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[0:06] The outer technology of the world
[0:09] >> [music]
[0:09] >> has to be matched by the inner
[0:11] technology of the heart.
[0:14] Says Jack [music] Kornfield in a
[0:16] prescient quote
[0:18] from episode 334
[0:20] >> [music]
[0:20] >> of the Heart Wisdom podcast, A Steady
[0:23] Heart in Trouble Times.
[0:26] So, welcome back once again. This is
[0:28] Heart Wisdom, Jack Kornfield's podcast
[0:31] here on Ram Dass's Be Here Now
[0:35] >> [music]
[0:35] >> Network. My name is Ganesh Das. I'm
[0:38] Jack's assistant, a student of Ram Dass,
[0:41] and as always, [music]
[0:42] I'm so happy to open the door for
[0:44] another fresh video episode.
[0:47] This teaching comes from a talk Jack
[0:49] gave [music] earlier this year at
[0:52] Stanford University,
[0:54] which is quite a beautiful [music] place
[0:56] for Jack to ask the main question of
[1:00] this talk.
[1:01] With all the incredible technology we're
[1:04] developing,
[1:06] how are we tending the hearts of the
[1:08] people creating and using [music] it?
[1:12] Jack talks about getting this wonderful
[1:13] education,
[1:15] but nobody teaching him how to work with
[1:17] anger, fear, or longing.
[1:20] And then when he went east to the
[1:22] monastery, [music]
[1:23] he began finding part of his education
[1:26] that had actually been missing,
[1:28] the education of the heart.
[1:31] And I think most of us can relate to
[1:33] that.
[1:34] We spend years learning how to work
[1:37] and get somewhere in life,
[1:40] but without ever truly learning how to
[1:42] handle the emotions [music] that come
[1:45] up, and how to navigate life from a
[1:48] deeply [music] introspective and
[1:50] spiritual perspective.
[1:52] So, it's truly a gift to have these
[1:54] teachings [music]
[1:56] coming from Jack at such a venue at
[1:59] Stanford.
[2:01] And toward the end, Jack invites you to
[2:03] consider your own Bodhisattva vow.
[2:06] What would your heart commit [music]
[2:08] itself to?
[2:10] It can be as simple as a vow to be kind.
[2:13] So, maybe hold that question as you
[2:15] listen [music] and see what comes up.
[2:19] So, a little housekeeping before we dive
[2:21] in. Jack has a brand new [music] course
[2:24] on jackkornfield.com
[2:26] called Ask Jack Dharma wisdom for life's
[2:30] [music] real struggles.
[2:32] So, in my years working and
[2:34] collaborating with Jack, some of the
[2:37] most
[2:38] heartfelt and transformative moments
[2:41] that I've witnessed have been in [music]
[2:43] question and response-style interactions
[2:48] with Jack [music] and his students. And
[2:50] this new course, Ask Jack, invites you
[2:54] in
[2:55] to 21 days of these questions. Questions
[2:59] from real people
[3:01] about the heart of living spiritually in
[3:05] this human existence. [music]
[3:08] For more info, head to jackkornfield.com
[3:11] [music] and click on courses.
[3:15] Other than that, thank you so much for
[3:17] joining us
[3:19] for this beautifully shot episode of the
[3:22] Heart Wisdom podcast at Stanford [music]
[3:25] University
[3:26] at the Ho [clears throat] Center for
[3:28] Buddhist Studies. [music]
[3:30] This is a Steady Heart in Troubled
[3:32] Times,
[3:34] episode 334. [music]
[3:36] May you be happy and healthy.
[3:38] May you be safe and protected. [music]
[3:42] May you help others through the
[3:43] authenticity of your being, and may your
[3:46] heart be smiling.
[3:47] Namaste.
[3:50] >> I think before anything else,
[3:52] let's just take a few long breaths and
[3:56] sit quietly for a minute.
[3:58] More or less 60 or so seconds.
[4:03] >> [sighs and gasps]
[4:04] >> You've been sitting already. Anyway,
[4:06] close your eyes for a moment if you're
[4:08] comfortable.
[4:10] And tune in and take
[4:13] a couple or few long breaths.
[4:15] And just notice.
[4:23] Here and now.
[4:25] You did good.
[4:28] Such [snorts] experience. I can see it.
[4:32] So,
[4:34] today's theme
[4:36] Well, I'm going to start with
[4:38] one [clears throat]
[4:39] or two lines from a poem.
[4:44] Amy Lowell's poem
[4:46] where she writes, "Perched on the muzzle
[4:49] of a cannon,
[4:51] a yellow butterfly is slowly opening and
[4:55] shutting its wings."
[4:58] And I begin with this because in some
[5:01] way it illuminates
[5:04] the polycrisis that we're in.
[5:07] There's climate change, there's AI
[5:11] taking over all kinds of things, there's
[5:13] increase of increasing divisiveness
[5:16] politically, all those kinds of things
[5:18] that we know.
[5:20] And then here's the butterfly in the
[5:22] natural world and the oceans and the
[5:25] turning of the seasons um that are kind
[5:28] of like, "Yeah, yeah, that's okay.
[5:30] That's small potatoes. We're the earth
[5:32] and
[5:33] >> [clears throat]
[5:33] >> we have our seasons and
[5:35] um there are these two things and
[5:38] they're
[5:39] happening at the same time.
[5:42] And part of the question is,
[5:44] how do we hold this? How How we hold the
[5:46] unbearable beauty of this earth
[5:49] and the ocean of tears and what does it
[5:53] mean to be a human being especially at
[5:55] this time?
[5:57] And how can Buddhist teachings and
[5:58] practice be a value to us?
[6:01] So, um
[6:04] it's really obvious
[6:06] that no amount of technology
[6:09] computers and internet and AI and
[6:12] biotechnology and space technology and
[6:14] nanotechnology
[6:17] is going to stop continuing warfare.
[6:21] Is going to stop continuing
[6:24] divisiveness and conflict. Is going to
[6:26] stop climate change. Is going to stop um
[6:30] racism.
[6:32] Is going to stop the ways that we're
[6:34] mistreating the earth.
[6:36] All the technological and scientific
[6:39] developments are not going to do that.
[6:43] Because
[6:45] their source is in the human heart.
[6:48] And if that's not tended, then the
[6:50] technologies follow, you know, all these
[6:53] other possibilities. The change that
[6:56] needs to happen is not just an outer
[6:58] change.
[6:59] But we are in a
[7:02] um
[7:04] time of change that
[7:06] Joanna Macy, the great systems theorist
[7:09] and Buddhist teacher, calls
[7:11] uh the great um
[7:14] the great turning.
[7:16] That humanity is in a place now
[7:19] >> [clears throat]
[7:19] >> where we have to shift from an
[7:21] exploitation model of how we live on
[7:23] this earth to get as much from the earth
[7:26] and one another to one of interbeing and
[7:29] interconnection.
[7:30] And if we don't find a way to do that,
[7:33] we're just going to continue to suffer
[7:35] more greatly.
[7:36] Um and it's we can feel it. It's in the
[7:39] air. It's in the politics. It's in the
[7:41] news.
[7:42] You know, it's in our personal lives and
[7:45] more.
[7:46] And so the outer technology has to be
[7:49] matched, and here we are at Stanford
[7:52] sort of in the belly button of the
[7:54] technological birthplace, right?
[7:58] We hope it's a good birth, that's all
[8:00] I'll say. Um, but we here we are. The
[8:03] outer technology has to be be matched by
[8:06] an inner technology.
[8:08] And that's really what the teachings
[8:10] from the
[8:11] thousands of years of tradition, wisdom
[8:13] traditions, the Buddhist tradition and
[8:15] so forth, um, offer.
[8:18] It's an inner technology. And for me,
[8:21] um,
[8:23] I had a good, so-called good Ivy League
[8:25] education.
[8:27] Um, and then I went into a Buddhist
[8:29] monastery cuz my education was only 50%
[8:34] basically. I learned
[8:36] chemistry and math and, you know,
[8:39] um,
[8:40] history and
[8:42] all the kinds of things one might study
[8:44] as an undergraduate.
[8:46] Um,
[8:48] but when I went to the monastery,
[8:52] and I started to meditate, I could feel
[8:55] the anger somebody asked about back
[8:57] there. You know, I was the peacemaker in
[9:00] my family cuz my father was a brilliant
[9:02] scientist and
[9:04] borderline mentally ill, certainly
[9:07] violent and abusive.
[9:09] And nobody ever talked to me about anger
[9:12] in all my education. Nobody ever talked
[9:15] to me about trauma in all my education.
[9:18] Nobody ever talked to me about lust or
[9:22] longing or, you know, making
[9:25] connections. That wasn't, except for,
[9:27] you know, reading some novels, it was
[9:29] not in my education. Nobody taught me
[9:32] how to deal with fear
[9:35] and anxiety or all the kinds of thoughts
[9:37] that proliferate. And so when I got to
[9:40] the monastery, I realized
[9:42] this is the education, the part of the
[9:44] education that I really need.
[9:47] And of course it was tough cuz
[9:50] um I was sitting in my little hut in the
[9:53] forest on the border of Thailand and
[9:55] Laos at that time in the '60s, it was
[9:57] pretty remote.
[9:59] And um
[10:01] trying to become peaceful and I'd been
[10:03] the peacemaker in my family of three
[10:05] brothers. Everybody had their strategy
[10:07] to deal with the suffering.
[10:09] I was the peacemaker and I thought of
[10:11] myself that way.
[10:13] And then some of the monks who had
[10:15] little huts near me, they weren't
[10:17] behaving the way I thought they should
[10:20] and I started to get irritated and then
[10:22] I got really angry.
[10:25] And I went to the teacher and I said I'm
[10:26] really angry at the way these monks
[10:29] And he looked at me, Ajahn Chah, and he
[10:31] said, "Good."
[10:33] I said, "Good? Why is that?" I mean,
[10:36] this is everything I'd suppressed for
[10:38] all those years. He said, "Cuz now
[10:40] you're going to learn about anger."
[10:42] He said, "Go back to your little hut
[10:43] that had tin roof. It's the tropics,
[10:45] it's hot. Close the
[10:48] wind one window you have, wrap yourself
[10:50] in your robes, and if you're going to be
[10:52] angry, do it right. Sit there in the
[10:54] middle of it, notice the stories it
[10:56] tells, how right you are, how important
[10:59] you feel, and just let yourself come to
[11:01] terms with it in yourself in ways that I
[11:05] had never done.
[11:07] And so this is a different kind of
[11:08] education.
[11:10] And Lord knows or Buddha knows or
[11:12] whoever it is up there out there that we
[11:15] need this in this on this earth.
[11:18] So,
[11:19] yeah, how to deal with fear. Sitting in
[11:21] the monastery charnel grounds when the
[11:23] bodies are burned to do reflection about
[11:27] the impermanence of life.
[11:30] And it gets more real that way.
[11:33] Um
[11:35] I'm learning a lot about the practices
[11:37] of love.
[11:39] And in some way, this was really the
[11:41] education of the heart. How do you hold
[11:43] all this with compassion?
[11:46] You see it and you feel it all in
[11:47] yourself and you're human and at the
[11:50] same time you don't want to get caught
[11:52] in it a way that causes harm to you or
[11:55] someone else.
[11:57] So, um
[12:00] Thich Nhat Hanh, most of you've heard of
[12:02] him, great Vietnamese Zen master, said
[12:04] when the crowded Vietnamese um refugee
[12:08] boats met with storms or pirates, if
[12:11] everyone panicked, all would be lost.
[12:14] But if even one person
[12:18] was calm and centered, it was enough. It
[12:21] showed the way for everyone to survive.
[12:25] Do you know who that person is?
[12:28] Miss Piggy would say, "Moi?" Right? It
[12:31] happens to be you. You know, you're in
[12:33] the boat.
[12:34] And it's what's needed for you.
[12:37] And
[12:38] so I got a call from
[12:40] the CEO of Ford Motors. I work with a
[12:42] bunch of CEOs now. They
[12:44] kind of I've got a lot of friends at
[12:46] that level. Met with him. So, from Bill
[12:49] Ford, who's a dear friend
[12:51] [clears throat] and I I I talk about it
[12:53] cuz we've done some things publicly.
[12:55] And I you know, I work with the CEO of
[12:57] Nike and the CEO of whatever it is.
[12:59] Anyway, um
[13:02] and this was some years ago in 2008 in
[13:04] the economic meltdown.
[13:06] And he called and he said, "I listened
[13:08] to your meditations. I read your stuff.
[13:10] I've been doing other practices." He
[13:12] said, "I need help." I said, "What's
[13:15] up?"
[13:15] He said, "Well,
[13:17] um Chrysler just appeared declared
[13:19] bankruptcy. GM declared bankruptcy. Ford
[13:23] is teetering, but okay, you know,
[13:26] hanging in." He said, "I'm about to lose
[13:28] my grandfather's company
[13:30] and the entire industry on my watch
[13:34] and I can't sleep.
[13:36] What you got, basically? How do you, you
[13:39] know, do you have something that will
[13:41] help?"
[13:42] And so, we started doing some meta
[13:45] loving-kindness practices and things
[13:47] that would kind of
[13:49] both strengthen and soften his heart in
[13:52] a way that he could feel compassion for
[13:55] the whole struggle of it all. And that
[13:58] it wasn't his job to fix it all, but to
[14:00] stay be that person on the boat. So, we
[14:03] did different practices like that.
[14:06] And these practices are based on the
[14:08] Buddhist principles, which we'll go
[14:11] through some tonight through practicing.
[14:14] First, the Four Noble Truths,
[14:16] which say the first truth is that life
[14:18] has suffering.
[14:20] Anybody not have that, please raise your
[14:22] hand. Okay, so we got that one covered.
[14:25] Doesn't say life is suffering, cuz it's
[14:26] not, you know. It has um chocolate
[14:30] mousse and, you know,
[14:33] baked Alaska and surfing, but it has
[14:35] suffering and every life has it.
[14:38] Secondly, there's causes for suffering.
[14:41] And the causes
[14:42] are attachment, the causes are greed,
[14:45] hatred,
[14:47] ignorance. And the more greed, hatred,
[14:49] and ignorance, the more suffering.
[14:51] You can look at individually in your
[14:53] life, the greed, the fear, the hatred,
[14:56] but collectively, in a nation, if
[14:58] there's more greed and there's more
[15:00] hatred, there'll be more suffering.
[15:02] Second Noble Truth.
[15:04] The third and fourth, there's a path to
[15:06] the end of the suffering. That was the
[15:09] part that was interesting. When I heard
[15:10] that, I kind of leaned forward. Okay,
[15:12] I've got the suffering part. What you
[15:14] got that can help me?
[15:16] And that path
[15:18] to the end of suffering um and freedom
[15:22] doesn't mean you won't have pain or you
[15:24] won't grow old. You know, you get the
[15:27] 10,000 joys and sorrows of your life.
[15:30] But, that there's a Sometimes it's
[15:33] called the miracle. There's a capacity
[15:36] for you as a human, for the human heart
[15:39] to step back, to grow to in compassion
[15:42] and understanding.
[15:45] And not be caught in the whole drama of
[15:48] it, so that you can tend and connect
[15:51] with love,
[15:52] but also know that
[15:55] the dramas,
[15:57] personal or collective,
[15:59] um,
[16:00] they're not the end of the story.
[16:02] And they're not who you really are.
[16:05] Um,
[16:07] Ram Dass, my dear friend, um,
[16:10] used to put it this way. He would say,
[16:13] "Remember your true nature, divine
[16:16] nature, the vastness of all things, you
[16:19] know,
[16:20] and remember your social security
[16:22] number, right?" So, that they're not
[16:26] separate, but they actually have to be
[16:28] respected in these dimensions of our
[16:31] life.
[16:34] I taught Bill
[16:36] a loving kindness practice, um, which
[16:39] was really helpful for him. And he would
[16:40] start You start where it's easy. You
[16:43] don't say, "Okay, I'm going to start
[16:44] with this person I hated." Forget it,
[16:46] it's not going to work. You start with
[16:48] whatever touches your heart, you know,
[16:50] that child in your life or for some
[16:53] people it's their dog, the least
[16:55] judgmental being in their life.
[16:58] Tail wags. Somebody loves me
[17:00] unconditionally, right? You start where
[17:03] it touches your heart, and you let that
[17:05] open,
[17:06] and then you say, "Well, how about that
[17:08] one who's pretty kind and that one I
[17:09] like." And little by little you expand
[17:12] your circle of love until
[17:15] then you work with the
[17:17] those pesky, difficult people around you
[17:20] and more
[17:21] and you realize that you can do it. It's
[17:23] actually it's um
[17:26] an invitation to transform
[17:28] from the judgmental mind into the great
[17:33] heart of compassion.
[17:35] And there's practices to it.
[17:37] So, when we first started to teach
[17:39] mindfulness 50 or more years ago, some
[17:41] of my colleagues, Joseph Goldstein,
[17:43] Sharon Salzberg, others,
[17:46] one of the things we found is that when
[17:48] people were trying to be mindful,
[17:50] it became and meditate, it could become
[17:53] a little like a grim duty. I'm mindful
[17:56] and I'm trying to get rid of those
[17:58] thoughts and trying to
[18:00] untie the knots in my body. You know, I
[18:02] go to the gym and I go to therapy. I
[18:04] work out. I've got a good diet and now I
[18:06] meditate.
[18:07] >> [snorts]
[18:07] >> And there was so much self-judgment and
[18:09] so much evaluation about how you're
[18:12] supposed to be.
[18:14] So, we started pairing mindfulness and
[18:17] loving-kindness practice. And now what
[18:21] I'd like to use as a language
[18:24] is
[18:26] mindful loving awareness.
[18:29] That they're actually not separate. If
[18:31] you can be present with your own body,
[18:34] your own heart and mind and then
[18:37] those people around you and the world
[18:38] around you.
[18:40] So,
[18:42] and that requires
[18:44] cultivating or opening the gateway of
[18:46] presence.
[18:48] Albert Einstein,
[18:50] a a quote from Albert, which I would
[18:53] have thought was a artifact of the
[18:56] internet, except I read it in Scientific
[18:59] American.
[19:00] Which, you know, I know that science is
[19:03] under attack, but nevertheless, Albert
[19:06] purportedly said,
[19:09] "If you can drive safely while kissing a
[19:12] girl,
[19:14] you're simply not giving the kiss the
[19:16] attention it deserves.
[19:19] >> [laughter]
[19:21] >> And [clears throat] this kind of
[19:22] summarizes a lot of the game of
[19:24] meditation.
[19:26] That can you actually be present for the
[19:28] person in front of you, for your own
[19:30] body, for the things that need tending?
[19:33] Instead of living in you know, you walk
[19:34] down the street and you're
[19:36] thinking about all the things you did
[19:38] and need to do in those people, and you
[19:40] miss the sunset, you know, reflected in
[19:43] the puddle in in the
[19:45] sidewalk, those amazing colors. Or you
[19:47] miss the
[19:48] the the amazingness of another human
[19:51] being walking by cuz they're all so
[19:52] weird. You know that. We are, aren't we?
[19:56] You know, how did you get in there? I
[19:58] mean, how did that happen?
[20:00] Really, you don't know, do you? But you
[20:02] got it. There's a little baby and then
[20:04] here I am. Okay.
[20:06] It's really mysterious.
[20:08] So, mindful loving awareness is not
[20:11] about fixing.
[20:14] It's a shift of identity from being
[20:17] caught in what's present to becoming the
[20:20] loving witness of it, if you will, or
[20:23] the space of consciousness, which is who
[20:25] you are.
[20:27] You're not your body, I promise you
[20:28] you're not. I mean, it hurts and you
[20:30] want to take care of it and feed it and
[20:32] you know,
[20:34] sleep it and do all the things it needs,
[20:36] but um
[20:38] cuz you were in this little body and
[20:39] then you were a teenager and then you're
[20:41] whatever. It keeps and then you'll be in
[20:42] an older body. I'm 80. It's sort of
[20:44] weird. How does this happen?
[20:46] It's not who you are.
[20:49] Who you are is the awareness itself. The
[20:52] thoughts and all that stuff.
[20:54] So, learning this is a
[20:56] tremendously valuable and powerful art.
[20:59] And it's not about attaining something.
[21:03] It's much more about
[21:09] >> Relaxing
[21:11] and inviting a sense of
[21:14] spacious presence for whatever is here
[21:18] including the fact that you can't do it
[21:20] sometimes and then the judging mind says
[21:23] I'm no good at meditation.
[21:25] You say thank you for your opinion. You
[21:27] know whose voice that is. We won't talk
[21:29] about them, but you say thank you for
[21:31] your opinion. Who knew that they could
[21:33] tell you about meditation? Those people
[21:35] that taught you how to judge yourself.
[21:37] Anyway,
[21:38] all of that can be held in the field of
[21:41] mindful loving awareness.
[21:44] The things that were most important
[21:46] pedagogically speaking about this that I
[21:49] hope you got a sense of was that the the
[21:53] gift or the art of meditation isn't to
[21:56] change things or to fix them
[21:58] or to make you better. Although, as you
[22:01] become more aware
[22:02] thankfully to your for your family, you
[22:05] actually do become better, but that's
[22:07] not the game.
[22:09] The game is really to become that loving
[22:12] awareness and say, "Oh, this too."
[22:15] Um
[22:17] and it's actually going to serve you
[22:19] in your intimate relations with people.
[22:23] It's going to serve you in the work that
[22:24] you do cuz you're not caught up as much.
[22:28] Um
[22:29] and it will be there for you
[22:32] when you die.
[22:34] You'll see.
[22:36] You know,
[22:38] um instead of being
[22:40] so caught when you realize, "Oh, this is
[22:44] an amazing dance
[22:46] and I get to have this dance."
[22:49] Um
[22:50] and my experience I could go in a whole
[22:52] long thing about sitting with lots of
[22:53] people who are dying and
[22:56] my own out-of-body experiences in
[22:58] meditation, all these things, but
[22:59] basically
[23:00] when you
[23:02] sit with people who are dying and
[23:03] they're these vaguely conscious,
[23:06] especially the ones that sort of die and
[23:08] then come back, near-death, and so
[23:10] forth. Um you float out of your body.
[23:14] And then you kind of look and say, "Wow,
[23:17] that was a ride, wasn't it? That
[23:18] incarnation. Woo. Wonder where we're
[23:21] going next." I mean, it's sort of like
[23:23] that. I'm I'm I I'm I'm sort of being
[23:26] playful, but not really.
[23:29] Not really.
[23:32] And you know, there's a thousands of
[23:33] stories of people who were in a car
[23:35] accident and floated out of their body
[23:37] and saw the ambulance and watched
[23:39] everything that they could never have
[23:40] seen with their eyes, which were closed.
[23:43] So many stories like that. Cuz who you
[23:45] are is consciousness.
[23:48] And to begin to practice in this way, to
[23:51] bring love and awareness together,
[23:54] um to loving awareness, is liberating.
[23:59] It It's freeing.
[24:02] First, a poem. I've got a couple here,
[24:05] but this one
[24:09] by Stella Nesanovich.
[24:13] It can happen like that.
[24:15] Meeting at the auto repair,
[24:18] buying tires amidst the smell of rubber,
[24:21] the grating sound of jackhammers and
[24:23] drills.
[24:25] Anywhere we share stories, grace flows
[24:28] between us.
[24:31] The tire center waiting room becomes a
[24:34] healing place
[24:35] as one speaks of her husband's heart
[24:37] valve replacement,
[24:39] bedsores from complications.
[24:43] A man speaks of multiple surgeries,
[24:45] notes his false appearance as strong and
[24:48] healthy.
[24:50] I share my sister's death from breast
[24:54] cancer, her youngest only seven.
[24:58] A woman rises,
[25:00] gives her name, Mrs. Henry,
[25:02] then takes my hand,
[25:05] and suddenly an ordinary day becomes
[25:08] holy ground.
[25:12] And this is what attention can be.
[25:15] We can see the sacred in one another. We
[25:18] can see it where we are. Thank you to
[25:21] your heart for caring so much. It's
[25:24] okay.
[25:25] We can tolerate. Our heart is big enough
[25:28] for this. Thank you to your body. And
[25:30] then you start to listen. If you want to
[25:32] go even further with it, when you
[25:34] you know, sitting with your body, you
[25:36] can say, "What message do you have for
[25:38] me today?"
[25:40] And if you're quiet and respectful, your
[25:42] body will answer.
[25:45] You know,
[25:46] it'll tell you something about how you
[25:48] should live. Doesn't take long.
[25:51] You're opening the channel of a deeper
[25:54] wisdom.
[25:55] There is also, along with the Four Noble
[25:58] Truths, somehow we're doing the fours
[26:00] tonight. There's a whole Buddhist text
[26:02] called the fours, and I got lost in it
[26:05] tonight here.
[26:06] Um the Four Foundations of Mindfulness
[26:08] and the Four Noble Truths.
[26:10] They're also what are called the Four
[26:12] Qualities of the Awakened Heart.
[26:15] Um and these are the qualities when you
[26:18] see with loving awareness, when you step
[26:21] back to become the loving witness of
[26:25] the suffering and the beauty of life,
[26:27] both.
[26:29] Which you have and which is just part of
[26:32] the curriculum.
[26:34] When you see them,
[26:36] the qualities that will awaken first is
[26:38] love.
[26:40] Love is that connection with
[26:43] everything, cuz it's love is like
[26:45] gravity. Nobody really understands it,
[26:47] but it's there, and it pulls everything
[26:49] together. It's this mysterious
[26:52] connection that can't be denied.
[26:56] When love meets suffering and there are
[26:57] these practices like loving-kindness
[27:00] meta practice where you wish well,
[27:02] you can't wish well to somebody who's
[27:04] suffering a lot and say, "May you be
[27:06] happy and filled with love and stuff."
[27:08] They're suffering.
[27:10] And so love actually turns in itself
[27:13] into compassion.
[27:15] It's the second quality of the awakened
[27:17] heart. When the heart meets pain and
[27:20] suffering, it opens in compassion.
[27:25] When love meets
[27:28] the world not in its suffering form,
[27:31] um
[27:32] it turns into joy. And it's called
[27:35] shared joy. There's a word in Sanskrit
[27:37] called mudita of shared joy. That there
[27:40] there's a kind of intrinsic delight
[27:43] in being alive, not cuz you're trying to
[27:45] get anything or judge anything or be
[27:47] something or so, but just
[27:50] how mysterious is it that we're here?
[27:54] I'm just looking at you. If I were an
[27:56] alien, I'd say, "Okay, what kind of like
[27:59] fur do these beings have? You've got a
[28:01] lot of colors, by the way. White and
[28:03] black and blue and, you know, some with
[28:07] fur and some without and I mean, how how
[28:10] I
[28:10] It's wild. Honestly, it is. How you get
[28:13] in this body and and then there's a hole
[28:16] in one end which you stuff dead plants
[28:18] and animals and grind them down with the
[28:21] bones, right? And glug them through the
[28:23] tube to the other end.
[28:25] And these things that stick out as mine
[28:28] do prominently,
[28:29] um that catch the vi- and I wiggle my
[28:32] tongue la la la la and I say pink
[28:34] elephant, right? And you can picture
[28:36] that. No one knows how that works,
[28:38] really. Yes, there's a vibration and it
[28:41] hits the,
[28:42] you know, the tympanic part of the ear
[28:45] and electrochemical signals in the that
[28:49] go into the auditory part of the brain
[28:51] and then pink elephant, baby. You know,
[28:54] how does that happen? It is so
[28:56] mysterious and then here you are in this
[28:58] human body and look how you propel
[29:00] yourself. You fall one way, you're a
[29:02] biped and you catch yourself and then
[29:03] you fall the other way and you have a
[29:05] little vestigial tail and you like take
[29:07] this for granted. It is weird and if
[29:10] that's not weird enough, notice what
[29:12] happens the next time you're making
[29:14] love.
[29:15] It's a fabulous thing to do. I recommend
[29:18] it.
[29:19] It's bizarre.
[29:21] >> [laughter]
[29:21] >> It is actually, you know. So, here we
[29:24] are, we're stepping back and we're
[29:25] saying, "Look at human incarnation."
[29:28] You know, and we have this amazing
[29:30] capacity to step back and then in it we
[29:34] can see from the four noble truths these
[29:36] things out of grasping and greed and
[29:38] hatred and fear and so forth
[29:40] entangle us and cause a lot of
[29:42] suffering.
[29:43] When we see it, when we rest in the
[29:45] awareness,
[29:46] we don't have to go that route. We can
[29:48] see it. We say, "Thank you for trying to
[29:50] protect me. I'm good." And we can act
[29:52] out of love.
[29:53] But they're really just fundamentally
[29:55] human. They're not Buddhist. They're an
[29:58] invitation to pay attention really
[30:00] deeply
[30:01] and then they're a doorway to
[30:03] liberation.
[30:04] Because when you can tolerate, the
[30:06] neuroscientists talk about um
[30:09] expanding the window of tolerance is
[30:12] what meditation [clears throat]
[30:13] can do. When you can sit there and gaze
[30:16] and
[30:17] bear witness to the suffering behind
[30:19] these eyes,
[30:21] it allows you to be there and not be
[30:23] frightened and not not turn your gaze
[30:26] away. When you can see the beauty and
[30:28] feel that love or when you can sit rest
[30:32] in the vastness and say, "Wow, isn't
[30:35] this an amazing dance?" It gives you a
[30:37] kind of inner freedom.
[30:40] And then
[30:41] well, um Zen Master Suzuki Roshi put it
[30:45] this way. He said there there in Zen
[30:47] there are only two things.
[30:50] You sit
[30:51] and you sweep the garden.
[30:54] You sit and you sweep the garden. So,
[30:56] you remember who you really are, you do
[30:59] your practice, and then you pick up your
[31:01] broom, and you go out to the garden of
[31:03] the world.
[31:04] It was a busy morning about 8:30 when an
[31:07] elderly gentleman in his 80s arrived to
[31:10] have stitches removed from his hand. He
[31:13] was in a hurry as he had an appointment
[31:15] at 9:00 a.m.
[31:17] I took his vital signs, had him sit
[31:19] down, knowing it could be more than an
[31:22] hour before he would be uh tended by the
[31:25] doctor. Um, and it looked healed enough
[31:29] to me. I talked to another doctor, got
[31:32] the supplies, and decided to do it
[31:34] myself.
[31:36] While taking care of his wound, I asked
[31:38] if he had another doctor's appointment
[31:40] this morning as he was in such a hurry.
[31:43] The gentleman told me that he needed to
[31:46] go to the nursing home to eat breakfast
[31:49] with his wife.
[31:50] I inquired as to her health.
[31:53] He told me she'd been there for a while
[31:56] and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's
[31:58] disease.
[31:59] And as we talked, I asked if she would
[32:01] be upset if he was a bit late.
[32:04] He replied that she no longer
[32:07] knew who he was
[32:09] and that she had not recognized him for
[32:12] 5 years now.
[32:14] I was surprised
[32:16] and I asked him,
[32:18] "And you still go every morning
[32:20] even though she doesn't know who you
[32:22] are?"
[32:24] He smiled,
[32:26] patted my hand, and said,
[32:28] "She doesn't know me,
[32:30] but I know who she is."
[32:35] "And that,"
[32:36] said this nurse,
[32:38] "is the kind of love that I want to show
[32:40] and have in my life.
[32:43] You know, so um
[32:45] you know, we go through all kinds of
[32:47] states and you're weeping and grieving
[32:50] and I'm glad for your tears.
[32:52] They're holy tears.
[32:55] You know?
[32:56] And they're honorable.
[32:58] And there's not some way you're supposed
[32:59] to feel.
[33:01] Um
[33:04] Yeah, I remember
[33:05] um
[33:07] having done hospice work over years and
[33:10] kind of in the lineage of
[33:12] Elizabeth Kubler-Ross and Stephen
[33:14] Levine, good friends, whatever.
[33:17] And one of the things that uh
[33:19] I think it was Elizabeth, it might have
[33:21] been Stephen, said is
[33:23] people die in character.
[33:26] Some of them die peacefully, some of
[33:28] them die rage against the light, some of
[33:31] them don't want to talk about it, you
[33:33] know? Um some of them die weeping. Um
[33:39] There isn't a rule book about who you're
[33:41] supposed to be.
[33:44] Um can you hold this life your life and
[33:48] the life of the others around you with
[33:50] that gaze of compassion?
[33:52] And say, "Yeah, it's hard."
[33:55] And not to be afraid to
[33:59] keep your heart open anyway.
[34:02] So, this is part of what you're learning
[34:04] in these practices is expanding the
[34:06] window of tolerance.
[34:08] Um being able to be present for
[34:14] what Oscar Wilde called the tainted
[34:16] glory of humanity.
[34:19] You know? [snorts]
[34:20] And we know how tainted it is. How messy
[34:23] right now and divisive and how much, you
[34:27] know, with the continuing
[34:29] um
[34:31] hatred and racism and
[34:34] um
[34:35] conflict and so forth, but we're also so
[34:38] much bigger than that.
[34:40] And you get to be the Buddha.
[34:42] You know, I was just with the Dalai Lama
[34:44] in India in Dharamsala and he's 90 and
[34:46] he sort of pulled back mostly from
[34:48] teaching, but he still will do blessings
[34:50] and his the field of his kindness is
[34:52] palpable.
[34:54] Um it was it was it was really special.
[34:58] Um
[34:59] and people say, "Well, he he has a great
[35:02] laugh." And he laughs a lot. And how can
[35:05] you be so happy when there's also so
[35:09] much suffering in the world?"
[35:11] And he said, "Well,
[35:13] so much has been taken from me. I can't
[35:15] go to back to my homeland for 50 years.
[35:17] I can't go to Tibet. They have
[35:20] destroyed the monasteries, burned our
[35:22] sacred texts, throw the thrown our
[35:25] monks and nuns in the prison. They've
[35:27] taken so much.
[35:30] Why should I let them take my
[35:31] happiness?"
[35:37] Because if you go into a refugee camp,
[35:40] um
[35:41] it doesn't help to be depressed and
[35:43] frightened. They already have enough of
[35:46] that.
[35:47] Actually, and when I've been in refugee
[35:49] camps, when there are people that work
[35:51] there that have a kind of um tenderness
[35:54] and joy and courage,
[35:56] it helps everybody.
[35:58] My beloved Trudy, my wife, was working
[36:01] in a refugee camp in Chad on the border
[36:04] of Darfur, immensely poor, hardly enough
[36:08] food for the kids to get more than one
[36:10] meal a day.
[36:12] And she's an early childhood
[36:14] expert and a meditation teacher and a
[36:16] psychologist and a writer and all these
[36:18] kind of things, but she went to work cuz
[36:21] they wanted somebody who could help,
[36:24] especially the women in these camps who
[36:26] were under so much pressure and so
[36:29] difficult, and she taught them, you
[36:31] know, different kinds of
[36:33] childhood education things, and she also
[36:35] taught them mindfulness and stuff. And
[36:37] when she left, she said,
[36:39] "What was the favorite thing?" And she
[36:41] taught them ball games with the kids and
[36:44] how to teach them how to
[36:46] create um community and all these
[36:49] things, and they said, "Mindfulness."
[36:52] And she was surprised, and she said,
[36:53] "Why is that?" She said, "Because our
[36:56] past was so painful,
[36:58] and the future was so unknown, and
[37:01] you've taught us to open our eyes our
[37:03] hearts and our over eyes to be here
[37:05] where we are with one another."
[37:08] And I would never have expected that
[37:10] that would have been their answer,
[37:12] but it has a power
[37:14] to be present for this world in a kind
[37:17] of amazing way.
[37:19] And that is that
[37:22] in the Buddhist tradition, there is the
[37:24] notion of a Bodhisattva, a compound
[37:29] Sanskrit word. Bodhi means awakened, and
[37:33] sattva means being.
[37:35] And so it's a being who's committed to
[37:38] the awakening of all. The Buddha was a
[37:40] Bodhisattva working it out over a lot of
[37:43] lifetimes. By the way, he had trouble
[37:46] when he went home to his family.
[37:48] So did Jesus. So you should keep in mind
[37:51] whatever ideals you have about this
[37:53] stuff. Family is Thanksgiving's coming.
[37:56] I wish you well. Right.
[37:58] >> [snorts]
[37:58] >> But anyway, um
[38:01] the the
[38:06] >> [sighs]
[38:07] >> the vision of a Bodhisattva, and you can
[38:09] you can often you'll take Bodhisattva
[38:11] vows if you're in a Zen center and you
[38:14] sit in the morning, you do these great
[38:17] vows. Sentient beings are numberless. I
[38:20] vow to save them all. That's one of the
[38:23] translations of the four great
[38:24] Bodhisattva vows. There's a wee problem
[38:27] in this.
[38:28] And that is that when you go home,
[38:31] the people in your family don't want to
[38:34] be saved by you. You may have noticed
[38:36] that.
[38:37] So, it has to have some other meaning.
[38:40] And the meaning is that you turn your
[38:42] heart to compassion like the Dalai Lama
[38:44] no matter what has happened.
[38:47] Uh my
[38:49] my road my life, my energy is all
[38:53] committed to the well-being to
[38:56] alleviating suffering and the well-being
[38:57] of whoever I meet, whatever I see. And
[39:00] that's what it means to be a
[39:01] Bodhisattva.
[39:03] And and so but I'm going to I'm going to
[39:06] read one to you to to inspire you. Dalai
[39:09] Lama wakes up in the middle of the night
[39:11] at like 3:30 a.m.
[39:13] Um I hate getting up early, but I'm in
[39:16] the monastery, they would ring the bell
[39:18] at 3:30 a.m. and I go, "Oh, no. I got to
[39:20] get up. I wanted to sleep." But anyway,
[39:23] and his vow from Shantideva
[39:27] is um may I be medicine for the sick.
[39:32] May I be
[39:33] a resting place for the weary. May I be
[39:35] a lamp for those in the darkness. Um may
[39:39] I be an inspiration for beings
[39:42] everywhere into all of us um awaken into
[39:46] connection and love and liberation. And
[39:49] may I do it as long as the sun and moon
[39:52] and the galaxies exist. So, the
[39:54] Bodhisattva kind of takes the long long
[39:57] view in case you're worried about the
[39:59] next election cycle, you know. It's like
[40:02] much much much bigger vision.
[40:04] And here's a modern Bodhisattva vow for
[40:07] you. I'm going to read it and then I'm
[40:09] going to ask you to sit quietly just for
[40:12] a minute or two
[40:13] um and think about if you were to take
[40:17] the inspiration of these practices to
[40:20] see deeply into the heart of another
[40:23] being, their sorrow and their joy, and
[40:26] their vastness,
[40:28] um what would your bodhisattva vow be?
[40:32] This one from poet Diane Diane Ackerman,
[40:35] a friend.
[40:36] She writes,
[40:39] in the name of daybreak
[40:41] and the eyelids of morning
[40:44] and the wayfaring moon
[40:47] and the night when it departs,
[40:50] I swear I will not dishonor my soul with
[40:54] hatred
[40:55] but offer myself humbly
[40:57] as a guardian of nature,
[41:00] a healer of misery,
[41:02] a messenger of wonder,
[41:05] and an architect of peace.
[41:08] Of course, she's a beautiful poet.
[41:10] But I invite you to close your eyes
[41:12] since we've come together in this way
[41:14] tonight.
[41:16] As we finish.
[41:20] And if you were to write a little
[41:22] bodhisattva vow for yourself,
[41:25] and it could be very simple. I vow to be
[41:27] kind.
[41:28] Doesn't have to be a big long poem.
[41:32] What would it be?
[41:35] When you're ready let your eyes open and
[41:38] if you want before you get up or go, you
[41:39] can
[41:40] put it in your phone or something.
[41:42] Actually helps to write it down. So you
[41:44] kind of remember it.
[41:46] And it's an amazing thing cuz it's very
[41:48] tender to say, well, this is actually
[41:51] what my heart would commit itself
[41:53] [music] to.
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