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A Child's Letter to Parents: Following the Inner Voice

Saqib Rizvi
Saqib Rizvi
Aug 23, 2018
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Picture a kitchen table after dinner, the plates cleared, and a young voice finally saying the thing that has been sitting in the chest for years: mom, dad, I'm sorry, but I can't fulfill the dreams that you have for me. That line opens a three-minute video posted to the Saqib Rizvi channel in August 2018, framed as a message from a child to his or her parents. The child has discovered an inner voice, and that voice, the speaker says, is asking for something the parents never planned on: a life that is not a copy of theirs. Across roughly 180 seconds, the monologue moves from a fish that cannot climb a tree to the claim that a parent's love can push a child the wrong way, and it reframes ambition, failure, and money through a spiritual lens. It is a short piece, but it packs in a set of ideas about conditioning, uniqueness, and self-love that are worth slowing down for.

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What is the video actually saying to parents?

The structure is simple. The child apologizes, then explains, then announces a decision, then gently asks the parents to reconsider. The apology is not a retreat. "I understand that you have a lot of expectations of me," the speaker says at the top, "but I'm just not able to live up to them. That's because the dreams you have for me are your dreams." That final clause is the hinge of the whole video. The problem is not that the child lacks ambition or gratitude. The problem is ownership: whose dream is on the table?

The video's own description places it inside a familiar concept. It says that from birth, people undergo a process of social conditioning in which "the society enforces its expectations on us," and that parents are usually the first and strongest agents of that process. Parents "project their own dreams, aspirations, and expectations onto the child," and they define what counts as the right way to live and what counts as the disastrous one. The child's letter is what happens when the conditioned child begins to hear something other than that script.

It is worth noting that the video does not argue that parents are villains. The final section says that "every parent on this planet love their child." The claim is narrower and, for many viewers, more uncomfortable: that love itself can be aimed in the wrong direction when it carries a parent's unfinished hopes.

Why does the fish-in-a-tree image carry so much weight?

About a third of the way through, the speaker reaches for a line that has circulated widely online for years: "Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." The video attributes the line to Albert Einstein. The precise source is not given in the video, and the quote is one that readers should check before repeating it in a formal setting. Its power, though, does not depend on the attribution. It works because nearly everyone has been, at some point, the fish being measured against a tree.

The analogy does two things at once. First, it shows that the standard of success can be wrong for the creature being judged, not just the creature's performance. A fish that cannot climb is not failing; it is being evaluated on a test designed for a different body. Second, it shows the cost of trying anyway. The child says that trying "to be what I am not from within" would make them "like that fish which tries to climb a tree." The fish is not lazy. It is exhausted by a goal that was never its own.

Notice that the video does not say engineers, doctors, lawyers, or CEOs are bad careers. The speaker is explicit: "is great." The objection is to the route, not the destination. A person can become a doctor, and the video would not object, as long as the choice comes from within rather than from a parent's blueprint. That distinction is the one most people miss when they hear a message like this and assume it is a call to drop out of school and chase a vague feeling.

What does it mean to hear an inner voice?

The most philosophically loaded moment comes in the middle, where the child says, "I don't know if I have a soul or not, but what I do know is that there is a voice inside me that is guiding me." That sentence is unusually honest. It does not claim certainty about metaphysics. It makes a narrower claim based on experience: something inside is giving direction, and the child can feel its requests.

The video's description connects this to a long tradition. It says that "various Mystics" have named this voice "the Higher Self, Intuition, The Divine, Consciousness, etc.," and that following it "would actually guide us in discovering the true purpose of our lives." Its opening quote, attributed to Mahatma Gandhi, makes a similar promise: "Everyone who wills can hear the inner voice. It is within everyone." The word that matters in that quote is wills. Hearing the voice, on this reading, is not a passive gift reserved for saints. It requires an active willingness to listen, and by implication a willingness to stop listening to the louder voices of expectation.

The practical problem the video identifies is that the inner voice and the external voice often say different things, and the external one is louder. A child raised on a parent's dreams has spent years learning to read approval as a signal. The letter is a child deciding that approval is not the only signal available.

Why would an inner voice ask for risk and failure?

This is where the video gets interesting for anyone who has tried to do something unconventional. The voice, the child says, "is asking me to take risks. It is asking me to fail at times, because it tells me that those failures will be the best learnings in my life and that every failure will bring me closer to my goal." In the transcript, that passage runs from roughly 1:17 to 1:36.

Failure, in this framing, is not a sign that the inner voice was wrong. It is part of the route. A parent's dream tends to be built around a picture of success with failure edited out. The inner voice, by contrast, treats failure as information. The phrase "every failure will bring me closer to my goal" assumes a goal that is not fixed in advance, one that gets clearer through the attempts.

This matters because it changes what a bad outcome means. If the expected path is a straight line from school to a prestigious job, every setback looks like a verdict. If the path is a sequence of experiments guided by an inner signal, a setback becomes a lesson with a direction attached. The video does not offer a method for telling productive failure from plain mistakes, and it would be a misreading to treat it as permission to ignore consequences. But it does make a clear claim: fear of failure, handed down from the people who love you, can be a bigger obstacle than failure itself.

Is making money a spiritual act?

The sentence that surprises most first-time viewers comes next. The voice, the child says, "is asking me to make a lot of money, not because it wants me to satisfy my materialistic desires, but because it wants me to have the resources to transform myself and to transform others." In a short video about inner truth, money is not a distraction to be renounced. It is a tool.

That reframing is easy to dismiss as convenient, but it is worth taking seriously on its own terms. The video draws a line between wanting money to satisfy appetite and wanting money to build capacity. Resources, in this view, are how a person acts on what they have discovered. A child who has found a calling in healing or teaching or making art may need income, training, time, and stability to pursue it well. Refusing wealth outright could be its own form of avoidance.

The video also says the inner voice is asking the child to transform others. That phrase does a lot of work. It suggests that personal purpose is not a private project. The success being described is measured by its effect on other people, which is a quieter and more demanding standard than a salary figure or a title.

Can self-love come before loving your parents?

The emotional center of the monologue is the line "above all it asks me to love myself so that I am happy enough to love you and to love the entire world." It is a striking order of operations. Many families teach that love for others comes first and that self-regard is selfish. The video reverses that sequence: a child who cannot love themselves has little to give anyone else.

The logic is not that self-love licenses self-indulgence. It is closer to the idea that a person who is at peace with their own path is less likely to need their parents to validate it, and therefore less likely to resent them or to make them the enemy. The child is not withdrawing love from the parents. The child is refusing to make love conditional on compliance, and promising love that is not built on a bargain.

That is a subtle and, for some families, hard distinction. The video's final argument rests on it. The child asks the parents to share the video with others, "because you never know, it might change their life," and the core message is that the love has to change shape before it can do good. A parent who wants a happy child may need to stop measuring happiness in the child's career choices.

Why does the video say parental love can point in the wrong direction?

The closing section makes the sharpest claim: "every parent on this planet loves their child, however what many of them fail to realize is that their love might be pushing their child in the wrong direction." Between roughly 2:26 and the end of the piece, the speaker is almost apologetic, but the content does not soften. Love is not being questioned. Its direction is.

Read this way, the video is less about rebellion than about translation. The child is trying to translate a parent's love from the language of expectation into the language of trust. The parent who hears "I can't fulfill your dreams" can respond with fear, or with curiosity about what the child is hearing. The video is written to make the second response possible, and its request to share the message with others suggests the speaker imagines a wider audience of parents who are not yet ready to hear it.

How does this idea fit the wider teachings on inner guidance?

The video is short, and it does not cite a school of thought, so it is worth being clear about what it is and is not. It is a personal monologue framed in spiritual language. Its strongest ideas, that inner guidance exists, that conditioning shapes it, and that self-love precedes service, echo themes found across many contemplative traditions. The description's reference to Mystics naming the voice differently suggests the speaker is drawing from that broader well rather than from any single doctrine.

Its limits are clear too. The video does not explain how to distinguish the inner voice from fear, ego, or wishful thinking, which is the question most listeners will bring to it. It does not address families where a child's plan is genuinely risky, or where a parent's concern is grounded in real hardship. A reader who takes the piece as permission to dismiss every parental objection would be overreading a three-minute letter. The honest reading is that it asks a hard question and leaves the answer to the listener.

Where to go from here

The most useful way to engage with this video is to treat it as a prompt for two separate conversations. The first is internal. Ask which of your own choices came from a voice that felt like yours and which came from a voice that sounded like someone else's approval. The video's line about the fish is a good test: what are you trying to climb that was never built for you?

The second conversation is with the people who shaped you. If you are a parent, the video asks you to notice where your hopes for your child are really hopes for yourself. If you are a child, it may help to say the difference out loud, the way the speaker does: I love you, I am grateful for what you have given me, and I am going to listen to what I am hearing inside. Watch the original, read the description's Gandhi line in full, and check the Einstein attribution before you quote it. Then decide what your own version of that kitchen-table sentence would be.

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[0:00] mom dad I'm sorry but I can't fulfill the dreams that you have for me look I

[0:10] understand that you have a lot of expectations of me but I'm just not able

[0:15] to live up to them that's because the dreams you have for me are your dreams

[0:23] please try to understand that each person is unique each person has unique

[0:29] strengths talents unique inner calling and a unique purpose in life Albert

[0:37] Einstein once said that everybody is a genius but if you judge a fish by its

[0:43] ability to climb a tree it will live it's whole life believing that it is

[0:48] stupid to be an engineer a doctor a lawyer a CEO etc is great but if I try

[0:59] to be what I am not from within then I will be like that fish which tries to

[1:05] climb a tree I don't know if I have a soul or not but what I do know is that

[1:13] there is a voice inside me that is guiding me

[1:17] it is asking me to bring my uniqueness out into this world it is asking me to

[1:24] take risks it is asking me to fail at times because it tells me that those

[1:30] failures will be the best learnings in my life and that every failure will

[1:36] bring me closer to my goal it is asking me to make a lot of money not because it

[1:43] wants me to satisfy my materialistic desires but because it wants me to have

[1:49] the resources to transform myself and to transform others and above all it asks

[1:58] me to love myself so that I am happy enough to love you and to love the

[2:05] entire world so mom and dad I'm going to listen to

[2:11] this voice and choose my journey myself because this is what we are meant to do

[2:18] as human beings that is to be ourselves and not try to be someone else

[2:26] every parent on this planet love their child however what many of them fail to

[2:32] realize is that their love might be pushing their child in the wrong

[2:36] direction so if you think that somebody needs to realize this then share this

[2:42] video with them because you never know it might change their life

Saqib Rizvi
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Saqib Rizvi is a Vancouver-based meditation teacher who brings science and spirit together, guiding people on inner journeys toward awakening.

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It is a roughly three-minute monologue framed as a message from a child to parents who expect the child to live out their dreams. The child says they have discovered an inner voice that asks for a unique, self-chosen path, including risk, failure, and making money as a resource. The piece closes by saying parental love can unintentionally push a child in the wrong direction.
The analogy argues that judging a creature by a standard built for a different nature makes it feel stupid, even when it is not. In the video, the child uses it to say that trying to become an engineer, doctor, or CEO only because of someone else's expectations would be like a fish trying to climb a tree. The video attributes the line to Albert Einstein, but the source is not given in the video and should be verified before quoting.
The video describes it as a guiding presence inside a person that asks them to bring out their uniqueness, take risks, and love themselves. Its description says various mystics have called this voice the Higher Self, Intuition, The Divine, or Consciousness. The speaker is careful not to claim certainty about the soul, saying only that they know a voice inside them is guiding them.
No. The video says that being an engineer, doctor, lawyer, or CEO is great, and it describes the inner voice as asking the child to make a lot of money to have the resources to transform themselves and others. The objection is to choosing a path to satisfy someone else's expectations, not to the careers themselves.
The speaker says the inner voice asks them to love themselves so that they are happy enough to love their parents and the entire world. The idea is that a person at peace with their own path is less likely to need others' approval or to resent them. Love is offered freely rather than as a bargain for compliance.
The video itself does not give a test for this, and that is one of its limits. Its own framing suggests asking whether a choice comes from an inner sense of direction or from a wish for others' approval. Reflecting on that question honestly, rather than assuming the video has settled it, is the more useful response.

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