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[0:00] I quit coffee two and a half years ago
[0:02] and it massively improved the quality of
[0:05] my life. So many of us rely on coffee
[0:08] just to feel normal. Now the question
[0:11] is, is that bad? Well, there is so much
[0:14] that you probably don't know about how
[0:17] caffeine affects your day-to-day, what
[0:19] it's doing inside your body, how it
[0:21] might be disregulating your nervous
[0:23] system, and how it's actually inhibiting
[0:26] your productivity and your creativity.
[0:29] despite the contrary belief. Yeah, it is
[0:31] actually very unnecessary and you will
[0:34] see why in this video. Now, most of us
[0:36] assume that coffee gives us energy, but
[0:39] it's actually just borrowing it from
[0:41] tomorrow, which never works out in the
[0:45] long run. So, we're going to dive into
[0:48] all of this today. And if you are a
[0:50] regular caffeine consumer, you really
[0:53] have to listen to this because I have a
[0:55] feeling um it might be quite surprising.
[0:57] I will also give you some tips on how to
[1:00] quit coffee or caffeine in general. And
[1:03] if you're not ready to give it up just
[1:05] yet, I will share with you how to keep
[1:07] drinking coffee without the side
[1:10] effects. Now, I'm not going to shame you
[1:12] for consuming coffee, but I will give
[1:14] you some insights and recommendations
[1:17] that will change your life. Okay? So,
[1:19] coffee is the most acceptable drug in
[1:23] the world. 90% of adults worldwide
[1:26] consume caffeine daily. making it the
[1:28] most popular psychoactive substance
[1:31] which really is crazy if you think about
[1:33] it because yeah the coffee plant really
[1:36] won. Now I work with a lot of clients
[1:39] who have seen other therapists and
[1:41] doctors before for you know panic
[1:43] attacks and anxiety and all sorts of
[1:46] issues like digestive issues, sleep
[1:48] issues and no one ever asked them how
[1:50] much coffee they drink every day. But
[1:53] when we then start eliminating or
[1:56] reducing their caffeine intake, I
[1:58] usually see incredible shifts within a
[2:00] week simply because their adrenals are
[2:03] getting a break from the daily
[2:05] stimulation. So why did I quit caffeine?
[2:07] Well, I loved it. I truly loved my
[2:10] coffee. I usually would have maybe one
[2:13] or two cups a day. I didn't think I had
[2:15] any issues with it, just like so many of
[2:17] us. I was like, "Nope, I'm good. I could
[2:20] quit at any point." Um, and so when I
[2:23] did want to quit, it was really more of
[2:25] an experiment. I just felt like it would
[2:27] be a good idea to try it out, to do a
[2:29] bit of a, you know, 30-day challenge or
[2:31] something. And I asked my wife and I
[2:33] said, "Hey, shall we do it just to see
[2:36] what it's like without coffee?" You
[2:37] know, life without coffee. And she's
[2:40] like, "Yep, let's do it." And so, here
[2:41] we go. Okay. Well, there's one thing
[2:43] that we did that I totally don't
[2:45] recommend. And that was quitting cold
[2:47] turkey. Not a good idea. I had massive
[2:50] withdrawal symptoms, my wife as well,
[2:52] and they were really extreme. I had
[2:54] massive headaches every day and brain
[2:57] fog. Like after about 11 a.m. just my
[3:01] energy levels would just drop for the
[3:03] rest of the day. So, I basically had to
[3:05] write off a whole week. So, that's
[3:08] basically how long it took. But then,
[3:10] wow, the effects were pretty incredible.
[3:12] I suddenly had consistent energy
[3:14] throughout the day. My sleep improved,
[3:17] my digestion improved by a lot. Uh, I
[3:21] was able to focus much better. I was
[3:23] feeling more present. It was pretty
[3:25] crazy actually. And looking back,
[3:28] knowing what I know now, coffee
[3:30] definitely intensified my anxieties, my
[3:33] internal pressure, which I really didn't
[3:35] know until I experienced life without
[3:38] caffeine. Like, I didn't know how much
[3:40] pressure and tension and anxiety I was
[3:42] carrying in my body until I quit
[3:44] caffeine. Plus, I already had digestive
[3:47] issues before for many years, and coffee
[3:50] definitely made those worse as well
[3:52] because after I quit coffee, those went,
[3:56] you know, things just got a lot better.
[3:58] Now, I just didn't know any of this.
[4:01] Like, I didn't know that these could
[4:02] potentially be the effects. No one ever
[4:04] asked. And, you know, drinking coffee is
[4:07] so normalized. It just never occurred to
[4:09] me that it could be bad for me, right?
[4:11] And so I'm still so glad I quit. To be
[4:14] honest, one reason I never want to go
[4:16] back to drinking coffee every day is
[4:18] because I just never want to go through
[4:20] quitting again. That was just terrible.
[4:23] And so knowing what caffeine does to my
[4:25] body and my nervous system, it yeah, it
[4:28] this whole thing blows my mind still.
[4:30] And I just don't want to be in this
[4:32] dependent relationship again and do this
[4:34] to my nervous system, right? Because the
[4:37] truth is like I had to find out coffee
[4:40] is totally unnecessary. My life is
[4:42] richer. It's better without coffee in my
[4:46] life. And that doesn't mean I don't
[4:49] drink coffee because I do enjoy a cup of
[4:50] decaf but just no caffeine. So what does
[4:54] caffeine do to your body and your
[4:56] nervous system? Well, for one, it causes
[4:59] an artificial stress response. And the
[5:01] emphasis here is on artificial. So keep
[5:03] this in mind. It does increase
[5:06] adrenaline and cortisol in your body and
[5:08] therefore it elevates your blood
[5:10] pressure, your heart rate. You're going
[5:12] to be breathing faster, all the signals
[5:15] and symptoms of a stress response. So,
[5:19] one cup of coffee increases your blood
[5:21] cortisol levels by 30 to 100% in 1 hour.
[5:25] Now this depends on your overall
[5:28] cortisol levels on the state of your
[5:29] nervous system but cortisol can remain
[5:32] elevated for up to 18 hours in the blood
[5:35] meaning it has a very long shelf life.
[5:38] Okay.
[5:40] So therefore caffeine mimics a stress
[5:43] response although there is no real
[5:46] stressor or threat present. Okay. Now,
[5:50] the problem with this is that we
[5:53] essentially break our body's boundaries
[5:56] by overriding
[5:58] things like exhaustion, freeze, and the
[6:00] need to rest. So, we basically ignore
[6:02] and reject our body's needs. So,
[6:05] whenever your body feels tired, right?
[6:08] It's telling you, "I'm tired." And
[6:10] you're like, "Oh, we're just going to
[6:12] drink a cup of coffee." You are
[6:13] overriding your body's needs. Okay?
[6:18] And so therefore, caffeine borrows
[6:21] energy from your future. It is energy
[6:24] that you do not have right now. And so
[6:27] you're borrowing it. Okay? You're
[6:29] creating it artificially.
[6:32] And that allows you also to break your
[6:34] ties to the rhythms of the sun. Now,
[6:37] what does that mean? Well, we can get up
[6:40] earlier, right? And then push our
[6:42] bodies, activate our bodies with
[6:44] caffeine even though the sun might not
[6:46] be up yet. Okay? Or we stay up late
[6:49] because we have a deadline, for example,
[6:52] and we just need to get it done and
[6:55] therefore we can drink coffee until late
[6:57] at night to stay up even though we
[7:00] should definitely already be going to
[7:02] sleep. And so many people today are
[7:05] already in a chronic stress response.
[7:07] And many of us are not aware of that.
[7:10] Most of us aren't, right? because it's
[7:12] so normalized in our culture and
[7:17] therefore coffee can exacerbate an
[7:20] already stressed body. So if you're
[7:23] already experiencing a lot of stress,
[7:25] you're really busy, um maybe you have
[7:27] all sorts of symptoms going on like
[7:29] panic attacks, sleep issues, anxiety,
[7:31] disregulated nervous system, overall
[7:34] digestive issues,
[7:36] your daily coffee can make these worse.
[7:41] Now let's look at blood cortisol levels
[7:43] over 24 hours. Okay, so you see here
[7:46] that our cortisol levels, they spike in
[7:49] the morning. Okay, and they do this for
[7:51] all of us. This is a very natural um a
[7:54] very natural response in our bodies
[7:56] because this way we actually wake up and
[7:58] then we get out of bed and we're ready
[8:00] to start the day and get going and get
[8:02] active. Okay, this is what nature wants.
[8:05] We want these elevated cortisol levels
[8:07] that eventually then drop off, right?
[8:09] and then they um they decrease as the
[8:13] day goes on and um you know they're very
[8:15] low when we're asleep and then the next
[8:18] morning again cortisol levels rise we
[8:20] wake up we get out of bed start the day
[8:22] okay this is what happens so now when we
[8:26] have a disregulated nervous system we
[8:29] might already be producing more cortisol
[8:33] than what we should be producing okay
[8:35] this is this um yellow line here okay
[8:38] and the blue line here actually is what
[8:40] I would consider burnout. So if someone
[8:43] um is experiencing burnout, chronic
[8:46] fatigue, right? There might actually be
[8:48] a decreased level of cortisol production
[8:51] in the body. But usually that happens
[8:54] because we've been producing so much
[8:56] cortisol. We've been chronically
[8:58] chronically stressed for so long that
[9:00] eventually our body breaks down. Okay?
[9:01] And then we end up in chronic fatigue,
[9:04] burnout, and whatnot. So, but what's
[9:06] important to see here is so let's say we
[9:08] have an already disregulated nervous
[9:10] system
[9:11] and we then drink caffeine early in the
[9:14] morning, right? We wake up, we drink
[9:16] coffee, our natural cortisol levels are
[9:20] already elevated and then we drink
[9:22] caffeine. So then what happens? are
[9:24] cortisol levels rise even more and stay
[9:28] elevated for the rest of the day because
[9:30] remember cortisol's or caffeine's shelf
[9:33] life is about 18 hours. Okay, that also
[9:35] means that our cortisol levels will be
[9:38] raised for about 18 hours. And high
[9:41] cortisol levels, they can mess with
[9:44] basically everything and all the systems
[9:46] in your body.
[9:48] You know, when it stays too high for too
[9:51] long, it really starts to wreck havoc in
[9:54] our bodies. Especially for those of us
[9:56] that are chronically dysregulated, are
[9:58] experiencing chronic stress. And as I
[10:01] said, most of us don't even notice that
[10:03] that's what's going on because it's so
[10:05] normalized. Um, we might be
[10:08] experiencing, you know, anxiety, brain
[10:10] fog, um, reactivity. So, we just get
[10:13] frustrated, angry a lot. Um, your sleep
[10:15] might be compromised, right? You might
[10:17] feel really wired at night, struggle to
[10:20] sleep through the night, exhausted in
[10:21] the morning. Your metabolism might be
[10:24] totally out of whack. You know, you
[10:26] might be struggling with gaining weight.
[10:27] Maybe you have blood sugar crashes,
[10:29] sugar cravings. Um, it also impacts your
[10:33] heart and immune system. You know, you
[10:35] might have inflammation, um, all sorts
[10:38] of things. And also your hormone levels,
[10:40] right? So maybe you're experiencing
[10:41] fertility issues, low libido, PMS, and
[10:45] so on and so forth. So cortisol affects
[10:48] many many systems in our body. So when
[10:51] we mess with cortisol, we mess with all
[10:53] of our systems. Once again, if you're
[10:55] already in an hyperactivated state,
[10:58] okay, you're dealing with overwhelm,
[11:00] nervousness, poor sleep, high anxiety,
[11:02] healing from trauma maybe, or any sort
[11:05] of chronic health issues and chronic
[11:06] pain. Caffeine sort of stacks more
[11:09] activation onto an already overloaded
[11:12] system. Right? So if you look again
[11:15] here, the yellow is an already
[11:17] overloaded system and caffeine just
[11:20] stacks itself on top. Okay? And so
[11:24] caffeine will most likely heighten those
[11:27] symptoms
[11:29] now many people they drink coffee to
[11:31] focus better. Right? And it's important
[11:35] to know though that the clarity from
[11:37] caffeine, it often mirrors
[11:39] hypervigilance
[11:41] which is not necessarily focus but
[11:43] really a survival state sharpness. Okay.
[11:47] Yes, caffeine increases activity in the
[11:49] brain and nervous system and it does
[11:51] make us more alert. Yes, definitely. But
[11:54] that clarity is it's not natural
[11:58] clarity, right? It's not a natural
[12:00] activity. It is it is simulated
[12:04] essentially, right? It mimics a stress
[12:06] response and that's why we're actually
[12:08] experiencing focus, but it's really um
[12:11] it's really hypervigilance in a way. So
[12:14] the downside is that coffee means it's a
[12:18] whole body stimulation. It's not just
[12:20] brain targeted. So if we drink coffee
[12:23] because we want to focus better, well,
[12:26] it doesn't just affect our focus. It
[12:27] also affects our adrenals or hormones or
[12:30] gut or heart, right? They all get hit.
[12:34] And here's an image, a diagram just um
[12:38] showing you all the systems that are
[12:40] affected by caffeine, right? Our brains,
[12:43] our breath, um we have to pee more,
[12:46] right? Uh our hor hormones and blood
[12:49] sugar levels, um digestion, you know,
[12:52] our blood vessels constrict, like it
[12:54] affects everything.
[12:56] And so if you're struggling with freeze
[12:58] or depression or ADHD,
[13:00] yes, caffeine might be really attractive
[13:03] as a means to help you temporarily push
[13:06] through or focus better, but these are
[13:10] already disregulated states. And so
[13:12] caffeine disregulates you even more.
[13:15] Okay? ADHD, depression, freeze, they're
[13:18] all disregulated states. And so usually
[13:20] by consuming caffeine, they usually get
[13:23] worse. And here's the thing, most of us,
[13:26] we don't need more sympathetic activity
[13:28] in our systems. We need more
[13:29] parasympathetic activity, especially if
[13:32] you are already wired, adrenalized, or
[13:35] you're recovering from trauma, you know,
[13:37] you're having anxiety and whatnot,
[13:39] caffeine might be reinforcing
[13:41] dysregulation more than it is helping.
[13:44] And many of us don't even realize. Like,
[13:46] I did not realize this for many, many
[13:48] years, and I see this with so many of my
[13:50] clients. And so to recover from chronic
[13:53] stress and trauma, our body, it needs to
[13:56] come out of fight or flight and actually
[13:59] go into repair and rest into
[14:01] parasympathetic mode, which is really
[14:03] hard to do when we're pumping caffeine
[14:06] into our veins every single day. And you
[14:09] might think it's just one cup of coffee.
[14:12] Well, it's it is just one cup of coffee.
[14:14] And it's not just one cup of coffee
[14:16] because that's what I used to do. I only
[14:18] had one cup of coffee and I would think
[14:20] gh not a big deal right it's just one
[14:23] cup per day but actually it is a very
[14:25] big deal because it's every single day
[14:29] and because the shelf life of c of
[14:31] caffeine and therefore the increased
[14:34] levels of cortisol are very very long.
[14:38] Okay, just a quick look here at the
[14:40] seessaw of stimulation. Basically this
[14:43] reflects a day in the life of your
[14:46] nervous system. Okay. So um down here
[14:49] the the um the lower part is the
[14:52] parasympathetic response and we have the
[14:54] sympathetic response fight or flight and
[14:56] up here we have hyperarousal. Um the
[14:59] yellow line here is sleep and um the the
[15:03] pink line here is the level of
[15:04] activation in your nervous system. And
[15:06] so, you know, we're sleeping, we're
[15:08] sleeping, and then we wake up and, you
[15:10] know, things already kick off like
[15:14] checking uh our messages, checking our
[15:17] emails, and then we have our coffee and
[15:20] so on and so forth. And uh there's
[15:23] meetings in the afternoon at work. And
[15:25] then maybe we have an argument with our
[15:27] partner via WhatsApp. And you know, our
[15:30] activity in our nervous system spikes.
[15:33] We go a little bit into hyper arousal
[15:35] and so on and so forth. We come home, we
[15:37] have dinner, we watch Netflix, uh we
[15:39] might drink a glass of wine or maybe a
[15:42] beer and then we go to sleep and uh well
[15:45] we try to go to sleep, we struggle to go
[15:47] to sleep, many of us do. So in the
[15:50] morning there's a lot of stimulation
[15:52] happening especially with coffee, right?
[15:54] We adrenalize our bodies and then in the
[15:57] evenings we basically sedate ourselves
[16:00] with wine, with sugar, with Netflix,
[16:03] with doomcrolling, with smoking weed.
[16:05] And so this is what we call the seessaw
[16:07] of disregulation. The body never really
[16:11] gets to rest. It is constantly bouncing
[16:14] between extremes, between sim
[16:16] stimulation and sedation. It's
[16:19] constantly going up and down, but it's
[16:20] never actually
[16:22] uh going into a proper parasympathetic
[16:25] state as we go about our day and
[16:27] actually get some rest, right? Because
[16:29] we're constantly stimulating or sedating
[16:32] our bodies, but the sedation isn't
[16:33] really true parasympathe parasympathetic
[16:36] activity.
[16:38] So, here's my number one advice.
[16:41] Eliminate caffeine.
[16:44] This is the essence of my message in
[16:46] this video. Um it is the quickest way to
[16:50] reduce cortisol production to elevate
[16:52] the production of DHEA which is the
[16:55] leading anabolic youth hormone. DHEA is
[16:58] a hormone involved in various bodily
[17:01] functions like the immune system, the
[17:03] cardiovascular system, the reproductive
[17:05] system, nervous system health and so on.
[17:09] And here are a few tips on how to quit
[17:11] caffeine. Don't do it like I did it.
[17:14] Okay? rather than going cold turkey
[17:17] because it's totally not recommended.
[17:19] Here's a few recommendations. Number
[17:21] one, give yourself a week or two to slow
[17:24] down to actually slowly wean yourself of
[17:27] caffeine. Okay? So, slowly reduce the
[17:30] amount that you drink every day. So,
[17:32] let's say you're drinking two cups per
[17:33] day, start drinking just one cup per
[17:36] day. And then eventually, maybe you have
[17:39] um one cup, but it's half coffee and
[17:42] half decaf. Okay? And then eventually
[17:46] you get to a place where you are down to
[17:48] zero. And then the question is, well,
[17:50] what kind of beverage am I going to have
[17:52] in the morning? I need my morning
[17:54] beverage. And I do too. And I tried out
[17:56] all sorts of uh coffee alternatives that
[18:00] are decaffeinated.
[18:02] And eventually we switched to decaf,
[18:05] which has a very very low percentage of
[18:08] caffeine. I think it's maybe 3%. Um, and
[18:13] that's what we mostly have. There are
[18:14] some really awesome decaf beans out
[18:17] there these days. High quality. Um, and
[18:20] or cacao is also really awesome. Love
[18:23] myself a good cacao. Again, there's a
[18:25] little bit of caffeine in it. Um, but
[18:26] it's pretty negligible.
[18:28] And or um, you know, try out all the
[18:31] different kinds of herbal teas out
[18:33] there. There's uh, there's so much out
[18:35] there and there's a lot more
[18:37] alternatives to coffee than I've listed
[18:39] here. Um, but overall I recommend you do
[18:42] maybe something like a 90-day
[18:43] experiment. 30 days is usually not
[18:45] enough to really see the effects and um,
[18:47] you know, but after 90 days you're going
[18:49] to have a really good idea as to what
[18:52] life is without uh, coffee and uh,
[18:56] really see and reap the benefits and and
[18:58] really feel like what a regulated
[19:00] nervous system feels like. Now, here's
[19:03] some advice if you're not ready to quit
[19:05] caffeine, because I totally understand
[19:07] that you might not want to go down this
[19:10] route just yet. Maybe you will
[19:12] eventually, but here's my advice. Number
[19:16] one, timing matters. Okay? So, don't
[19:20] drink coffee right after waking up.
[19:22] Cortisol, right, our wake up hormone,
[19:25] it's supposed to peak naturally in the
[19:27] morning. And therefore give your body
[19:30] those 90 minutes after waking up and for
[19:33] the cortisol to peak and then as it
[19:36] comes back down that's when you can have
[19:38] your cup of coffee without messing up
[19:40] your cortisol levels too much. Right.
[19:42] Number two, eat before you consume
[19:45] caffeine. Have some protein, some fats,
[19:48] some fiber. It really slows down
[19:51] caffeine absorption. It stabilizes your
[19:54] blood sugar levels and it buffers the
[19:57] intensity of caffeine.
[20:00] Then number three, the dose matters.
[20:03] Okay. Um, most people drink two to four
[20:07] cups of coffee, right? Or just when they
[20:09] feel they need it, but often times it's
[20:12] more about habit than it is about
[20:13] functional benefit. So, I really
[20:16] recommend that you start cutting your
[20:18] usual amount in half and then observe
[20:22] when do you actually need a second cup
[20:27] or just do drink your coffee as like
[20:30] half decaf. Okay? It's it's a really
[20:32] good trick um to to drink half caffeine,
[20:35] half decaf. It allows you to get a boost
[20:38] from the caffeine while still enjoying
[20:41] the flavor and the ritual and whatever.
[20:44] and it lowers your caffeine intake.
[20:46] Generally, I would recommend come down
[20:48] to one cup per day. Drink it 90 minutes
[20:51] after you get up, after you had your
[20:53] breakfast, or maybe if you do want
[20:56] another cup in the afternoon, then drink
[20:57] these two cups per day, but make them
[20:59] half decaf. Okay? And then number four,
[21:03] stop drinking coffee after 1 p.m. That
[21:06] is a really big recommendation.
[21:08] Remember, caffeine has a very long shelf
[21:11] life in our bodies. Um, for some people,
[21:16] I don't know what it is, they can drink
[21:18] coffee all day long and they can still
[21:19] sleep pretty well. Although, I would
[21:21] really love to see their uh sleep
[21:24] patterns um as in like maybe uh using an
[21:27] Aura ring or whoop strap and really
[21:29] track their sleep and then um while
[21:31] they're drinking coffee and then have
[21:33] them quit coffee and then see how that
[21:35] changes, right? Um, but drinking coffee
[21:38] midday has shown to decrease your body's
[21:42] ability to make melatonin, which is our
[21:45] sleep hormone. It's the the hormone
[21:47] that's responsible for helping you fall
[21:49] asleep. And so, the best would be to
[21:52] stop drinking coffee um after 100 p.m.
[21:57] And uh here again is a little graphic um
[22:01] showing you the relationship between
[22:03] caffeine and cortisol. Again, here is
[22:06] the peak, right? Usually in the morning,
[22:08] your cortisol peak. And so, if you drink
[22:10] your coffee 90 minutes after you wake
[22:13] up, right? As your cortisol levels come
[22:16] back down, then um then that's a way
[22:19] better way to consume caffeine.
[22:22] All right. Now, here, this is really
[22:24] important, and I'd really like you to
[22:26] take the time to reflect on these
[22:27] questions. At best, you maybe sit down
[22:29] and journal on them.
[22:32] Here we go. Number one, who would I be
[22:34] without my daily coffee? Number two,
[22:39] what am I actually craving when I reach
[22:42] for coffee?
[22:44] Number three, what sensations or
[22:47] feelings am I overriding with caffeine?
[22:50] Mhm.
[22:52] Number four, what would happen if I
[22:54] allowed myself to fully feel the
[22:56] tiredness? That's a big one for many of
[22:59] us. Number five, what belief do I carry
[23:03] about productivity that makes coffee
[23:05] necessary?
[23:08] Number six, what parts of me feel unsafe
[23:11] slowing down?
[23:14] Number seven, am I in relationship with
[23:16] coffee or independency?
[23:20] And last question number eight, what
[23:22] fear arises when I imagine a week
[23:25] without caffeine?
[23:27] There's some shadow work for you.
[23:30] And I'd love to hear your thoughts on
[23:33] all things coffee, caffeine,
[23:35] and I would love to read them. So, drop
[23:38] them below this video in the comments.
[23:41] Let's talk about it. Don't be shy. No
[23:44] shame. And with this, I hope you learned
[23:47] something. Take care and I'll see you
[23:48] soon. Bye.