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[0:00] that somebody died today who was very
[0:02] close to me.
[0:03] And we are talking about death today,
[0:05] right? So, it's kind of synchronistic.
[0:08] The archetypal patterns rear their heads
[0:10] up. Yeah, I think it will only sink in
[0:13] for me in the coming
[0:15] days or weeks
[0:17] because right now um
[0:20] I'm busy with logistics and solving
[0:24] things, sorting things out.
[0:26] And worrying about the living as opposed
[0:28] to the dead.
[0:30] Um
[0:31] but uh my relationship with death has
[0:33] changed so much the past few years
[0:36] that um I'm I I I I still feel warmth.
[0:40] Um
[0:41] I don't feel despondent. Um it's
[0:44] surprising. You know, you only know
[0:46] whether philosophy really sunk in in
[0:48] situations like this. Um otherwise, you
[0:51] may just be talking and not living it.
[0:54] And I'm I'm pleased to report that um it
[0:57] is possible to really live it.
[1:00] authentically like an inescapable fact
[1:02] of nature that
[1:04] it's just how things are. I think
[1:08] there are two things
[1:10] that I think are useful for us to
[1:14] to get over, to to get past.
[1:17] Um
[1:19] one is
[1:23] this need
[1:26] to differentiate
[1:29] a
[1:30] between or a wish-fulfillment dream or
[1:34] hallucination
[1:35] from some objective reality. That
[1:38] distinction makes sense
[1:41] in this state of mind we occupy right
[1:43] now.
[1:44] Because being dissociated from the
[1:46] world, the world does what it does
[1:49] regardless of what we think of it.
[1:51] So, there is this objectivity. Although
[1:54] it's mental space, it's still objective
[1:56] in the sense that the world is another
[1:58] mind.
[1:59] Um and then you can have a a theory of
[2:02] truth in which statements you make about
[2:05] the world can be true or false depending
[2:08] on whether they correspond to states of
[2:10] affairs in the world, and the world is
[2:12] not you.
[2:14] So, you have this correspondence theory
[2:16] of truth. What your mind pronounces can
[2:19] be or or cannot be true depending on
[2:22] whether it corresponds to an external
[2:25] mental states of affairs.
[2:28] Um,
[2:29] beyond dissociation, it makes no sense
[2:32] to insist on this distinction.
[2:35] So,
[2:37] the the the the
[2:39] the impetus to try to figure out whether
[2:43] post-death experiences are veridical
[2:47] is not
[2:49] consistent
[2:50] with the picture of death that we have
[2:53] from some form of objective idealism.
[2:56] Meaning,
[2:58] it's just as valid to say that
[3:01] post-death experiences are always true
[3:04] as it is to say that none of them are
[3:05] ever true.
[3:07] There is no distinction between these
[3:09] two
[3:10] poles
[3:12] because
[3:14] uh
[3:16] there is no external reference against
[3:19] which to compare
[3:21] the spontaneous products of your mind
[3:25] when you
[3:26] when you're not in this individualized
[3:29] state that we occupy right now.
[3:32] In other words, reality and imagination
[3:35] become the same thing.
[3:38] So, it is all imagined, and it is all
[3:41] real.
[3:42] It it it's not a contradiction. So,
[3:45] that's one thing to get past, um,
[3:48] and many traditions philosophical and
[3:51] spiritual traditions in the in the West
[3:54] try to articulate this. It's very hard
[3:56] to articulate this in our cultural
[3:58] environment today because most people
[4:00] become disappointed with it. It's like
[4:02] you're stealing from them their
[4:05] cherished concept of what is real.
[4:08] Because if you collapse that with what
[4:10] is imagined, then you sort of you you
[4:13] lose the ground from under your feet.
[4:15] While
[4:17] uh
[4:18] the ground will still be there and to
[4:20] and to will be the same we have ever
[4:23] always had.
[4:24] But this too is imagined. Maybe it's not
[4:27] imagined by the particular products
[4:29] inside your dissociative boundary. But
[4:32] this too is a play of mind.
[4:34] So reality and imagination, this
[4:36] distinction we try to make
[4:38] uh overcoming this, I think, is very
[4:42] useful to
[4:45] sort of opening up to the after-death
[4:49] state when it comes, because it will
[4:51] come for all of us. Thank goodness.
[4:53] Uh nobody's condemned to this forever.
[4:57] Um
[4:58] so it's the first thing to think about.
[5:01] It's sort of try to get used in life to
[5:04] the arbitrariness of that distinction.
[5:07] Um
[5:09] may make the transition easier.
[5:11] And then I said there were two things.
[5:12] This was one.
[5:13] Um
[5:14] the other one I forgot.
[5:17] Um
[5:18] there was something else. Oh, yeah.
[5:22] Um
[5:23] another thing that is useful to overcome
[5:28] is too much analytic thinking.
[5:32] Um analytic thinking is a game we play
[5:34] here.
[5:36] Um it caters to cultural conventions
[5:39] of a particular geography and a
[5:41] particular moment in time and a
[5:42] particular species.
[5:44] Um
[5:47] there is no reason to think that
[5:50] analytic reason holds sway afterwards.
[5:53] Analytic reasoning is shaped by
[5:55] evolution in these particular monkeys we
[5:57] are.
[5:58] Um it's
[5:59] its foundations are not etched in stone
[6:02] in nature. Actually, they're very shaky.
[6:04] Um the logic is based on
[6:08] ungrounded axioms.
[6:10] Um,
[6:12] that you cannot defend without circular
[6:14] reasoning.
[6:15] Um,
[6:18] so
[6:19] understanding this in life and knowing
[6:21] that analytic reasoning right here,
[6:23] right now is extremely useful.
[6:25] Uh, but also knowing that it may not be
[6:28] foundational and that may there may
[6:29] become a time where we just have to
[6:32] calmly let go of it. I think that's very
[6:35] useful and
[6:36] why? Let me give you a concrete example
[6:39] of how useful that can be.
[6:44] A fantasy,
[6:45] whether it is analytically consistent or
[6:48] not, a fantasy about death
[6:53] may be a lot more useful
[6:56] to you
[6:57] in navigating that state
[7:00] than
[7:01] the avoidance of all fantasies is
[7:04] analytic reasoning and empirical
[7:05] evidence.
[7:07] Um,
[7:09] it may be
[7:11] that
[7:14] the facts of the matter in the
[7:16] after-death state, because they are so
[7:18] incommensurable
[7:20] with evolved monkey cognition,
[7:24] you can never pin them down analytically
[7:27] and precisely.
[7:28] Like, it fundamentally we may not be
[7:30] able to do that because why would
[7:32] evolved monkey cognition apply
[7:35] to a state that was never part of the
[7:37] evolutionary game?
[7:39] Um,
[7:42] and in that case,
[7:45] all you are left with
[7:47] is which
[7:49] undefendable fantasy is closer
[7:53] to the state you will find yourself in.
[7:56] In other words, you cannot get rid of
[7:57] the fantasy, you just have to choose the
[8:00] best or the least worst
[8:02] fantasy.
[8:03] And we can measure the best and and or
[8:06] the least worst fantasy as that which
[8:09] puts you in an inner state that is in as
[8:12] much resonance with your future after
[8:15] death reality
[8:16] as possible.
[8:19] In other words, we are back to how
[8:21] science began.
[8:23] Convenient fictions.
[8:25] That same approach beholds particularly
[8:28] now. So, in science, the convenient
[8:30] fictions are
[8:32] invented theoretical entities created
[8:35] such that
[8:36] the behavior of those theoretical
[8:38] entities, those fantasies,
[8:40] um is equivalent in some way to the
[8:42] behavior of the world. So, nature
[8:44] behaves as if those fantasies were true.
[8:46] The same applies even stronger to the
[8:48] after death state. You can have a
[8:49] fantasy
[8:51] that puts you in a mental state
[8:54] um that acquiesces to that new state of
[8:57] mind. In other words,
[8:59] a very convenient fantasy
[9:02] that um is such that um your reality
[9:06] after death behaves more or less as if
[9:09] those fantasies were true.
[9:12] So, you are looking for that fantasy
[9:15] that your reality in that state
[9:19] will be
[9:20] as if the fantasy was true.
[9:23] were true.
[9:26] So, um let me give you a concrete
[9:28] example. I use this in my own life and
[9:31] it's
[9:32] particularly relevant today.
[9:35] This is my fantasy and I'm fully aware
[9:36] that it's a fantasy and I'm also fully
[9:38] aware that
[9:40] fantasy is the best we can have
[9:43] when we try to abstract beyond the state
[9:46] of life. It's like your dream avatar
[9:48] trying to understand what is the waking
[9:50] state. The best your dream avatar can do
[9:53] is to have a fantasy.
[9:55] Like if you could enter lucidly in
[9:58] somebody else's dream and tell that
[10:00] person, "No, you know,
[10:02] your real body is not here.
[10:05] It's not behind the mountains. It's not
[10:07] in another country.
[10:08] Your real body is
[10:11] it not in this dream.
[10:13] I mean, how do you explain that to a
[10:15] dream avatar?
[10:17] How do you explain the reality of what
[10:19] is really going on to somebody who is
[10:21] fully taken in by the dream?
[10:23] Where is his real body? What is his real
[10:25] identity? Or her?
[10:28] Where Where Where is Where are they?
[10:31] How do you explain to them in the dream
[10:33] where they actually are?
[10:36] Point Point it to them. Are they left?
[10:38] Are they right? Are they up in the sky?
[10:41] Are they in Hades below the ground? No,
[10:43] none of those places. It's
[10:44] incommensurable.
[10:46] All
[10:47] a dreamer can have
[10:49] in terms of a story about the waking
[10:51] state is a proper fantasy.
[10:53] And that fantasy would go like, I will
[10:55] still be alive.
[10:57] Um
[10:59] it will be transcendent.
[11:02] Which is all true. Think about it from
[11:04] the point of view of your dream avatar,
[11:06] reality is totally transcendent. It's
[11:09] totally beyond the dream, completely
[11:11] incommensurable with the dream, and
[11:12] doesn't follow dream logic at all.
[11:16] So, right now we are the dream avatars.
[11:19] So, the best we can do, just in the same
[11:21] way, is to have a good fantasy. So,
[11:24] here's a fantasy.
[11:26] Everybody who dies in your life is one
[11:29] more person in your welcoming committee
[11:32] when you pass on yourself.
[11:35] And
[11:36] that fantasy gets richer over time.
[11:40] Not only the people you know, but the
[11:41] people you admire.
[11:43] And there is even some analytic
[11:45] grounding for that in the idea of life
[11:47] complex seas.
[11:49] But if you focus too much on the
[11:51] analytic part, you you you miss out on
[11:53] the depths and the richness and the
[11:54] warmth of the fantasy. So, I think
[11:57] entertaining and nurturing
[12:00] healthy
[12:02] somewhat grounded fantasies of the
[12:04] afterdeath state
[12:06] um is very useful, very conducive not
[12:10] only to a good life, uh but also
[12:12] conducive to truth because you're not
[12:14] between betraying truth by entertaining
[12:17] fantasy. The moment you realize that you
[12:20] can never have anything other than a
[12:22] fantasy.
[12:24] So you are not betraying truth. You
[12:26] would only be betraying that if there
[12:28] were an analytic empirically grounded
[12:30] alternative.
[12:31] And if you knew that logic was etched in
[12:34] stone in nature, you you have none of
[12:36] those things. You know none of those
[12:38] things. If anything, you know the
[12:39] contrary to be true.
[12:41] Um so your only mediation with truth is
[12:45] a form of fantasy. So you might as well
[12:48] choose the one that resonates most with
[12:50] us.
[12:51] And we know them because they are the
[12:52] ones that make us warmer.
[12:54] Um fantasies that sound great and still
[12:57] don't make us warm are not our
[12:59] fantasies. They are not the ones that
[13:01] stand to help us
[13:05] be in that mental state that is most
[13:07] conducive to what comes um beyond
[13:10] dissociation.
[13:12] And and that fantasy may be personal
[13:15] because it may use the language of the
[13:16] particular archetypal mix that we
[13:18] embody, the particular
[13:21] symbol dictionary and thesaurus that
[13:23] we've accumulated during our lives
[13:25] because of the particular experiences we
[13:26] had. So fantasies change. They may all
[13:29] be pointing to the same thing, but the
[13:30] fantasies change. So
[13:33] I would
[13:34] I
[13:35] I I have given myself analytic
[13:38] permission
[13:39] to nurture the fantasy
[13:42] that resonates with me the most in full
[13:45] awareness that that's the best I can do
[13:47] in the name of truth.
[13:48] When I said earlier today
[13:51] Oops. Okay, one more member of my
[13:53] welcoming committee has crossed over and
[13:56] is waiting on the other side.
[13:59] I mean this less metaphorically than you
[14:01] might
[14:02] I'm not saying that I mean it literally.
[14:06] No.
[14:07] I don't mean it completely literally,
[14:08] but I mean it less metaphorically than
[14:11] you may
[14:12] take me to be saying it. And the reason
[14:15] for that
[14:17] is what I said in the very beginning of
[14:19] this meeting.
[14:23] The difference we make between
[14:25] imagination, fantasy, and reality loses
[14:28] its meaning beyond the dissociative
[14:30] boundary.
[14:32] Beyond the dissociative boundary, it's
[14:34] mind manifesting itself to itself.
[14:39] So,
[14:40] if my mind manifests
[14:43] all those life complexities
[14:47] waiting
[14:48] for me to
[14:49] change my state of mind, then
[14:52] it's less metaphorical
[14:55] than you might take me to be saying it.
[14:58] But, it's not literal because if I say
[15:01] it's literal, then I'm surrendering to
[15:03] the very division that I am denying.
[15:05] The division between real surface
[15:08] reality and mental mind manifesting
[15:11] reality. So, I cannot use the word
[15:13] literal because I've I would be
[15:15] defeating the very thing I'm trying to
[15:17] do.
[15:18] Um
[15:20] but an over emphasis on the word
[15:23] metaphorical
[15:24] has the same effect. It also
[15:28] acknowledges that boundary.
[15:30] You see what I mean?
[15:32] So, when you refute that boundary, when
[15:34] you say I'm not going to operate based
[15:37] on this invented boundary between a real
[15:40] non-mental world and a mind manifesting
[15:42] world in which imagination is reality.
[15:45] If I deny that distinction,
[15:48] I have
[15:49] to deny both
[15:51] literal and metaphorical truth.
[15:54] Well, all that is left is what is true.
[15:58] All that is left is mind manifesting to
[16:01] itself.
[16:02] And
[16:04] and then you might think, "Okay, but
[16:07] if if
[16:08] if Bernard is saying that his mind will
[16:10] manifest all those people, then they
[16:12] aren't really real, all right?"
[16:15] No.
[16:16] Um
[16:17] they are real in exactly the same way
[16:20] they were real when they were alive.
[16:22] They too were mind manifesting. My mind
[16:25] manifesting.
[16:27] So, their reality status does not
[16:30] change.
[16:32] Uh
[16:33] This this is super difficult to do
[16:36] because
[16:37] >> [clears throat]
[16:37] >> to say to explain because
[16:41] in all my writings
[16:43] I
[16:45] concede
[16:48] to the categories of our culture.
[16:52] And I operate
[16:54] based on those categories without
[16:56] questioning them. So, I talk about mind
[16:58] and matter, uh will and and and and
[17:02] representation,
[17:03] and all these distinctions, objective
[17:06] reality and mind manifesting reality.
[17:10] And the rules of logic and past and
[17:12] future, subject and object. So, it's the
[17:15] game I chose to play or I'm destined it
[17:18] to play, which is
[17:21] to participate in the culture and meet
[17:23] the culture where the culture is. Cuz
[17:25] that's the only way to be pragmatically
[17:27] effective today. It's to meet the
[17:29] culture where the culture is. Otherwise,
[17:32] the culture just insulates itself from
[17:34] you.
[17:35] And you have you you don't achieve
[17:36] anything. So, to achieve something, you
[17:39] have to descend into the delusion where
[17:42] most of the people are
[17:45] and meet them there, and then together
[17:49] try to build critical mass to find our
[17:50] way out. So, I concede to these
[17:53] categories.
[17:54] But the ones if you if you're really
[17:56] paying attention to what I wrote to what
[17:58] I say, you realize that
[18:00] I must deny a great many important ones
[18:04] of those categories.
[18:06] Including the distinction between
[18:07] imagination and reality because there is
[18:09] no such distinction.
[18:11] So,
[18:12] your past loved ones were acts of
[18:15] imagination.
[18:17] Maybe not an act of imagination of your
[18:19] alter
[18:21] of this particular segment of mind that
[18:23] you identify yourself with right now.
[18:25] But an act of your imagination.
[18:31] Because you are the only thing that has
[18:32] there ever been.
[18:35] So the reality status of your of your
[18:39] imagined
[18:40] welcoming committee
[18:42] when you die is exactly the same.
[18:46] Strictly speaking, it's exactly the same
[18:50] without qualification
[18:53] of those loved ones of yours when they
[18:55] were alive.
[18:56] But even analytically and conceptually
[18:59] if you really take analytic idealism to
[19:01] heart, you you must conclude because
[19:04] it's an inevitable logical consequence
[19:07] that reality and imagination are not
[19:09] different ontological categories.
[19:12] Uh the only thing that gets confused is
[19:14] the attribution of identity.
[19:16] When when you identify with a mental
[19:18] process that is not doing the imagining,
[19:20] now it's real to you.
[19:23] But when you do identify with the mental
[19:25] process that is doing the imagining, now
[19:27] you think it's unreal.
[19:30] That's the only thing that is happening.
[19:32] It's the attribution of felt identity.
[19:35] Depending on where you place that
[19:37] attribution, things may feel real or
[19:40] unreal to you.
[19:42] If you are the imaginer
[19:45] and you identify with the imaginer, then
[19:47] it's just imagination, it's not real.
[19:50] But if you don't identify with the
[19:52] imaginer and you're being exposed to the
[19:54] products of the imagination
[19:58] as being produced by a
[20:00] imagining process that you don't
[20:02] identify with, now it's real to you.
[20:05] In other words, we associate reality
[20:07] with lack of control and and and
[20:11] lack of um
[20:12] agency.
[20:14] Uh
[20:15] reality must be that which is outside
[20:19] the scope of our agency.
[20:23] Um the hard, cold facts.
[20:26] And we went so far down that road that
[20:29] now we attribute reality not only to
[20:31] what is outside the scope of our mental
[20:34] agency, we attribute it only to what is
[20:36] outside mind itself.
[20:39] Um.
[20:40] Um, and
[20:42] but if you sort of reel your way back to
[20:46] the ground level of being uh,
[20:48] conceptually and experientially um
[20:52] you will see that this is a game of
[20:54] identity attribution and that's it's not
[20:56] a game of ontology. It's not a game of
[20:59] reality status.
[21:00] Um, it it's a game, pure and simple game
[21:04] of identity attribution. Through I did
[21:07] think it through, um, but I didn't just
[21:09] think it through. It's something I I I I
[21:12] am a play I'm applying today.
[21:14] Today, hoops, my welcoming committee
[21:16] just grew by one face.
[21:20] So, um,
[21:21] as I get older
[21:24] the warmth of death
[21:26] deepens.
[21:28] Becomes richer. It becomes more and more
[21:31] something to look forward to.
[21:34] I mean, not to mention the fact that
[21:35] getting out of this trance is like,
[21:38] goodness
[21:39] gracious me. I mean, that that already
[21:42] pays off, right? You It's like
[21:44] Adyashanti said once, no, no, not
[21:46] Adyashanti. Who was it who said it?
[21:49] Ram Dass.
[21:50] He said, um,
[21:51] "Dying is like removing a very tight
[21:53] shoe."
[21:56] So, there is that payoff instantly.
[21:58] Whatever
[21:59] Whatever preparation you did or didn't
[22:01] do, whatever you believe or didn't
[22:03] believe uh, that tight shoe being
[22:06] removed, instant gratification. But it
[22:08] it can go
[22:09] it can go deeper.
[22:11] >> This was an excerpt from one of our
[22:13] weekly meetings with Bernardo Kastrup
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