here? This is
[56:45] awful. You know, he said it wasn't like
[56:47] very he said it wasn't uncommon to not
[56:49] be in, you know, wanting to serve. But
[56:52] yeah, so my mom and dad aloped in New
[56:55] Jersey and my mom had met my dad at a
[56:57] ski store and he came in asking for size
[57:01] 12 socks. He didn't have size 12 feet,
[57:04] so he was obviously just trying to turn
[57:06] on someone, which is exactly something
[57:09] my father would do. And then
[57:12] >> so he was kind of making a dick joke by
[57:14] buying socks.
[57:15] >> Yeah. Like I need size 12 socks because
[57:17] I'm packing some heat
[57:18] >> and and then my mom
[57:20] >> and she fell for it. Yeah. Well, she
[57:22] came back the next year. She went back
[57:23] to Germany. She was here for the summer
[57:24] working. And then she came back from
[57:27] Germany a year later to visit him. And
[57:29] we have the original ship to shore of
[57:31] him proposing to her saying, "Rita," he
[57:33] used to call her Rita, "when you land, I
[57:35] would love for us to get married." And
[57:38] yeah, and they did. And they got
[57:39] married. And then we were my mom, my dad
[57:41] was like, "Listen, if you're a Mormon,
[57:42] like keep that on the DL. And I want to
[57:45] raise my kids Jewish. My kids are going
[57:46] to Hebrew school. I was raised Jewish."
[57:48] And my mom said, "Sure." How does a
[57:50] Mormon fit in to this?
[57:52] >> There's Mormon contingencies all over
[57:53] the world. So in Germany after the war,
[57:55] lots of people came, you know, the
[57:57] Mormons came through and picked up a
[57:59] bunch of Mormon followers. They were
[58:00] like, "You want to follow this
[58:02] religion?" And they were like, "Yeah, we
[58:04] do." So I didn't find out my mom wasn't
[58:07] Jewish until I was until my brother died
[58:09] because she he had to be buried in a
[58:12] Jewish cemetery and you can't be a
[58:14] non-Jew buried in a Jewish cemetery. So
[58:16] my dad when my brother died unexpectedly
[58:19] bought a plot for four people. So he, my
[58:23] mother, and my brother and then I don't
[58:25] know who the other person was, Elijah I
[58:26] guess, to be buried next to each other.
[58:29] And my rabbi was there and my rabbi
[58:31] said, "Semir, your mother, your Rita
[58:34] can't be buried in a Jewish cemetery.
[58:35] She's not Jewish." And that was the
[58:37] first I had ever heard about my mom not
[58:39] being Jewish. We went to synagogue on
[58:41] Friday nights together. She got up and
[58:43] read Hebrew with us. Like,
[58:45] >> but did she look like a Nazi Shixa?
[58:47] >> No, she didn't look like a Nazi. My mom
[58:49] would never be a Nazi. She had nothing
[58:51] like that going on in her blood. But she
[58:52] looks like a shixa. She looked like me.
[58:54] >> Yeah.
[58:55] >> Nobody ever believes.
[58:56] >> She didn't look like a fraud line,
[58:57] though.
[58:58] >> No. No. She was sexy. [laughter]
[59:01] >> She sexy line,
[59:03] >> I guess. So, I had like a Bond villain
[59:05] kind of.
[59:06] >> Right. Right. [laughter]
[59:07] >> Yeah.
[59:07] >> Right. Um, so
[59:10] >> how was their marriage? And
[59:11] >> not great. I mean, they loved each other
[59:14] and they loved their kids. But my dad
[59:17] was pretty sexist,
[59:20] misogynist,
[59:22] controlling. He was it was his house and
[59:24] it was his rules and if he was in a bad
[59:26] mood, everyone knew about it. And and
[59:29] she was soft-spoken and very sweet and
[59:32] loving. And so if they fought, there
[59:34] would they wouldn't talk for days or
[59:35] she'd rearrange the furniture or hide
[59:37] the remote control. These were her like
[59:39] ways to get at him. And and they had six
[59:42] kids. And then my brother died. That was
[59:43] my dad just lost the plot completely. He
[59:46] was so [ __ ] angry. Wanted to blame
[59:48] and sue everyone from the park ranger to
[59:51] the person my brother traveled with when
[59:53] he died. And so that was caused.
[59:55] >> He died on a hiking accident.
[59:56] >> Yeah. In Wyoming in the Grand Tetons. So
[59:58] the death of my brother really caused a
[1:00:00] big chasm between them because my mom at
[1:00:02] least had the capacity
[1:00:04] to understand she had five other
[1:00:06] children that needed her. Like she was
[1:00:08] able to be like, "No, [clears throat]
[1:00:09] no, no. I've got to take care of these
[1:00:11] kids." Whereas my father just was like
[1:00:12] out. It was like he couldn't he would
[1:00:15] just sit there in anger and and hate and
[1:00:18] just mad at the world and everyone and a
[1:00:20] victim. That was a it was very victim
[1:00:23] mentality
[1:00:24] >> and and he never quite recovered from my
[1:00:26] brother dying.
[1:00:28] >> Do you feel like a therapy has impacted
[1:00:30] your comedy? A lot of a lot of people
[1:00:32] feel like their their neurosis is what
[1:00:35] feeds their comedy and that if they get
[1:00:36] their neurosis straightened out through
[1:00:38] therapy that that's going to negatively
[1:00:40] impact the comedy.
[1:00:41] >> It's like when fat people when fat
[1:00:42] comics lose weight, they think they're
[1:00:44] not going to be funny anymore.
[1:00:45] >> Yeah.
[1:00:45] >> Uh I think it's it's the opposite. If
[1:00:48] you give it enough time, you know, like
[1:00:50] right away I didn't do comedy during
[1:00:51] that time of going to therapy. I had the
[1:00:53] luxury of not having to work while I was
[1:00:55] doing that. I was working for Netflix
[1:00:57] and doing some stuff, but I wasn't doing
[1:00:58] standup per se. And I did I'm glad I
[1:01:02] wasn't because I didn't feel very funny
[1:01:03] during that time. It wasn't fun and it
[1:01:05] wasn't funny and it needed to like you
[1:01:08] know there's a period of going to
[1:01:09] therapy where you're gathering all this
[1:01:11] information and then there's a period
[1:01:13] post therapy where you need to like
[1:01:15] absorb the information and then you need
[1:01:18] to
[1:01:19] >> enact the information like you learn it
[1:01:23] you let it sink in and then you have to
[1:01:24] apply it. So it's like three phases. So,
[1:01:27] and I wasn't I didn't want to go to
[1:01:29] therapy for the next eight years of my
[1:01:30] life. I'm like, "Let's do this in the
[1:01:32] most efficient way possible. How long do
[1:01:35] you think this will take?" [laughter]
[1:01:36] You know, and he was like, "Well," and
[1:01:38] I'm like, "Listen, I I I thought it was
[1:01:39] going to be like, oh, I'll go for six
[1:01:40] weeks and it'll be Yeah. Yeah. like
[1:01:42] Barry's boot camp."
[1:01:43] >> Yeah.
[1:01:44] >> And it ended up being much longer than
[1:01:46] six weeks, but uh but it wasn't a fun
[1:01:48] time in my life. I would never take it
[1:01:50] back. But if you told me I had to do
[1:01:52] that again, I might not do it. even if I
[1:01:55] knew the benefits would I would get the
[1:01:57] benefits like 10 years. It was just so
[1:02:00] exhausting
[1:02:01] >> having to bear my soul, having to like
[1:02:04] get rid of all of my armor and become
[1:02:07] vulnerable and still was very hard to
[1:02:11] do.
[1:02:12] >> Do you feel like you're able to access
[1:02:14] that same vulnerability and stillness
[1:02:15] now post therapy?
[1:02:18] >> Yeah. Yeah, most of the time. I'm I'm
[1:02:21] sure there are times where my defenses
[1:02:23] go up, but I'm so well I'm so much
[1:02:25] better at recognizing my defenses than I
[1:02:27] used to be before therapy. I just have
[1:02:30] so much self-awareness where like that's
[1:02:32] what therapy is is the gift of
[1:02:34] self-awareness is someone else telling
[1:02:36] you, "Oh, they're not insulting you.
[1:02:38] They're examining you and going, well,
[1:02:40] maybe you do this because of this and
[1:02:42] maybe this is because of this and it's
[1:02:43] not what you think it is." And you're
[1:02:45] like, "Oh, okay. I trust you. You seem
[1:02:49] really smart. I'm going to listen to
[1:02:51] this person.
[1:02:52] >> And so you're kind of giving yourself
[1:02:54] away in the hopes of coming out with a
[1:02:58] better idea of who you are and who where
[1:03:00] you're going. So I look at it as a
[1:03:03] calibration. It's like a sharpening of
[1:03:05] of all the good things and kind of
[1:03:07] shedding the stuff that's not working
[1:03:09] for you.
[1:03:10] >> I I remember coming across a quote where
[1:03:12] you talked about how Victor Frankle
[1:03:14] changed how you thought about purpose.
[1:03:17] >> Was that around the same time? Do did do
[1:03:19] you remember saying anything about that?
[1:03:21] I'm just curious. What?
[1:03:21] >> It's so funny because I used to read so
[1:03:23] many books that quote Victor Frankle.
[1:03:24] Yeah. And when I quoted him, I was like,
[1:03:26] "This is good. Nobody's quoting Victor
[1:03:28] Frankle." And since then, I've read like
[1:03:29] 10 books and everybody quotes Victor
[1:03:32] Frankle.
[1:03:32] >> Yeah. There's like 20 Instagram accounts
[1:03:34] that are all Victor Frankle quotes.
[1:03:35] >> Yeah. Yeah. That he he Yeah. I mean,
[1:03:37] that guy like that book, The Man's
[1:03:39] Search for Meeting, one of his books,
[1:03:41] that was just an incredible book. I've
[1:03:43] read that a couple times. But yeah to to
[1:03:45] take yourself out of out of yourself
[1:03:48] like what are you doing here? You know
[1:03:50] what are you doing here? What are you
[1:03:52] doing? [laughter]
[1:03:53] What is your purpose? Like what are who
[1:03:55] are are you helping? Are you here for
[1:03:56] yourself only?
[1:03:57] >> And what is your purpose?
[1:03:58] >> Yeah, my purpose is to provide joy. Like
[1:04:02] I'm joyful and even if we're talking
[1:04:05] about something serious, the tempo is
[1:04:07] going to be like this. Not
[1:04:08] >> like, you know,
[1:04:10] >> woe is me. It's very anti- victim. I
[1:04:13] don't like that. I used to do that a lot
[1:04:15] when I was young. I'd be like,
[1:04:16] "Everyone's out to get me and this
[1:04:17] person doesn't want me to succeed and
[1:04:20] >> and I don't ever do that anymore. I
[1:04:22] don't care what anyone says about me
[1:04:24] publicly or privately. Like, I know and
[1:04:26] I get it and I have receipts."
[1:04:29] [laughter]
[1:04:31] >> Chelsea, it's so good seeing you. Thanks
[1:04:33] for coming on. We're so so honored that
[1:04:36] I have
[1:04:36] >> Oh my god.
[1:04:37] >> the legendary Chelsea Handler on Soul
[1:04:39] Boom.
[1:04:39] >> We've known each other for what, 25
[1:04:41] years?
[1:04:42] >> 25 years. I was just going to say 1991 I
[1:04:45] think is when we first met.
[1:04:46] >> Wow.
[1:04:47] >> Do you remember I tutored a journal
[1:04:50] entry? [laughter]
[1:04:51] >> You tutored me.
[1:04:53] >> I I gave you acting coaching ON AN
[1:04:55] AUDITION.
[1:04:56] >> YES.
[1:04:56] >> In my house.
[1:04:58] >> Oh my god.
[1:04:58] >> And you were It was for I think you got
[1:05:00] the job. It was like Miami News or
[1:05:02] something like that. Did you do a show?
[1:05:04] >> I don't remember what the job was, but I
[1:05:06] do remember you giving me acting
[1:05:09] lessons.
[1:05:10] >> Yeah.
[1:05:10] >> Wow. I forgot I had forgotten that.
[1:05:13] >> Yeah.
[1:05:14] >> And look at me now. Look at you now.
[1:05:16] Famous actress.
[1:05:16] >> You were you were you were starving. You
[1:05:18] were you were waiting tables.
[1:05:20] >> I was into
[1:05:21] >> and now look at how I've blossomed into
[1:05:23] womanhood.
[1:05:24] >> Yeah.
[1:05:25] >> I love it. Um
[1:05:26] >> are you still acting? [laughter]
[1:05:30] >> Honestly, people ask me that and it's
[1:05:33] like and it [snorts] it does hurt a
[1:05:35] little bit like are you still acting?
[1:05:37] >> No. Are you still giving acting lessons
[1:05:39] is what I was going to say. And then I
[1:05:40] couldn't resist. [laughter]
[1:05:42] >> I'm occasionally acting. You know, I'm
[1:05:46] podcasting. That's what uh
[1:05:48] >> But what about giving acting lessons?
[1:05:50] Are you still doing that?
[1:05:51] >> I don't do that anymore. Okay.
[1:05:54] >> But I've been thinking about it. I love
[1:05:55] teaching acting. I really love love love
[1:05:58] teaching acting.
[1:05:59] >> Well, I might hit you up for something
[1:06:00] because I do have a project and I do
[1:06:02] need some I have a project at Hulu that
[1:06:04] if it goes, I'm starring in it. Yeah.
[1:06:06] And I'm playing like a middle-ag. Not
[1:06:08] far a field from what's happening in
[1:06:10] real life.
[1:06:11] >> Washed up.
[1:06:13] Loser. Alcoholic. Estranged from her
[1:06:16] daughter.
[1:06:17] >> Sure.
[1:06:17] >> Billionaire husband dies and leaves her
[1:06:19] nothing but a liked by millions.
[1:06:22] >> Yes. Yes. That.
[1:06:23] >> Yeah.
[1:06:24] >> And I have to act. I mean, you know, I'm
[1:06:26] not an actress by trade.
[1:06:27] >> You're a very damn fine actress.
[1:06:29] >> Well, thank you.
[1:06:30] >> You really are. And
[1:06:31] >> but maybe I'll come to you for that and
[1:06:33] you can give me some acting lessons if
[1:06:35] you want to keep your acting lesson.
[1:06:38] >> Rides in your private jet.
[1:06:39] >> I don't have a private jet. I do not
[1:06:40] have a private jet. I would never ever
[1:06:43] have a private jet.
[1:06:44] >> One thing we ask every guest is a
[1:06:46] definition of the word soul. What do you
[1:06:48] think? What does that mean to you?
[1:06:49] >> You're okay. Well, that's to me soul is
[1:06:52] your essence. Your essence. It's like uh
[1:06:55] it's not really uh tangible. It's the
[1:06:59] energy that you bring with you and the
[1:07:02] energy that's there when you walk out of
[1:07:03] a room. So
[1:07:06] the essence of the best part of you.
[1:07:10] >> I love that.
[1:07:11] >> Yeah,
[1:07:12] >> Chelsea, it's so great to connect with
[1:07:14] you after so long. And I just am such a
[1:07:17] huge admirer of what you got going on.
[1:07:19] What's going on now?
[1:07:20] >> You could probably see me on tour.
[1:07:22] Chelsea handler.com for tickets. I have
[1:07:24] a podcast, Dear Chelsea, where I give
[1:07:26] out advice to people. Um, what else? I
[1:07:30] don't know. That's That's pretty much
[1:07:31] it. That's all you have to think about.
[1:07:33] Not too much.
[1:07:34] >> What about in the TV world?
[1:07:35] >> I've got stuff in the TV world, but I
[1:07:36] don't need to announce any of that yet.
[1:07:38] It's a little premature.
[1:07:38] >> It's all cooking. And if people want a
[1:07:40] tab of LSD from you, they go to
[1:07:41] chelsea.com/lsd.
[1:07:43] >> Yeah. Yeah. You go to the website or you
[1:07:45] go to Whistler Canada. That's where I
[1:07:47] ski [laughter] and I'll have it on me
[1:07:48] there on the slopes.
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