The Secure Woman: Group Emotional Healing Retreat for Women

The Secure Woman is a group emotional healing retreat for women in Santa Fe, New Mexico, led by Jana Wilson, founder of The Emotional Healing System™, with co-facilitator Dr. Lance Wilson, MD. It is written for women who over-give, overthink and lose themselves in relationships, who live with anxious attachment or a fear of being abandoned, and who have done talk therapy but still see the same patterns return.

The retreat draws on psycho-spirituality, nervous system regulation, inner-child work and experiential processes. It is not talk therapy. The emphasis is on working directly with the past rather than discussing it: finding root causes, releasing stored emotional pain, and building steadier ways of responding. Each retreat is kept small, with four to seven women.

What to Expect

The work follows four stages, each building on the last.

- Awareness. You look at your core emotional triggers, your reactive behaviors and the internal narratives that shape your decisions.
- Excavation. You go deeper, safely accessing and processing suppressed emotions, early conditioning and false beliefs formed in childhood.
- Integration. You work with parts of yourself you have disowned, build emotional regulation in real time, and practice moving from reaction to conscious response.
- Creation. With a new internal foundation, you define how you show up in relationships, how you lead your life and how you respond under stress.

Past participants describe teaching sessions, conversation, a sound bath, a drum ceremony, hypnotherapy, breathwork, guided meditation, reparenting meditation and shadow work as part of the experience. Nature hikes and grounding practices are woven in. You also take home an in-depth workbook and practical tools for carrying the work into daily life.

About Jana Wilson

Jana Wilson is the founder of The Emotional Healing System™ and has more than 20 years of experience guiding individuals and groups through deep emotional work. She leads the retreat and shapes its structure.

About Dr. Lance Wilson

Dr. Lance Wilson is a medical doctor who co-facilitates the retreat. He brings an understanding of the mind-body connection to the work, helping hold a container that is safe, direct and deeply engaged.

The Setting

The retreat takes place at The Healing Barn in Santa Fe, a private, quiet property surrounded by natural beauty and open space. Meals are whole-food and locally sourced.

Accommodation comes in three styles:

- Private room: the Black Beauty Private Room has a queen bed and direct outside access to the Cowboy Bath. The White Beauty Room is a semi-private studio with a queen bed and the sound of a waterfall outside.
- Shared room: the XL Twin Beds Shared Room, inside the Healing Barn, has two XL twin beds and suits two people. Shared rooms are also available in the glamping tents.
- Luxury glamping: the Pinon Glamping Tent is a canvas tent with a veranda, a queen bed, a heated mattress pad and a wood stove. The Red Cedar Glamping Tent has boho decor, queen bunk beds, a heated mattress pad and a wood stove. Both have a private bathhouse a short walk away.

All beds have down comforters and cotton linens.

Before You Go

Sessions are held in English. The fee covers full retreat access, the structured healing sessions, meals, the workbook, nature hikes and grounding practices, and your accommodation. Travel to Santa Fe is not included. Enrollment closes once a retreat's small number of places fills. Past participants mention optional pre-work sent ahead by Jana, which let them use the retreat days for the work itself.