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[0:00] All right, welcome to the Buddhist
[0:02] Wisdom Podcast. Um, I am joined here by
[0:05] Matt Ledmer. Welcome, Matt. It's great
[0:07] to have you here.
[0:08] >> Yeah, thanks for having me, Scott.
[0:10] >> Yeah, I think we have a really, really
[0:12] wonderful conversation for you all. Matt
[0:14] is uh not only a wonderful human being,
[0:17] uh, now an author of an amazing book,
[0:19] but also a good friend. So, I think we
[0:22] have a good one here for you. Um, so
[0:24] Matt, before we jump into uh talking
[0:26] about your book um and and some of the
[0:28] other things we wanted to talk about
[0:30] today, I thought I'd just introduce you
[0:31] a little bit to the audience um with a
[0:34] short bio. So uh Matt Ledmer is uh the
[0:37] founder of Aligned Wealth Management and
[0:39] the Alliance Center in Irvington, New
[0:41] York. After earning his MBA from the
[0:44] University of Chicago Booth School of
[0:46] Business, he spent four decades in
[0:48] wealth management. Uh starting as one of
[0:50] the first wealth managers at Morgan
[0:52] Stanley. He later became a director at
[0:54] Morgan Stanley and Donaldson uh
[0:57] Lufkinate where he co-created and led
[1:00] the firm's largest wealth advisory group
[1:02] uh before launching his own firm Align
[1:04] Wealth in 2013. A devoted student of the
[1:08] world's great wisdom traditions, Matt
[1:09] has immersed himself in non-dual
[1:11] Judaism, Tibetan Buddhism, integral
[1:13] theory, and meditation. His work as a
[1:15] wealth manager, teacher, and author
[1:17] integrates rigorous financial principles
[1:19] with contemplative practice to help
[1:20] clients move from achievement to
[1:23] fulfillment and from financial success
[1:25] to what he calls true wealth. Matt lives
[1:28] in New York with his wife, Michelle. Uh
[1:30] they have three daughters and two
[1:31] granddaughters. Congrats on that. And um
[1:34] you just gifted the world with this
[1:36] beautiful book uh titled The Right
[1:38] Mountain: Practical Wisdom for Achieving
[1:40] True Wealth uh by both of you. And
[1:43] there's a co-author. Yeah. Christine
[1:45] Kristen uh Kai
[1:46] >> Kristen K.
[1:47] >> Kristen K. Y.
[1:49] >> Awesome. Well, again, big welcome, Matt.
[1:51] It's really awesome to have you here.
[1:53] It's it's really a pleasure.
[1:55] >> Scott, it's great to be here. We've
[1:56] talked about this for a while. I'm glad
[1:57] we're doing it.
[1:58] >> Yeah. Yeah. Me, too. Um, and just for
[2:01] some context also for for listeners out
[2:04] there on YouTube or any podcast uh or
[2:06] the podcast is streaming. Um, you know,
[2:10] for a while I was telling you Matt, I've
[2:12] been wanting to have some conversations
[2:14] on Buddhism, Dharma, meditation,
[2:18] spirituality, and money because often
[2:21] this topic is thought of as sort of
[2:23] like, you know, the antichrist.
[2:25] [laughter] sort of like, you know,
[2:27] you're not spiritual if you're if you're
[2:29] into money or care about money or take
[2:32] care of money, right? And
[2:34] >> I I actually been wanting to have this
[2:36] conversation with you for a while. I
[2:37] mean, you and I have it on a personal
[2:39] level all the time,
[2:40] >> but I've been wanting to have you on for
[2:42] this very, you know, topic, but now this
[2:45] wonderful book has been released, which
[2:46] actually covers a lot of that,
[2:49] >> right? Uh, and more. Um,
[2:52] >> so I I thought if you wouldn't mind kind
[2:53] of we could start there. And um,
[2:57] >> you know, I I have my own views on this,
[2:58] but I'd really like to hear yours first.
[3:00] And so, you know, basically, you know,
[3:03] as we both know and and and probably
[3:05] others can relate to, many people who
[3:07] really take meditation practice
[3:08] seriously, uh, either in the Buddhist
[3:10] realm or another India tradition or, you
[3:12] know, some other faith like you said, a
[3:14] nondual Judaism or something like that.
[3:16] Um, often I see people keeping money in
[3:20] a separate compartment and um, you know,
[3:23] before we get into sort of remedying
[3:24] that, I I kind of wanted to know like
[3:27] did you ever do that and uh, and if you
[3:29] did, what made that uh, separation
[3:31] unsustainable for you?
[3:33] >> Oh, that's really interesting.
[3:35] >> You know, I think everything works in
[3:36] stages just like um the gradual path of
[3:39] awakening. Um, for me, money was early,
[3:43] right? It was introduced early. Uh my
[3:45] dad had given me Think and Grow Rich as
[3:47] a teenager and it kind of went into my
[3:50] awareness. I didn't My parents didn't
[3:51] have much money. Uh we were solidly
[3:54] middle class. My dad sold staples and
[3:56] nails up the New Jersey turn up and down
[3:58] the New Jersey Turnpike. I mean every
[4:00] day he would do like 200 miles. And I
[4:02] remember the back of his car was just
[4:04] full of staple guns. And um my mom
[4:06] worked for Acme Rivon Screw as a
[4:08] secretary. So for me it was like a very
[4:12] pragmatic issue. I saw that um a lot of
[4:15] kids were doing things that we weren't
[4:17] able to do. So it became, you know, it
[4:21] became important to me to to try to
[4:23] remedy that at some point in time.
[4:25] Initially, I was ignorant to money and
[4:26] all all of life, right? It wasn't until
[4:29] I got around in my 20s that I figured,
[4:31] oh, what I should what should I do with
[4:33] my life? And um so from a purpose
[4:36] standpoint looking at my dad who really
[4:39] was my first teacher
[4:41] um we could talk about that but um I
[4:45] realized like oh no like what's going to
[4:47] happen when they get older you know I
[4:49] got to do something. So when I graduate,
[4:51] I went to Ruckers and when I graduated
[4:53] Ruckers, I remember I took my my law
[4:55] boards and I met with my economics
[4:56] professor and she goes, "You're not a
[4:59] lawyer. You're a businessman." And and I
[5:01] was the assistant business uh manager
[5:04] for the school newspaper. We putting
[5:05] 18,000 papers out daily. Um and she was
[5:09] right. And and thankfully she gave me
[5:11] good advice. You know, that one
[5:12] conversation that changes everything. If
[5:14] Hope Corman, you're listening, thank you
[5:15] so much. It was the best advice I ever
[5:17] got.
[5:18] uh she she was like uh you know she was
[5:21] like a guru looking through me and could
[5:22] see the future. Um and she helped put me
[5:25] on the path to um first dealing with
[5:29] money um because I went to business
[5:31] school and but at the same time when I
[5:34] was 18 I had um met senior students of
[5:38] Chugum Chump Rimpache. So, I had I had
[5:42] two lives going on, but the life that
[5:44] really was in action um they both were
[5:48] in action, but the the one that really
[5:50] called it I had a work I had work to do
[5:52] was the money life
[5:55] career.
[5:56] >> Yeah. And so, so in a way what what
[5:59] you're sharing is like they weren't
[6:01] necessarily in conflict because they
[6:02] were just two interests at a very young
[6:03] age.
[6:04] >> They were just two interested on two
[6:05] different lanes. And I figured, okay,
[6:06] you know,
[6:08] >> um,
[6:09] the reason my dad was a great teacher
[6:11] for me is cuz he modeled stuff that I
[6:13] didn't find in the money world.
[6:15] >> And I saw it in the dorm world, but at
[6:16] the time,
[6:19] um, I was a student in cognito, if you
[6:22] will. Like I wasn't a part of any dharma
[6:24] group. Um, I had met with some senior
[6:28] students of of Trunk Boache and I
[6:30] started studying on my own. In fact, he
[6:32] would take people away for the 3-month
[6:34] retreats and um uh I didn't never go on
[6:38] those. In fact, I never really were
[6:40] involved in song at all from the time I
[6:42] was 20 till I was 40. Trump talked about
[6:45] rhinoceroses and parakeetses. And
[6:48] rhinoceroses are people just sit sit and
[6:50] sit and parakeetses, you know, they're
[6:52] like they're talking to each other and
[6:54] everything. So, I was a rhinoceros from
[6:56] the time I was 20 to the time I was 40.
[6:59] And but what I would do was I would try
[7:01] to get his books his three-month
[7:03] seminaries
[7:04] um that he or two month seminary that he
[7:07] would distill into these books and I
[7:09] would go to eight books and I would
[7:11] unfortunately some students I guess sold
[7:13] them. So I would just buy them and just
[7:16] study them. So you know I was here I am
[7:18] the Chicago sitting with a seminary book
[7:21] on you know hinana mahay out. I couldn't
[7:24] get the vajadriana ones. had in
[7:25] permission for those at the time and I'm
[7:28] just studying. So I had this very you
[7:31] know different life of different lanes
[7:34] but the lane that socially was happening
[7:37] for me because socially I didn't really
[7:39] know many other practitioners was 19
[7:42] uh 82 to 84 when I was in business
[7:46] school or 78 to you know it really
[7:48] wasn't mainstream like it is now. So,
[7:52] um, it was kind of like at a certain
[7:55] point I had to come out of the closet
[7:56] cuz I literally was a closet
[7:57] practitioner
[7:58] >> as a rhinoceros. And it's hard to fit a
[8:00] rhinoceros in a closet, let me tell you.
[8:01] [laughter]
[8:04] >> And and just for the for the audience, I
[8:06] I know Chung Purmiche uses that analogy
[8:09] or metaphor to represent more the style
[8:11] of the Pride Buddha, right? Like the
[8:12] solitary practitioner. Yeah.
[8:14] >> Correct. Correct. Correct. And um there
[8:18] was a story about how I crossed over
[8:20] into being a parakeet though. I can tell
[8:21] you that. But to your question
[8:24] >> um you know both were very vibrant for
[8:27] me. Both the outer world and the systems
[8:31] and the wisdom that one needs in in
[8:32] outer systems and the inner world. And
[8:36] um they both were very tangible, very
[8:39] real, very alive. And they both required
[8:42] a view. You know, you learn about the
[8:44] view on the interiors, but there was a
[8:45] view on the exteriors as well. And I'm
[8:47] realizing, wow, what's, you know, every
[8:51] outside has an inside and every inside
[8:54] has an outside. Of course, I'm talking
[8:55] dualistically, but that's sort of the
[8:57] the world of appearances. So, if I'm
[8:59] spending all my time on the inside and
[9:02] not the outside, that seems pretty
[9:03] imbalanced. And if I'm spending time on
[9:05] the outside, well, every outside has an
[9:08] inside. So it always was very odd to me
[9:11] that there camps that actually would
[9:14] push away an aspect of reality and it
[9:17] wasn't until I started studying integral
[9:18] theory that I really understood that um
[9:21] and for those of you who you know we
[9:23] could talk about that at the right time
[9:25] but um to some extent
[9:28] it really pointed out to me that you
[9:31] can't reduce outside to inside you know
[9:35] certainly at the early part of your
[9:36] career it's just you're going going to
[9:38] study them individually just like you're
[9:40] going to study the hinana and the
[9:41] mahayana you know you're going to you're
[9:43] going to do it gradually and and it's
[9:45] good because you to get the knowledge
[9:47] you need to focus you know for me to
[9:49] make um progress on my path in my 20s to
[9:54] to I was 40 you know I needed to go on a
[9:56] solitary retreat I needed to just study
[9:57] I needed to do the concentrated work
[10:00] likewise in the world I needed to do
[10:04] concentrated work I needed to gain the
[10:06] skill set so that when I walked into a
[10:07] group of people uh you know and and I
[10:11] was in the belly of the beast of 1980s
[10:13] you know bonfire the vanities Wall
[10:15] Street um you know you needed to be able
[10:18] to convince someone that you actually
[10:20] knew what you were saying and you could
[10:22] lead them financially um but because I
[10:26] had this sort of Buddhist understanding
[10:28] of the view and I realized it's the view
[10:31] that's going to help investors too
[10:33] because there's a view that goes on with
[10:34] investors and if you are confident in
[10:37] your view just like if you faith in the
[10:38] view you're going to get the results
[10:40] that you need. So um things sort of came
[10:44] together but initially they were apart.
[10:46] So to answer your question is I did them
[10:48] separately. You know a lot of people who
[10:50] are very spiritual they do all their
[10:52] spiritual work early and then they got
[10:53] to catch up to their finances and there
[10:55] are other people who do their finance
[10:56] work early and it you know and then they
[10:59] got to catch up with their spirituality.
[11:00] It's a very rare that I'm meeting people
[11:02] who've done them simultaneously.
[11:05] Um I don't want to proclaim that I did
[11:07] but I had inklings of it at least. You
[11:10] know there was like I I was never happy
[11:12] completely in one camp because I felt
[11:14] like um okay I'm sitting in a in a
[11:17] headquarters of Morgan Staley in a
[11:19] meeting. I'm thinking wow this this the
[11:22] level of reification here is so high.
[11:25] And then when I would go, you know,
[11:27] later uh in later years when I'd be on
[11:30] retreat and or or and I'd think, wow,
[11:32] you know, talking about money is kind of
[11:34] an anathema to many people. And um yeah,
[11:39] it it's it's an interesting bifurcation,
[11:42] but just like all bifurcations, they're
[11:44] all it's all conceptual. It really has
[11:46] no reality. We just create these
[11:48] conditioned biases from our parents, you
[11:51] know, from our way we grow up. And in
[11:53] fact, the reason why I call my book the
[11:54] right mountain is because so many of us,
[11:56] whether it be the interior, you know,
[11:58] oriented people or those who are more
[12:00] exterior, um, yeah, you you you you
[12:04] eventually have to find your way out of
[12:06] your conditioning. And part of getting
[12:08] out of conditioning is getting rid of
[12:10] old concepts that don't serve you
[12:12] anymore. So for those of you who are
[12:15] quadrant dominant to the exterior, you
[12:17] know, my Wall Street friends or my
[12:19] interiorist friends, uh, you know, who
[12:22] tend to be more spiritual, like, you
[12:24] know, it's it's really it's really
[12:26] important to respect relative reality
[12:28] and its fullness and realize it's
[12:30] conceptual distinctions that are some
[12:33] they're really biases.
[12:36] Um, and and I understand it, by the way.
[12:38] I understand it because it's not like
[12:40] damage hasn't been done by exteriorists
[12:43] who just understand that solely and you
[12:46] know likewise if if you've been
[12:48] meditating your whole life and your
[12:49] family is saying hey you know we're
[12:51] we're supporting you we need you know
[12:53] there's there's like step up here guy or
[12:55] woman you know and and
[12:58] so so to get to the point where you're
[13:00] feeling
[13:02] not assaulted by this but by
[13:05] understanding like okay this is the
[13:06] totality
[13:08] How do I how do I just be with it
[13:11] completely?
[13:12] Um and and and not allow the my
[13:15] conditioning to stop me from
[13:18] participating in in reality fully.
[13:22] >> Does that help? Am I getting close?
[13:24] >> It more than helps. I think you know
[13:25] we're going to we're going to double
[13:27] click on a bunch of what you said
[13:28] including we we'll get into the
[13:29] quadrants which were part of the book
[13:30] and you know for those of you
[13:32] >> Yeah. I'm trying to stay more from just
[13:33] the feel level of this because
[13:36] >> um yeah it's very easy to get what I
[13:38] call quadrant do you know dominant to
[13:40] one aspect of reality and think that's
[13:43] the fullness and you know um it it it
[13:49] pain results you know you know when pain
[13:51] results you know you know that you need
[13:53] to look at something and um you know I
[13:56] see a lot of people in pain
[13:59] in the full spectrum of what I'm talking
[14:01] out.
[14:02] >> Yeah. Yeah. As you put you either either
[14:05] biased towards the exterior or more
[14:06] biased towards the interior. You know,
[14:08] just just briefly, I mean, you know me,
[14:11] but maybe the audience doesn't know
[14:12] this. I was heavily biased towards the
[14:14] interior for for many many years. Uh uh
[14:16] that culminated in spending nine years
[14:18] as a monk. And um I you know I think one
[14:22] of the one of the key lessons when I uh
[14:26] uh returned you know my monastic vows
[14:28] and and entered householder life again
[14:31] was like it was you know kind of an oh
[14:33] moment of like
[14:35] >> oh I have to like you know face my
[14:40] demons around money and and really
[14:42] that's what they were and and I like
[14:44] that I like that that you termed it bias
[14:46] because for me that was very I mean it
[14:48] still is true. But it was very true uh
[14:51] when I had to work with this anti, you
[14:53] know, I I was a little bit more to the
[14:55] extreme of like almost like not quite
[14:57] anti-money cuz we all need money. I
[14:59] needed money as a monk, too.
[15:01] >> But more anti of like, oh, it's all sort
[15:03] of, you know, delusion to sort of pursue
[15:05] it, etc., you know, things like that. Um
[15:08] and so so you know obviously I had a lot
[15:11] of work to do and continue to have work
[15:13] but but I you know it did show up as a
[15:15] bias as a sense of
[15:18] >> um this thing is bad or wrong but
[15:20] actually when I really looked into that
[15:22] bias you know which which I'm curious
[15:23] what you see in in in you know clients
[15:26] or or you know people you come across
[15:28] when I really looked into that bias it
[15:30] was fear it was a lot of fear
[15:32] >> you know.
[15:33] >> Yeah. I mean, especially when the
[15:35] systems of the world have to be taught,
[15:37] like you can't meditate your way into
[15:38] understanding an external system. So,
[15:41] how do you deal with that, right? If no
[15:42] one's ever teach like my folks didn't
[15:45] have money, they never learned the
[15:47] system and how to work with it. And
[15:49] there and and one portion of reality is
[15:52] just how does the objective world work?
[15:56] And so you could just say forget about
[15:58] it, but you're going to do that at your
[16:00] own peril be because if you if if if you
[16:04] have the good fortune to meet people who
[16:06] will show you, who know um it really can
[16:10] help you. So, you know, it's it's good
[16:13] to learn it and not fight it um or deny
[16:16] it. And um it, you know, it's just how
[16:20] things work. I mean, for us to be on
[16:22] this call right now, I have to have a
[16:24] computer and I have to have a mic and I
[16:26] there's certain systems that have to be
[16:28] in place. If I didn't, we wouldn't have
[16:30] this phone call. So, it's an aspect of
[16:32] reality. I mean, the Zoom, it's an
[16:34] aspect of reality that needs to be dealt
[16:36] with.
[16:36] >> Yeah. And real quick, kind there's so
[16:39] much here, but but I I do want to talk
[16:41] about true wealth. You know, your
[16:43] concept of true wealth in a second, but
[16:44] um just on that note,
[16:47] >> well, there was something I want to talk
[16:48] about that would maybe help a little
[16:50] bit. Um I came up with this notion of um
[16:54] and we'll talk more about integral
[16:55] theory, but through it I what I call the
[16:57] four noble purposes of money. And I
[17:00] think for my meditation friends and for
[17:03] my um friends that are more, you know,
[17:07] for lack of a better word, materialists,
[17:09] um I was just like, and to be empathetic
[17:13] to everybody, right? This is this is not
[17:15] like pointing fingers. Oh, you did
[17:16] something wrong or whatever. It's like
[17:18] no, we've all grown up with parents
[17:20] who've biased us in one or conditioned
[17:22] us in one way or another. Um, in an
[17:25] objective sense, one of the purposes of
[17:28] money is oxygen. You need oxygen to
[17:31] live. So, it's a noble purpose to make
[17:33] sure that you have oxygen. There's
[17:35] nothing not noble, you know, or denying
[17:38] that like I could live on nothing. No,
[17:40] you it it's taking care of your rent,
[17:43] taking care of your bills, you know,
[17:45] living under your, you know, your your
[17:48] expenses below your your your income.
[17:51] That is a noble thing to do and to do it
[17:54] well is to do it skillfully. And once
[17:57] that's taken care of then that's an
[18:00] outer part. The inner part is going on
[18:02] retreat using money to learn to develop
[18:05] your psychology if therapy is needed
[18:08] doing therap whatever your interior
[18:10] requires to make your interior life come
[18:13] alive. Um that is another noble purpose
[18:17] of money. And it's really more efforts.
[18:20] It's not like you're putting the same
[18:22] amounts of money in these four different
[18:23] things I'm talking about, but I'm just
[18:25] saying that if if four of them are
[18:27] happening, those are they're perfectly
[18:28] noble. If I someone's spending money to
[18:31] go on retreat to be more awake,
[18:34] beautiful. Beautiful. And and if those
[18:37] two things are happening, let's say, you
[18:39] know, you're taking care of yourself and
[18:40] you've you've done you've done your work
[18:43] quote unquote and you've done your
[18:44] practice, you're now in a position to
[18:46] help people with your another noble
[18:49] purpose is to be of benefit to others.
[18:51] Some relative needs money, you give them
[18:53] money. Some some you know organization
[18:56] that you love needs money, you give them
[18:59] money. You you become a supporter of
[19:02] other people. You're no longer asking
[19:04] for things. you're able to be there when
[19:07] people need you need need it. And that's
[19:10] another noble purpose of money for the
[19:12] purpose of helping other people. And
[19:14] then finally,
[19:16] um it's to actually change the systems.
[19:19] Like it it's one thing to criticize the
[19:21] system. It's another thing to use your
[19:23] money to change that system. So it's a
[19:25] noble purpose. Like I built this center
[19:28] here, the align center to try to embody
[19:31] what I'm talking about, not just make it
[19:33] some real It's a nice idea, Matt. I'm
[19:35] really happy you have this idea of true
[19:36] wealth. Can you tell me about I built a
[19:39] center in 2015 and Scott knows we've had
[19:44] you know quite a few rushets come
[19:46] through and teach here
[19:47] >> somebody's been here to teach you know
[19:50] it's really
[19:51] >> um some beautiful beautiful people
[19:53] >> and um and that is because I looked at
[19:57] systems I said well there's no place in
[19:59] Westchester
[20:01] you know that has a place where people
[20:03] can come the Westchester meditation
[20:04] center teaches out of here um you know
[20:07] an office that has m multiple purposes
[20:09] in the different dimensions of wealth.
[20:12] So I think I think these four noble
[20:14] purposes of money need to be fully had
[20:18] because I think people are under the
[20:20] mistaken notion that oh if you get more
[20:22] money you're just going to buy yourself
[20:24] like a nice car and like really nice
[20:27] house and get fully attached.
[20:29] >> Yeah.
[20:30] >> No, that's not necessarily how it works.
[20:32] It's a it's almost like energy that
[20:34] flows into these four different purposes
[20:37] and you're able to start an organization
[20:40] or help your child that's having
[20:44] difficulty. Um, these are in my opinion
[20:47] are are noble, but I know that I'm
[20:50] breaking through barriers to the, you
[20:53] know, people that find it money allergic
[20:56] like there's something wrong here. But,
[20:59] >> um, I do think it's a conditioning. I do
[21:01] think it's a bias that we need to as
[21:04] Buddhists like not accept.
[21:07] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And and there's
[21:10] so much there. And th those four noble
[21:12] purposes, they they to me they they
[21:15] sound progressive, but also almost you
[21:18] can see where someone enters, you know,
[21:20] from a spectrum where, you know, someone
[21:22] might have trouble just relating to the
[21:24] oxygen of money being at that level.
[21:26] >> Exactly. Exactly. And and if that's your
[21:28] whole life is just taking care of
[21:29] yourself, you're helping everybody
[21:31] around you.
[21:32] >> Yeah.
[21:33] >> Because they're not they now can focus
[21:34] on the people that need help where you
[21:37] don't. Yeah,
[21:38] >> you know, you've now given other people
[21:39] capacity and you have capacity
[21:43] >> the you know just real quick on the
[21:46] other side of this like I know you work
[21:47] with a lot of people who maybe
[21:50] um got how do you say it bias towards
[21:53] the side of the more material you know
[21:55] what what often people think of like
[21:57] like financial wealth is they think oh
[21:59] well that person was greedy or you know
[22:01] it's all about you know building the
[22:03] wealth so you can uh be somewhat of a
[22:05] hedenist or materialist but actually
[22:07] what you're saying is like actually that
[22:08] that is an im almost like an immature
[22:11] way of using one's money. It needs to
[22:12] grow up at a you know.
[22:14] >> Yeah. I mean growing up is um is one of
[22:17] the seven essentials of true wealth that
[22:19] I write about in the book. You know
[22:21] we'll get into you go from being
[22:22] egocentric to ethnosentric to
[22:24] worldcentric to cosmoscentric.
[22:25] >> Yeah.
[22:26] >> But many as they climb that mountain of
[22:28] what I call circles of concern,
[22:30] >> right? Our concern initially is
[22:32] ourselves and we grow out of it and we
[22:34] start to care about our family and our
[22:35] kids and uh then we care about our
[22:38] communities and then it just goes
[22:40] further and further and further and
[22:42] unfortunately
[22:44] um some people as they walk up this
[22:46] mountain they freeze and they they stop
[22:49] at ethnosentric and so everybody else is
[22:52] the other. Um so the same thing's true
[22:56] with finances in terms of these
[22:59] purposes, right? You could just identify
[23:01] everyone as being low on that mountain.
[23:03] And believe me, there's certainly a lot
[23:05] of people like that, but there's nothing
[23:07] endemic to money that puts you on that
[23:09] spot on the mountain.
[23:11] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Well said. Um I
[23:15] I I want to hear more on true wealth uh
[23:17] in a moment, but I before we wrap up
[23:19] kind of this this portion, you know, I
[23:21] did have have a question, but I think it
[23:23] gets even richer with this explanation
[23:26] of oxygen, you know, you know, for some
[23:29] as sort of the thing they need to work
[23:31] work on versus systems change. And I
[23:33] think um what do you you know I don't
[23:36] want we don't need to divert too much
[23:38] but I I I I've noticed and this could
[23:40] just be maybe
[23:42] more division happening via social media
[23:46] or just sort of more you know obviously
[23:48] we're we're we're in we've been in some
[23:50] divisive times in the United States for
[23:52] a while now. Um I I notice how do you
[23:56] say it? It's sort of like this sense
[23:58] that the system is rigged and so the
[24:03] oxygen part can feel like can can take
[24:06] the form of this person is choking me
[24:10] >> and I have no agency. So I'm curious
[24:12] like what you think about I know that's
[24:13] a kind of
[24:16] >> this is like um what it's making me
[24:18] think and I don't know if this is the
[24:19] answer to your question but it makes me
[24:20] think like
[24:23] there is um
[24:26] like sort of the reason I got interested
[24:28] in Tibetan Buddhism was because when I
[24:31] was a teenager I I got a book like Think
[24:33] and Grow Rich. My dad and I would watch
[24:35] the power of positive thinking. Uh we we
[24:39] Norman Vincent Peele at the Marble
[24:40] Collegian Church, you know, we're we're
[24:42] a Jewish family. We're watching, you
[24:43] know, Norman Vincent Peele at the church
[24:46] like talk about positive thinking.
[24:47] >> Yeah.
[24:48] >> And it is an early part of the
[24:50] developmental line. But a lot of people
[24:53] skip the line. Oh, positive thinking
[24:56] that's so juvenile. Oh, and imagining
[24:59] myself like achieving something that
[25:00] just seems so ludicrous.
[25:03] And there's almost an anti-competitive
[25:05] notion that you can't go out and achieve
[25:09] something and it's very disempowering
[25:12] and it is early development but it's
[25:14] sort of like chakras you know like if
[25:16] you develop your heart chakra and your
[25:18] head you know higher chakras you don't
[25:20] deny the lower chakras it that basically
[25:23] stops you from being effective in the
[25:25] Judaism they call it mahoot kingship you
[25:28] know you lose your kingly way or your
[25:31] queenly way you know and you are a ruler
[25:33] in your world. So take control. So in a
[25:37] sense the reason I left that part of you
[25:41] know I use that world because I
[25:45] understood the p the power of
[25:47] understanding my thoughts are things
[25:49] very early concept and using that to
[25:52] attain goals and then said to myself
[25:53] well this seems pretty juvenile. I can
[25:56] attain goals by using my mind. What else
[25:58] can I do? And that really is what led me
[26:00] to Tibetan Buddhism. But um there are
[26:04] other people who just skipped that step
[26:05] entirely. So that part of their mind,
[26:08] the part of basically, you know,
[26:10] bringing things in an alchemic way into
[26:13] the world has just been missed. And um
[26:17] it's there. It's there to be had. It's
[26:19] nothing embarrassing about it. You set a
[26:21] goal and you try to achieve it. Um and
[26:24] it is a lower chakra. It is not the
[26:26] higher. It is a truth chakra, not a
[26:29] beauty and goodness one, [laughter] you
[26:30] know. M
[26:31] >> and it's not that beauty can't be part
[26:33] of it because it's all one again. It's
[26:35] all they're not separate. But but if you
[26:37] don't identify that as something that's
[26:39] to work on um you know that kingship and
[26:44] that queenship doesn't really come into
[26:45] your life.
[26:46] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I I've heard a few
[26:49] Tibetan Buddhist teachers put this as um
[26:52] dignity like
[26:54] for Yeah. you know, and it's a respect
[26:57] for relative existence where you
[26:59] actually take control of it.
[27:00] >> Yeah.
[27:01] >> Um and uh and you the interesting thing
[27:04] is is it's so doable with limitless
[27:08] compassion,
[27:10] with loving kindness, with equinimity,
[27:13] with joy and empathetic joy. You you you
[27:16] can do the limitless ones while you're
[27:18] being in the world effectively getting
[27:21] things done. That one does not preclude
[27:23] the other.
[27:25] They're all They're all Russian dolls
[27:27] and they all self-contained within each
[27:28] other.
[27:29] >> Um.
[27:31] >> Yeah. Yeah. Wonderful. Yeah. I think for
[27:33] me it's it's just whenever
[27:37] I convince myself or, you know, or let
[27:40] myself believe somebody else owns my
[27:43] agency. It's it's a huge loss, you know.
[27:45] So,
[27:46] >> but I understand I understand why you
[27:47] would do that if you skip that step.
[27:49] >> Yeah.
[27:50] >> Say a little bit more about that step.
[27:51] just could
[27:52] >> well the step is you know you go from
[27:54] egoic to higher levels it's like bas you
[27:57] know and you need to have an ego to lose
[28:00] your ego
[28:02] >> right it's important to have a sense of
[28:04] self before you just jettison it
[28:06] >> so you understand its foibless and its
[28:09] all the different aspects of it that we
[28:11] know so well but if you just don't have
[28:14] a mere self at all that is dangerous
[28:17] that's neither
[28:19] problematic Um so I think having a
[28:23] healthy sense of self that ultimately
[28:26] you transcend and include you don't get
[28:28] rid of it completely um is an important
[28:31] step and I think a lot of people jump
[28:33] right over it into
[28:36] you know a very good things
[28:38] >> but it it it it can stop them from
[28:40] feeling effective in their life.
[28:42] >> Okay. Yeah. Yeah.
[28:43] >> Does that make sense? Am I
[28:45] >> Yeah. Yeah. No, it makes sense. I think
[28:47] I think I was thinking on again we don't
[28:50] have to linear here but I was kind of
[28:51] thinking on I noticed a lot of people
[28:54] feel despondent with uh mostly just sort
[28:57] of like feeling like a cog in a system
[29:00] where they're they're on a in a rat race
[29:03] or on a wheel that kind of thing.
[29:06] totally identify it's overwhelming
[29:08] especially the amount of new systems
[29:10] that are coming down and I guess there's
[29:13] a number of different responses to that
[29:15] and one of them is just it's like too
[29:17] much or you know but I think a lot of
[29:19] times it's just that
[29:22] um there's not a curiosity on how that
[29:24] works
[29:25] >> there's an automatic bias of like I
[29:28] don't want to learn that
[29:29] >> and that comes then how do you how how
[29:33] can you not feel like a victim of a
[29:35] system if you don't understand it. And
[29:38] and the coolest thing about
[29:40] understanding is you then can fix it.
[29:42] >> Yeah. Yeah. That that resonates with me
[29:45] a lot because I think you know when when
[29:47] we bring that understanding into the
[29:49] dharma it's very s it's very similar
[29:51] because in dharma it's not just lofty
[29:54] ideas. We're actually trying to
[29:55] understand a system of duka. We're
[29:56] trying to understand a system of
[29:58] dissatisfaction
[29:59] >> and then from there we can actually
[30:01] remedy it and do something about it.
[30:02] Yeah.
[30:03] >> Yes. Exact. Exact. Wow. That's exactly
[30:05] right. Exactly right. You know, it's uh
[30:08] it's it's you know, it's by chance that
[30:10] I would take the train every day into
[30:12] work. Okay. And my train I moved my
[30:16] family as far away from New York City as
[30:17] possible to commute when the kids were
[30:18] growing up.
[30:19] >> Uhhuh.
[30:19] >> It was about an hour and 15 minutes to
[30:21] an hour and a half by train. So I had
[30:23] like this study hall back and forth. And
[30:26] certainly it was my dharma train because
[30:28] I would study the trunka transcripts on
[30:31] the way in and on the way back. But I
[30:33] would also read the New York Times and
[30:34] the Wall Street Journal and Financial
[30:36] Times and um
[30:40] I didn't grow up this way but I learned
[30:42] the system because eventually just like
[30:44] in Dharma you see patterns.
[30:46] >> Yeah.
[30:46] >> You see patterns on how the world works
[30:49] and um you know just like finding gurus
[30:54] how it work with the mind you need to do
[30:57] that in all aspects of reality. So
[30:59] finding someone that's ahead of you on
[31:00] the path of understanding the systems of
[31:02] the world is a really good thing and
[31:04] then learning their dharma is a really
[31:07] good thing and then being amongst people
[31:09] who are doing that as a group is a
[31:12] really good thing. So Buddha Dharma
[31:13] doesn't just apply to the inner realms,
[31:16] it applies to the outer realms as well.
[31:18] >> Yeah. No, I love that. Yeah. And it's
[31:20] sort of like Yeah. It's not doesn't have
[31:23] to be the dharma, but it's it's a it's a
[31:26] truth of how something's working. And if
[31:27] we're ignoring that and we're not
[31:28] engaging, we're going to we're going to
[31:30] miss a whole part of, you know, giving
[31:32] life to our, you know, aspects of our
[31:35] life. Like you said, the quadrants.
[31:36] Yeah.
[31:37] >> Well, the beautiful thing is there are
[31:39] people that probably are friends of
[31:40] yours that know
[31:42] and um engaging them and learning from
[31:45] them. Like I just happen to be in this
[31:47] petri dish of Wall Street where I'm
[31:50] meeting people who know all this stuff.
[31:52] So I'm I'm sitting at their side like
[31:53] sitting at a at a side of a te of a
[31:56] great teacher and just listening and um
[32:00] doing that for days on end and then it's
[32:02] like oh I get what I need to do and it
[32:06] and in the book for those who don't have
[32:08] that kind of education I try to write
[32:10] about it in the work and wealth
[32:12] abundance part of true wealth. So in the
[32:15] four quadrants of true wealth, one of
[32:16] them is working wealth abundance and
[32:18] there is a view that that's important to
[32:21] know and I spent time with that and you
[32:24] know um I that's that's that's not a bad
[32:28] place to start.
[32:29] >> Yeah, it's a great segue into my next
[32:31] question which is
[32:32] >> I was doing that. I was doing that.
[32:34] >> Great. Perfect. Yeah, I appreciate that
[32:37] pulling me out of my doom gloom doom and
[32:40] gloom question. Um
[32:42] >> it's okay. It's a, you know, it's it's
[32:43] it's uh it's important to to acknowledge
[32:46] negativity where it is and and learn
[32:49] from it.
[32:50] >> Yeah. Because I just to close out a
[32:53] piece before we talk about true wealth a
[32:54] bit. Uh uh sorry to linger here but you
[32:57] know for me it was a big it was a really
[32:59] important shift moving from you know
[33:01] being afraid and anti-money
[33:04] anti-spiritual to doing the very thing
[33:06] you're talking about which is you know I
[33:08] just did it through YouTube and and
[33:09] other means and I continue to do it but
[33:11] to really take a you know take an
[33:13] interest in oh this is a system I need
[33:15] to learn like investing is important to
[33:18] learn not because I agree with everyone
[33:20] on Wall Street or I agree it's the best
[33:22] system in the world it's because it's a
[33:24] system that runs econ, you know, it has
[33:27] to do with economy. It has to do with
[33:28] with oxygen in one's life. And it's it's
[33:31] not about greed, it's about
[33:33] sustainability and and care. And so I,
[33:36] you know, I I think that idea, you know,
[33:39] even when you I mean, now it's becoming
[33:42] more popular just because as the we lose
[33:44] the the worth of our dollar more, more
[33:48] people are learning about investing. But
[33:49] but either way, I think the um so it is
[33:52] turning around. But I do meet people who
[33:53] are sort of just like, oh, you know,
[33:55] they get this idea, it's all, you know,
[33:56] there's it's that has to do only with
[33:58] greed when I think there's actually
[34:00] there's so much more to it. So I I did
[34:02] want to point that out, you know.
[34:03] >> Yeah. Yeah.
[34:04] >> Yeah.
[34:04] >> True.
[34:05] >> True.
[34:06] >> So So true wealth, this is this term in
[34:09] in your book. Uh and the you know,
[34:12] generally, you know, you argue in the
[34:13] book that the usual, you know, just like
[34:15] we're saying, the usual definition of
[34:17] wealth isn't complete, right? uh part
[34:19] part of that definition is part of what
[34:21] I was saying I believe but in plain
[34:23] terms uh what does true wealth mean to
[34:25] you now and you know of course in in the
[34:27] book you talk about it
[34:28] >> yeah
[34:30] so um in the year 2000 um I was in
[34:34] Scottdale Arizona at a like the
[34:37] materialist uh academy awards you know
[34:40] [laughter] where they were giving out
[34:42] awards for the people who had been the
[34:43] most productive at the firm and
[34:46] unbeknownst to me my wife and I, you
[34:48] know, flew out with everybody and and I
[34:51] was at Donaldson Lufkin and Jen and I
[34:52] won the award for being the largest
[34:54] financial adviser at the firm and I
[34:57] remember being called out and then
[34:59] coming up like it was like at the
[35:00] Oscars, you know, and they they did the
[35:03] fourth and then the third then the
[35:04] second then they announced and then and
[35:06] there 300 people in the room and they
[35:08] announced myself and my partner and I
[35:10] get this award and
[35:12] for a minute I felt good [laughter]
[35:16] and then I felt there The guy next to me
[35:18] said, "Hey, you know what? Um, Matt, um,
[35:22] next year I'm getting your spot." And I
[35:24] thought to myself, "Oh I have to
[35:27] do this again."
[35:29] And I realized I'm feeling really hollow
[35:32] right now. I'm supposed to feel
[35:34] fulfilled by achievement, but I realized
[35:36] that achievement is not fulfillment.
[35:39] It's at that moment and that was 2000
[35:42] and that sort of said but I'm the first
[35:45] one of the first trained wealth managers
[35:46] of Morgan Stanley
[35:48] this is wealth right
[35:51] no [laughter]
[35:53] it's really not then what is
[35:57] what is
[35:59] and obviously you know I was a dharma
[36:02] student I still am and and these other
[36:04] aspects of my life were were were there
[36:06] but I hadn't put it together yet as you
[36:08] as you you know which do you do first?
[36:10] These were all lanes. These were all
[36:11] separate lanes. In fact, on my at my
[36:14] 50th birthday party, I invited all my
[36:16] friends. Okay? So, I invited my Buddhist
[36:19] friends and my Jewish friends and my
[36:21] basketball friends and my home life
[36:23] friends and my relatives
[36:26] and barely anybody knew anybody.
[36:29] >> Yeah.
[36:30] >> Because everybody was in a separate
[36:32] spot. are I'm realizing my life is such
[36:36] is in such fragments and in not low
[36:38] levels right I mean it's not like I'm
[36:40] I'm skillfully in you know involved with
[36:43] people are teaching me things in all
[36:45] these different spheres
[36:47] but but they're different so I said how
[36:49] do I put all this together how do I
[36:51] unify this what do what is the way that
[36:53] I see that's where I started studying or
[36:55] had been studying and then started to
[36:56] put together integral theory
[37:00] because I needed to align all this how
[37:02] how do you put this together and I
[37:05] started to realize, wow, you know,
[37:08] another
[37:10] do I need to learn or become like a
[37:12] Buddhist teacher? Do I need to become
[37:14] another, you know, does the world need
[37:16] another financial advisor? Does the
[37:19] world need another social activist? I I
[37:22] think what, you know, does the world
[37:23] need another professor?
[37:25] >> I think what the world needs right now
[37:27] is um a way to look at everything
[37:30] together. How do we unify? Some of us
[37:33] sit in front of YouTube. I know you love
[37:35] YouTube.
[37:36] >> Yeah.
[37:36] >> And we learn a lot, but there's so much.
[37:38] It's It's like the Tower of Babel.
[37:40] >> It's a lot.
[37:40] >> What's the What's the view? We'll get
[37:42] back to what's the view that unifies it.
[37:46] >> So Ken Wilbur, who created integral
[37:48] theory, had the same thought.
[37:50] >> So he tried to come up with the in his
[37:52] book, The Brief History of Everything,
[37:54] one unified theory of everything. And
[37:58] when he realized he was at Duke
[38:00] University at the time, he took all the
[38:01] Maslo lab uh maps and the psychological
[38:04] maps and the physical maps of the the
[38:06] world and try to make one map and he
[38:09] couldn't do it. But what he realized is
[38:11] he could create four maps and one of
[38:14] them is the outer objective map, one of
[38:17] them is the inner subjective map, one is
[38:19] the culture map of how we connect in our
[38:22] inner lives together and the other is
[38:24] how these systems work. And you'll
[38:26] notice when I say these things. So what
[38:29] so what I did is I adapted that method
[38:31] and I said I wonder how that applies to
[38:33] wealth. And then I came up with the four
[38:36] um you know quadrants of true wealth and
[38:39] it's working wealth abundance on the
[38:41] objective side because is how do we
[38:42] apply it in our modern life? It's
[38:45] mindbody awareness on the subjective
[38:47] side. It's heartfelt community
[38:49] connections on the intersubjective side
[38:51] the cultural side. and it's systems
[38:54] knowledge on the objective side and my
[38:57] so when I looked at at being a wealth
[38:59] manager
[39:01] I'm only taking care of the upper right
[39:03] I'm only taking care of the objective
[39:05] wealth like that means threearters of
[39:07] wealth is not being dealt with by a
[39:10] quote unquote wealth manager how ironic
[39:12] is that
[39:14] >> and here I am I'm going on retreats and
[39:16] I'm and so I got to do something about
[39:19] this
[39:20] >> but on a personal level it sounds like
[39:21] you're doing you mean just mean
[39:23] professionally like how you were
[39:24] presenting it to clients or
[39:26] >> Well, no, this was going on both
[39:27] personal and professional.
[39:28] >> Got it.
[39:29] >> Yeah. Personally, I was thinking like
[39:31] how do I
[39:32] >> am I in balance? Where where do I need
[39:34] my work?
[39:35] >> Yeah.
[39:36] >> Right. Um at the time, my spiritual
[39:39] practice was really picking up and my um
[39:43] uh work wealth line seemed pretty good,
[39:46] but I was lacking community. I was
[39:49] lonely. I was taking the train in,
[39:50] taking the train back. I really, you
[39:53] know, the whole idea of community and
[39:55] culture is just I'm in the United
[39:57] States. I'm in Westchester. Okay. I
[39:59] think there's such a lack of community
[40:02] and everybody says it,
[40:04] >> but what people are doing about it. So
[40:06] that's when I created the Alliance
[40:07] Center.
[40:08] >> Yeah.
[40:08] >> A place where people can come together
[40:10] in community on all these different
[40:12] topics. Um and when I did that, I mean,
[40:16] my life radically shifted. you know,
[40:18] some pieces are coming to me, coming
[40:20] more together for me right now, too, and
[40:22] understanding you, Matt, because I think
[40:24] when we first met, I I think I met you
[40:25] at the Alliance Center, you know, where
[40:27] where you're, you know, joining us from
[40:29] right now. And I think my first question
[40:31] was like, actually, I did have the the
[40:33] the thought, what is this guy doing with
[40:35] this place? Cuz it was like [laughter]
[40:38] >> it was
[40:39] >> what's what's he doing, man? Well,
[40:40] because obviously like you know you had
[40:44] >> you had a lot of experience and uh um
[40:48] >> how do you say you know you've built up
[40:50] a life of abundance in some way in a lot
[40:52] of ways and then I I was trying to
[40:54] understand what is this place for but
[40:56] now I you know of course I learned you
[40:58] know what it was and then understood it
[41:00] more but now actually hearing how you
[41:02] describe the the quadrants and sort of
[41:04] what true wealth means to you the line
[41:06] setter makes so much sense it was a
[41:08] large part of your process
[41:09] >> yeah if you didn't If you don't have
[41:11] like a heartfelt community on fire in
[41:14] your life.
[41:15] >> Yeah.
[41:15] >> You know, you I go to other countries. I
[41:16] know you're in another country and I see
[41:18] the massive amounts of community.
[41:20] >> Oh, that's why I'm here.
[41:21] >> I am so jealous. I'm just like I want
[41:23] that. It's the it's it's that Harry bet
[41:26] Sally moment or you know where I want
[41:28] what she's got.
[41:29] >> You know, I want what you got.
[41:31] >> So I realized but I can't I don't want
[41:33] to move. I love my family. I want to be
[41:35] here.
[41:37] let me try to create a system, a new
[41:39] system or something new that would allow
[41:42] that to happen. And
[41:45] it it kind of just arose. And now I for
[41:48] a while there I was putting on a I I put
[41:51] on these things called profound parties
[41:53] where I invite the different people that
[41:56] use my center. Uh and I I stopped I did
[41:59] them from 2016 to 2022.
[42:03] I've been writing the book since then.
[42:04] But um and I would bring people together
[42:07] and and we get a lot of people and we
[42:10] would uh meditate together, we would
[42:13] have we'd eat together, we would dance
[42:16] together. Um and then we do a a we do
[42:19] some dharma or we do something that
[42:21] would be a learning experience. So um
[42:24] and the secret sauce of the place was I
[42:26] always had people here who were further
[42:28] along than other people on the path in
[42:29] all these different dimensions of
[42:30] wealth. there was always a lesson and we
[42:32] were in community. So in essence I was
[42:34] trying to spark community because I
[42:37] didn't I didn't grow up with it. I
[42:39] didn't know it. I and and now when you
[42:41] have it you realize oh this is wealth
[42:44] this is so for me you know heartfelt
[42:48] community the learning the the interior
[42:52] life that comes with mindbody awareness
[42:54] and financial and work abundance.
[42:58] Now there's balance.
[43:01] So the difference in wealth and true
[43:03] wealth is wealth is a quarter of the
[43:05] picture
[43:07] and it's based on not my view but on the
[43:11] view of basic physics. Every point has
[43:12] an inside and outside. Every point is
[43:15] one in many that creates these four
[43:16] different buckets. That's what Wilbur
[43:18] understood and once he understood that
[43:21] he created integral theory. Well, in a
[43:24] sense, I just adopted that personally
[43:26] and then I adopted that for a place that
[43:29] I call true wealth. And yeah, everyone
[43:32] who first came was scratching their
[43:33] heads, what's he doing? But finally, I
[43:37] should have started with a book and then
[43:38] I could have just given you the book.
[43:40] Uh, but I'm not a I'm not a journalist.
[43:43] I I I'm a practitioner. So, I wanted to
[43:45] see if it actually made sense and
[43:46] worked.
[43:47] >> Yeah.
[43:47] >> And what I found after 10 years of doing
[43:49] this, it actually works.
[43:52] you know, and and and and I'm so excited
[43:56] that it works and um
[43:59] >> yeah, so
[44:01] >> so just my comment to everybody who's
[44:02] listening is if you know these four
[44:04] different dimensions of wealth and
[44:06] you're imbalanced in any one of them, if
[44:09] you just take one step to increase them,
[44:12] so if you're living in Westchester and
[44:14] you're lonely, like do something to
[44:16] bring other people into your life
[44:18] instead of going to the gym and just
[44:19] working out, bring somebody with you or
[44:22] you know have a night out with a group
[44:24] of people on a weekly basis. Like don't
[44:26] allow that form of wealth to dwindle.
[44:28] >> Yeah.
[44:29] >> Or if you don't have an interior life
[44:30] that's on fire, then meet somebody who
[44:33] does and learn what they're doing. And
[44:35] if you haven't learned the systems that
[44:37] we talked about earlier, find someone
[44:39] who knows them and they could show you
[44:40] them so you understand that better. And
[44:44] um and if you don't have a career that
[44:46] you're happy with, then that's a whole
[44:48] another topic we can talk about. But um
[44:52] you trying to get balance in the four
[44:55] dimensions of true wealth brings great
[44:58] benefits. Now for a meditator
[45:01] of course you run the risk of attaching
[45:04] to relative reality because your
[45:05] circumstances will get better and
[45:07] getting better circumstances
[45:10] um are better than having good
[45:12] circumstances. But the caveat then is
[45:14] there is like okay now use that to do
[45:16] the last essential which is letting go
[45:19] right because the seven essentials are
[45:22] these four dimensions of wealth um and
[45:24] inside of them sit six six essentials
[45:27] these four different dimensions but
[45:28] there's one that's off this map
[45:30] completely and that's the transformative
[45:33] one that we do in Tibetan Buddhism where
[45:35] we let go of this it's sort of like
[45:38] these are notes in music and Scott I
[45:40] know you're a musician so you play these
[45:43] diff these four notes or seven notes if
[45:45] you play them as a method which um the
[45:48] six you know that are that are methods I
[45:50] talk about but then you play the music
[45:53] and just forget about the notes and you
[45:56] know what I try to teach people who are
[45:57] wealthy is to put wealth in the
[45:59] background
[46:00] >> don't try to be a perfect wealthy person
[46:03] same thing with meditation you know
[46:06] don't try to be the best meditator
[46:07] whatever that means it's kind of absurd
[46:09] right
[46:10] >> but there are people who who are
[46:11] constantly trying to evaluate their
[46:13] meditation and see how they're doing.
[46:15] You know, and to some extent it's
[46:16] healthy, but in another extent, it's a
[46:18] sense of poverty constantly,
[46:21] you know.
[46:22] >> They often those kind of people often
[46:23] show up in my door and I love working
[46:25] with them. It's so much fun to get them
[46:26] to like
[46:27] >> Yeah. It's like I'm going to be and and
[46:28] they've got [clears throat] their whoop
[46:29] on their arm and they're in perfect
[46:30] shape and they're going to make the best
[46:32] meditators. But, you know, um Soaking
[46:35] Riverche once said to me something that
[46:36] I think really matters to the six um
[46:39] essentials. One time I told him that I
[46:41] was doing therapy because one of them is
[46:43] cleanup and and he looked at me, he
[46:45] goes, "Matt," he says, "Are you trying
[46:47] to be perfect?" [laughter]
[46:49] He said, "Don't be perfect. Be
[46:51] functional."
[46:52] >> Yeah.
[46:53] >> That line is really the key to the whole
[46:56] book. All these different dimensions.
[46:59] You don't want to be perfect.
[47:01] You want to be functional
[47:03] >> because if you're functional with all
[47:04] these dimensions, your life can be
[47:06] better. If you try to be perfect, a,
[47:09] you're going to be serious, too serious,
[47:11] you're not going to have any fun, and
[47:13] you're never going to be satisfied.
[47:16] >> And once you get to functional wealth,
[47:18] the four dimensions of wealth,
[47:20] >> then you can with good circumstances,
[47:24] you won't be attached because at that
[47:25] point, you're not trying to be the best
[47:27] of everything.
[47:28] And then you can turn to your true
[47:30] nature and and really do your practice
[47:34] with good conditions. Do you need to
[47:36] have good conditions to do your
[47:37] practice? No. Many people don't. But in
[47:40] modern life, it certainly helps to sort
[47:44] of not starve yourself.
[47:46] >> Yeah.
[47:47] >> Um and take a reasonable middleway path
[47:50] and find your way to not fulfillment
[47:52] because I talk with most groups, you
[47:55] know, you got to go from achievement,
[47:56] which is like making a lot of money, to
[47:58] fulfillment, but go further than
[48:01] fulfillment and find freedom.
[48:03] >> Mhm. Beautiful. So, so maybe we can kind
[48:07] of open up these seven essentials now
[48:09] because you know you're mentioning some
[48:10] of some of them, but maybe we can just
[48:12] go through them. Uh, sure. And define
[48:14] them a little bit if you don't mind. Uh,
[48:16] >> not a problem.
[48:17] >> So, yeah, just kind of going through
[48:19] them briefly to, you know, describe.
[48:20] >> Okay. Well, I mean, if we're going to
[48:21] talk about work and wealth abundance,
[48:23] you know, we're going to be talking
[48:24] about light up and buildup.
[48:26] >> And, you know, all of these can take,
[48:29] you know, quite a while to talk about,
[48:31] but I I'll be
[48:32] >> You got a whole book about it. Oh yeah,
[48:34] I'll be extremely uh you know, you have
[48:36] two horses in the race when you're
[48:37] trying to build your abundance. One is
[48:39] your investments, the other is your
[48:41] work. And with work, it's really
[48:43] important that you kind of,
[48:47] you know, besides making sure that your
[48:49] your expenses are below your revenues
[48:51] that you're doing something that you
[48:53] feel um you're good at and and that you
[48:57] love. And that you don't need anybody's
[49:00] help. You can just do introspection.
[49:01] What is good and what do I love? And
[49:03] then what does the world need with those
[49:05] two things,
[49:07] right? Because if you can marry those
[49:09] three things together, you can find a
[49:11] job that does that.
[49:13] But people want a job first and they
[49:15] don't really spend time what am I good
[49:17] at or they're not building skills to
[49:19] know what they're good at? Um, and what
[49:22] do I love? And and when you put the two
[49:24] of them together, it makes a huge
[49:25] difference. My daughter when is an
[49:28] artist and I would always lament this.
[49:30] I'm on Wall Street like, "Oh, how is she
[49:32] going to make a living? I'm worried
[49:33] about my daughter." And well, she
[49:35] figured a way. She went she went to uh
[49:39] graduate school, got her teaching
[49:40] degree, and now she's an art teacher in
[49:43] Brooklyn for like 400 students,
[49:46] elementary school students.
[49:48] >> She and she's making a difference. So,
[49:50] she she's good at what she does. She
[49:52] loves what she does. and she's help of
[49:55] the world.
[49:56] >> Yeah.
[49:56] >> And she and she's getting paid. That
[49:59] that's called eeky guy for those of you
[50:01] who don't know that. It's it's you could
[50:03] look that up. Um but those are the four
[50:05] different elements of it. So if you're
[50:07] looking for a career, you're looking to
[50:08] restart. Start with what you love and
[50:11] start with something that you're good at
[50:13] >> and then find where those two intersect
[50:15] with something the world needs.
[50:17] >> You'll find a place to get paid.
[50:20] >> So that's light up. And when you're lit
[50:22] up at your career, you know that person
[50:25] because the person's got a bright smile,
[50:26] they're happy, and you know when you're
[50:28] not there because you don't want to get
[50:29] out of bed.
[50:30] >> Yeah. Yeah. You don't want to go to
[50:32] work.
[50:32] >> Like, what am I doing?
[50:34] >> You know, just real quick, not to, you
[50:36] know, divert us from this, but um
[50:39] I think that's a huge struggle for
[50:41] people because often I guess, you know,
[50:44] I like the the positivity you're
[50:46] bringing to this because one assumption
[50:48] I have I mean, I obviously get to do
[50:50] what I love. So, so I'm I I feel very
[50:51] fortunate, but I meet a lot of people
[50:54] who don't believe that's possible, but
[50:56] what I'm hearing you saying is it is
[50:58] possible. Maybe there's just there needs
[50:59] to be a deeper dive into, you know,
[51:01] skill and and and exploration is what
[51:03] I'm hearing you say.
[51:04] >> Yeah. I mean, of the of the four
[51:07] different things I mentioned, two of
[51:08] them are completely in your control.
[51:10] What do you love and what are you good
[51:12] at?
[51:13] >> Yeah.
[51:14] >> You need to know that and you need to
[51:17] build what you're good at if you don't
[51:18] know it. That should work. But once you
[51:20] have that, then you can present that you
[51:22] can marry that with what does the world
[51:24] need with these two things I just
[51:25] discovered.
[51:26] >> That has to work too. That's that's part
[51:27] of the point. Yeah.
[51:28] >> Right. And and you know getting out of
[51:31] the house and and learning what the
[51:32] world needs is also part of it.
[51:35] >> That's where mentoring becomes important
[51:37] because you may not see outside of your
[51:38] house
[51:39] >> what you could do with the two things
[51:40] that you have. So what I recommend
[51:43] people do is they take people out for
[51:44] lunch who are in the sphere of their
[51:47] area that may know things that they
[51:48] don't know and say, "Hey, I'm really
[51:51] good at this and I love this. Like where
[51:54] should I be looking where I can make a
[51:56] difference in the world?" And there are
[51:58] people there's so there's so many
[52:00] worlds, right?
[52:01] >> Yeah.
[52:01] >> Well, that means there's so many worlds
[52:02] that you don't know.
[52:04] >> Yeah. So go out and find,
[52:07] >> you know, and and look, I don't want to
[52:08] act rahrh in the conversation like just
[52:10] it's an easy thing to do.
[52:12] >> I'm not Tony Robbins this conversation,
[52:14] [laughter]
[52:15] >> but I am saying on the other hand, if if
[52:18] you just get nealistic about it all,
[52:21] >> you're not doing yourself any service.
[52:22] You're not being the king that you can
[52:24] be.
[52:25] >> Yeah. There's no chance. So, so just in
[52:28] a pure sense of dignity, respect your
[52:31] skill, respect what you love, and know
[52:34] that you know the world's not out to get
[52:37] you.
[52:38] >> That in fact is mag, you know,
[52:40] magnetizing is one of the great powers.
[52:42] >> Yeah.
[52:43] >> And and magnetizing happens. When I
[52:45] built the center, I had no clue what was
[52:47] going to happen. I took a huge risk,
[52:48] right? I'm leaving Morgan Stanley. I'm
[52:50] building a center. My family's like,
[52:52] "What are you doing?"
[52:54] Um, and I actually sat here for quite a
[52:57] few months with nothing here
[52:58] >> just to see what needed to happen. And
[53:02] um, it started magnetizing people
[53:05] >> over, you know, people who had similar
[53:07] ideas were starting to show up. And
[53:10] um, I'm not going to use myself as an
[53:12] example. I'm going to say that anybody
[53:14] who just states to the world who they
[53:16] are and what they want, the world will
[53:19] come back to you if you're persistent
[53:22] enough with that. And um
[53:23] >> yeah.
[53:24] >> Yeah.
[53:25] >> Yeah. Yeah. And there's there there's
[53:26] also I think a key point in something
[53:28] you said. I just want to draw it out
[53:29] more. Um
[53:31] >> this question of like what does the
[53:32] world need, right? That that is
[53:37] there's so much you know what's needed.
[53:40] I mean and and and it can be very
[53:44] what we might perceive as small that's
[53:46] actually something very large. So often
[53:48] like in this area when people are
[53:50] struggling with with work
[53:52] >> um I sometimes see it not as a that they
[53:55] need to change their work. It's it's
[53:57] often they need to change their attitude
[53:58] and how they're working with work.
[54:00] >> Yeah.
[54:01] >> And and and applying to the need of the
[54:03] people around them as opposed to just
[54:05] sort of I'm showing up to get a paycheck
[54:07] and you know all of that business,
[54:10] right? So it's huge. There's so much to
[54:12] explore there.
[54:13] >> Yeah. [clears throat] What would
[54:13] bodhicida want from me? Once I know what
[54:15] I what once I know what I'm good at and
[54:18] what I love, then what does bodhita want
[54:20] from me? And and speak to other people.
[54:23] And it it it is crazy how things will
[54:25] show up because you have to be
[54:27] confident. There are many worlds and
[54:28] many worlds you you're not seeing.
[54:30] >> Mhm. Yeah. Very. Yeah, that's a huge
[54:34] point. Yeah.
[54:34] >> So those are the two things. So that's
[54:36] light up. Buildup is about investing
[54:38] where I teach people to what I call
[54:40] invest and relax. Um, I'm not going to
[54:42] go through the theories of that, but
[54:44] essentially it's it's trying to find
[54:47] some portion of money that you're not
[54:49] going to touch for 10 years and have it
[54:50] invested. If you have if you have money,
[54:52] for instance, you have an income that's
[54:54] pretty steady and your expenses aren't
[54:55] too dramatically high and there's some
[54:57] money that you could put away in your
[54:58] 401k or whatever, do it and put it just
[55:02] in a broad index owning all stocks
[55:06] because
[55:08] you know if you want to think positively
[55:11] about people, everybody wakes up in the
[55:13] morning and says, "I want to make the
[55:15] world better for my children. I want to
[55:18] and and they the way they do it is by
[55:20] working for somebody or or running their
[55:22] own company to try to make their company
[55:25] more productive and millions of people
[55:27] are getting up to do that and hundreds
[55:29] of thousands of companies across the
[55:31] globe and if I'm going to make a
[55:34] long-term bet if you will and the
[55:35] future's always a bet a bet but it's not
[55:37] a bet in the sense of I don't know the
[55:39] odds
[55:41] the 100red-year history of the odds of
[55:44] betting on humanity to be more
[55:46] productive and not productive in terms
[55:49] of creating more things, but actually
[55:51] solving problems is real and it shows up
[55:55] in in in the productivity of people in
[55:58] in their services they provide for
[56:00] people in the hospitals that go out and
[56:03] try to do things and and in the main if
[56:05] you take the main if you put them all
[56:07] together in the main it's been a
[56:09] productive world and you want to get on
[56:12] that track and be part participated so
[56:16] that if you put pay a few thousand
[56:18] dollars over time by the time you retire
[56:21] you could have a lot of money. Um and
[56:24] and that's one of the two horses and um
[56:27] anyway that's work and wealth abundance.
[56:28] It's build up and light up. Those are
[56:30] the first two essentials. Those are the
[56:32] exterior. In the interior it's clean up
[56:34] and wake up. Um I meet a lot of people
[56:39] in the world of meditation that are you
[56:43] know very awake to their to their
[56:45] natures but also blind to their shadows
[56:50] and so cleanup um you know I had I had
[56:55] um huge shadow around
[56:58] um
[57:01] when I would I would come home from
[57:03] meetings where I convince the whole
[57:06] group of board of directors of a company
[57:07] to do something, right? So then I come
[57:09] home and I I have three daughters and my
[57:12] wife and this is in my 30s and I'm I'm
[57:15] still in that mindset like and I'm like,
[57:19] "Oh, we need to get this done." And all
[57:20] of a sudden I look at my daughter's eyes
[57:22] and they're all like glassed over like
[57:23] cuz I'm I'm sort of I'm sort of the the
[57:26] wind guy kind of coming in, you know?
[57:29] And I realized
[57:32] I'm really screwing up here, you know? I
[57:35] have to let this go. And but it was a
[57:38] shadow for a little while because it was
[57:40] causing pain for me. And I was
[57:42] thankfully I was able to look at it and
[57:44] thankfully my wife's amazing. She
[57:46] reflected it back to me. Um [laughter]
[57:49] and I started to understand the
[57:51] importance of shadow work that there's a
[57:52] part of me I can't see and my meditation
[57:56] can't see.
[57:57] >> So um can I do a lot of cleanup work on
[58:00] my own contemplating? Yes. Can I do it
[58:02] 100%.
[58:03] helps if someone gives you feedback and
[58:05] that you keep some humility about
[58:07] yourself that you know I want the
[58:10] feedback I want to hear what's wrong
[58:11] with me you know and do the best I can
[58:14] do to clean up uh and wake up we all
[58:17] have our different methods um a lot of
[58:20] us were different schools of of wake up
[58:23] um but I was on the board of the
[58:25] healthcare chapency in New York City
[58:28] where the priests imams and rabbis would
[58:30] get together to help people who were
[58:32] sick and
[58:33] >> Sloan
[58:33] >> Kettering.
[58:34] >> Okay.
[58:34] >> And I would go to like the annual
[58:36] meeting and I would see all these really
[58:39] beautiful people
[58:41] and I realized oh these are all
[58:44] softwares
[58:46] and if they run the software well it
[58:48] looks like the result for every person I
[58:51] was talking to I couldn't tell whether
[58:51] they were Buddhist, Jewish or Christian
[58:53] or whatever cuz they all had very little
[58:56] ego. They're all incredibly loving.
[58:59] They're incredibly open-minded and they
[59:00] both were totally grounded in open
[59:02] people. So, they were in their true, you
[59:05] know, natures and um obviously I'm
[59:08] biased because I'm both Buddhist and
[59:10] Jewish and I, you know, those are the
[59:12] softwares I run uh in a non-dual fashion
[59:15] as best I can. Um
[59:18] but um what I say to people because not
[59:21] every every group I'm speaking to is is
[59:23] a Buddhist group is you know as Dan
[59:26] Goldman would say you know what
[59:27] meditation you should do you know do the
[59:31] one that you'll you'll do.
[59:32] >> Yeah it's like dieting very do the diet
[59:36] that that'll work. I think your review
[59:37] told me that a while ago.
[59:39] >> Exactly. Exactly. Do the one that'll
[59:41] work and that you'll practice actually.
[59:42] That's wake up and clean up.
[59:44] >> Okay. um which is mind body awareness
[59:46] the second you know um true wealth
[59:50] aspect and then there's the heartfelt
[59:52] community which I talked about you know
[59:53] having community and
[59:55] >> there's a there's a long topic in that
[59:57] and it's really just being able to see
[59:58] other people's view of life beside your
[1:00:00] own
[1:00:01] >> just like chakras they're they're lower
[1:00:03] chakra people their stomach people their
[1:00:04] heart people their their throat people
[1:00:07] their head people you know [laughter]
[1:00:09] and they don't all get along they don't
[1:00:11] get along but we are one person and and
[1:00:13] so compassion compassion, you know, the
[1:00:15] wealth of compassion really is a key
[1:00:18] wealth that many of us don't have
[1:00:20] because we personalize things as if this
[1:00:21] is a bad person, this good person when
[1:00:23] they're just developmentally different.
[1:00:25] >> So, growing up is understanding that
[1:00:27] people have different views than yours
[1:00:29] and loving them wherever they're at in
[1:00:32] their developmental level as best you
[1:00:34] can. Not loving the negative parts of
[1:00:36] their aspects, but loving the positive
[1:00:38] parts and even understanding your own
[1:00:41] negative parts of your own lens on how
[1:00:42] you look at life. Uh, a lot of people
[1:00:45] want to like say that person's bad, that
[1:00:47] person's whatever, but they don't look
[1:00:49] at their own view and say, "Where am I
[1:00:51] off?" So, I want to come with this with
[1:00:53] great humility, great open heart, and
[1:00:55] just try to love people where they're
[1:00:56] at, whoever I meet,
[1:00:58] >> and and build community.
[1:01:00] >> Yeah.
[1:01:00] >> Um, so we talked about build up and
[1:01:03] light up in the abundance part. We
[1:01:05] talked about wake up and clean up in the
[1:01:07] mind body inner part. We talked about
[1:01:09] grow up in heartfelt community. We've
[1:01:11] actually talked about whole systems
[1:01:13] learning which is showing up. Showing up
[1:01:16] means showing up in all these
[1:01:19] >> being functional in all these different
[1:01:20] forms of of wealth. Um and the last one
[1:01:25] is ease up which is letting go. So if
[1:01:29] you if I were to say them all together,
[1:01:30] it's build up and light up in your outer
[1:01:33] world. It's wake up and clean up on your
[1:01:36] inner world. It's grow up in your work
[1:01:39] with other people. it show up fully in
[1:01:42] these different dimensions and then
[1:01:45] forget about it all and just ease up,
[1:01:48] you know, if not fun with all our great
[1:01:51] teachers are just joyous people.
[1:01:53] >> Yeah.
[1:01:53] >> And um um there's a reason and and we
[1:01:58] need to not only do the the roots of the
[1:02:01] tree and learn all the methods, but
[1:02:03] every so often to actually eat the fruit
[1:02:05] of all the work that we're doing and
[1:02:06] enjoy ourselves. So
[1:02:08] >> yeah,
[1:02:08] >> you know and yeah, so ease up is uh is
[1:02:12] is very important and and the way I
[1:02:14] practice ease up is through the
[1:02:15] limitless qualities trying to practice
[1:02:18] as much as possible
[1:02:19] >> through the four measurables.
[1:02:20] >> Four measurables.
[1:02:21] >> Yeah, you you mentioned that briefly in
[1:02:23] the book too. Is that
[1:02:25] you you view that more from the like
[1:02:27] traditional Buddhist perspective? You
[1:02:28] have a a little bit of a spin on it for
[1:02:30] the book. Yeah, a little bit.
[1:02:31] >> Well, I mean, you know, because I'm not
[1:02:33] speaking strictly to Buddhists.
[1:02:36] >> Yeah. Um, you know, I'm trying to point
[1:02:38] to the true nature as best I can without
[1:02:41] going too far and being unrelatable,
[1:02:44] which believe me, if I want to, we I
[1:02:46] could.
[1:02:47] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. you know, but
[1:02:49] from a strictly Mahayana point of view,
[1:02:51] um I do look at it somewhat uh and
[1:02:54] Scott, you probably could tell me better
[1:02:56] where this sits on in the in the uh full
[1:02:59] full uh dharma uh levels, but um the way
[1:03:04] I like to do it with people in groups
[1:03:05] that have no exposure is just have them
[1:03:07] reflect on when they've shown loving
[1:03:10] kindness to others.
[1:03:11] >> Mhm. And after they reflect on that and
[1:03:13] meditate on that and contemplate that
[1:03:14] and to then try to be loving kindness in
[1:03:17] itself
[1:03:19] to actually be loving kindness for
[1:03:22] >> totally and then do the same thing with
[1:03:24] compassion like when was the last
[1:03:25] compassion act you did and then
[1:03:27] >> think about it be there feel it
[1:03:30] >> and then just become compassion itself.
[1:03:33] And the same thing for um compa uh for
[1:03:38] joy like when you're joyful for someone
[1:03:40] else's you know beauty and happiness
[1:03:43] like I'm I'm looking at you right now
[1:03:44] feeling really happy for you [laughter]
[1:03:46] and um you know and just feel the joy
[1:03:50] embodied in yourself and then equinimity
[1:03:52] you know just when you felt real uh vast
[1:03:56] in your mind so that nothing could move
[1:03:58] it and just be that all day long and and
[1:04:02] I kind of share share that with people
[1:04:04] because you can get that from the word
[1:04:05] go and um and just try to point people
[1:04:09] in direction. Now, let me just say this.
[1:04:11] I I use a bridge as the analogy of my
[1:04:14] firm and what I do. I I'm not the
[1:04:16] teacher. You know, my job is to take
[1:04:18] people on the bridge who are making the
[1:04:20] move to this sort of true well-thinking
[1:04:23] and just point them to the people that
[1:04:25] do like yourself, Scott, like Soki
[1:04:28] Ribashchet, like Dan Gleman, like you
[1:04:31] know, um, Robert Pang and Chiang or like
[1:04:35] um, you know, friends of mine who who
[1:04:37] are great masters of different ways of
[1:04:38] being and and use them. So the back of
[1:04:41] my book I have resources for all these
[1:04:44] different because they're the
[1:04:45] destination.
[1:04:47] Um um just like in investing um I've
[1:04:51] learned this view from other people. So
[1:04:53] learning from them directly is a
[1:04:56] beautiful thing to do. So don't mistake
[1:04:58] me. I'm the toll taker on the bridge.
[1:05:00] You go on that lane and find this great
[1:05:03] teacher and I'll sit next to you because
[1:05:05] I'm a friend along the path
[1:05:06] >> on these different forms of wealth. I
[1:05:08] generally work that way too and I like
[1:05:10] to be if if I could be of assistance on
[1:05:13] someone's path or in their life I I I
[1:05:16] then like to introduce them to the field
[1:05:18] of where I benefit from and and I think
[1:05:20] it it's very in line with the overall
[1:05:23] integral theory of of of you know what
[1:05:25] you've been sharing you know so far
[1:05:28] anyways where it's sort of like
[1:05:29] everything seems to affect the other
[1:05:31] things like like like something popped
[1:05:33] into my my mind around the alliance
[1:05:35] center the alliance center isn't just a
[1:05:37] place for community and mind body and
[1:05:40] financial wealth. It it's like all of it
[1:05:42] and it actually helps you to embody it.
[1:05:45] I'm guessing and you help a lot of
[1:05:46] people through it like you know I hope
[1:05:48] you don't mind me sharing you know just
[1:05:50] to describe kind of what you do there.
[1:05:52] uh we had to postpone this cuz you had
[1:05:54] offered the space to like a a bunch of
[1:05:56] acupuncturists or something like just
[1:05:57] for the day and you forgot you had
[1:05:59] offered it to them and then we're like
[1:06:01] oh Scott I got to do this a little bit
[1:06:02] later and I was like to totally made
[1:06:05] sense to me cuz that's how you use that
[1:06:07] space
[1:06:08] >> but am I correct in that and sort of
[1:06:10] like even the place you know you know of
[1:06:13] course you have the internal space
[1:06:14] you're integrating and all that and all
[1:06:16] these things but the external place
[1:06:17] represents that I think you know however
[1:06:19] people embody that in their life they
[1:06:20] might not have a center, you know, but
[1:06:22] but [clears throat] yeah, it's
[1:06:24] >> but everybody is a center. Everybody is
[1:06:26] a center.
[1:06:26] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
[1:06:27] >> You know, everybody's a center. And you
[1:06:28] could you could you but yeah, physically
[1:06:31] I I have a center and um but we have to
[1:06:34] take the walls down.
[1:06:36] >> Mhm. Yeah. business people, Jewish
[1:06:39] people, Buddhist people,
[1:06:42] you know, people that have families,
[1:06:44] people that don't have families, people
[1:06:46] that are I mean, there just so many
[1:06:48] divisions now that it it just I don't
[1:06:51] get it. I mean, it's just a it's just a
[1:06:54] form of violence in my opinion.
[1:06:56] >> Yeah.
[1:06:56] >> And um I want to get simplicity back to
[1:07:01] like I'm openhearted, you're
[1:07:04] openhearted. I'm open-minded. You're
[1:07:07] open-minded. I'm grounded in this
[1:07:09] moment. You're grounded in this moment.
[1:07:11] Let's let's just sit and have a great
[1:07:13] conversation.
[1:07:14] >> Yeah. I think I love that about our
[1:07:15] friendship and it it it Yeah. I mean,
[1:07:18] really beautiful, Matt, cuz even, you
[1:07:19] know, you've been working on this book
[1:07:20] for a while now, and I'm I'm seeing it
[1:07:22] for the first time. You you've shared
[1:07:23] pieces with me over the years, but I'm
[1:07:25] just seeing it for the first time, and
[1:07:26] it's really an embodiment of of your
[1:07:29] your being. So, uh it's quite beautiful.
[1:07:31] like I I I can appreciate you more
[1:07:34] through your book and vice versa. Thank
[1:07:35] you. Thank you.
[1:07:36] >> Um I I don't want to close here because
[1:07:38] I want to ask you a little bit for um
[1:07:41] because you do talk about practice in
[1:07:43] the book. Um
[1:07:44] >> and you know
[1:07:46] >> you know that my audience tends to be
[1:07:47] more more in the meditation realm sort
[1:07:50] of you know Buddhist curious andor you
[1:07:52] know you know spiritual whatever. Um
[1:07:55] yeah. So what's like a small daily
[1:07:58] practice you can you can share with
[1:08:00] others? You know if the guided
[1:08:01] meditation necessarily but just sharing
[1:08:02] you know someone already has a busy day.
[1:08:04] What's one practice from the book um
[1:08:06] that could really still change how they
[1:08:08] relate to money um or to their money?
[1:08:10] >> Well money or um wealth let's just
[1:08:13] broaden it into true wealth like how
[1:08:15] they can relate. I mean that that's a
[1:08:16] that's broad because true wealth is
[1:08:17] everything. Well, I mean I mean um one
[1:08:20] thing one one thing that you can do is
[1:08:23] is um cuz whatever I say most likely
[1:08:26] people have done you know there's so
[1:08:28] many books there's so many things
[1:08:30] >> but something unique is um
[1:08:34] people often ask me like what is
[1:08:38] you know we [clears throat] mentioned
[1:08:39] these four different aspects how do I
[1:08:40] ensure that I'm doing that fully
[1:08:43] >> because it's not just aspects of your
[1:08:44] life but they happen every moment
[1:08:46] >> the quadrants you're referring Yeah.
[1:08:47] >> Yeah. Every moment they tetra arise like
[1:08:50] right now I'm an objective sitting here
[1:08:52] >> having an embodied experience. You're
[1:08:54] see that's objectively happening
[1:08:56] >> but also I'm having a subjective
[1:08:57] experience of this. Is Scott liking what
[1:08:59] I'm saying? Not liking what I'm you know
[1:09:00] like how am I how how am I emotionally
[1:09:02] feeling right now? I'm sorry actually
[1:09:05] the interubjective culturally would be
[1:09:07] how you're feeling and how I'm
[1:09:08] perceiving that.
[1:09:09] >> Sure.
[1:09:10] >> And then there's the system because like
[1:09:11] I said I have a mic and there's a system
[1:09:13] going. So in this moment the four
[1:09:15] quadrants just arose.
[1:09:18] Now I may pay attention only if I'm a
[1:09:21] materialist just the materialist part.
[1:09:23] >> Yeah.
[1:09:23] >> If I'm a psychologist I may just pay
[1:09:25] attention to the emotional part. If I'm
[1:09:28] antithetical to systems I may ignore the
[1:09:30] fact that someone else created and set
[1:09:32] my computer up because I didn't know how
[1:09:34] to do it you know. [laughter]
[1:09:37] Um but they arise. So being sensitive to
[1:09:39] the fact that your experience has these
[1:09:42] four different realities to it. But
[1:09:44] rather than get really complicated, it's
[1:09:46] really simple
[1:09:47] >> because really what I'm saying is what
[1:09:49] does holistic mean?
[1:09:52] >> Now if I ask most people, they will not
[1:09:54] be able to define it. Um um they'll know
[1:09:58] how it feels. you know, it's like
[1:10:01] recycling your your garbage and it's
[1:10:03] like it it has some sort of very narrow
[1:10:07] p, you know, or maybe not. Maybe people
[1:10:08] really know a lot more, but most times
[1:10:10] when I ask the question is what does
[1:10:11] holistic mean? I get a very flimsy
[1:10:14] answer. And I've been really fortunate
[1:10:16] because I actually heard an answer that
[1:10:17] fits the integral model.
[1:10:20] >> Tell us please.
[1:10:20] >> And here's here here's how it goes. It's
[1:10:23] just three questions.
[1:10:24] >> Is what you're doing true? And thus the
[1:10:27] outer quadrants, right? is your
[1:10:29] objective and and the systems is what
[1:10:31] you're doing true
[1:10:32] and then when it comes to the heartfelt
[1:10:35] is it good that's the heartfelt quadrant
[1:10:38] and then the inner quadrant of yourself
[1:10:40] is it beautiful so simply ask yourself
[1:10:43] what I'm doing right now is it true is
[1:10:46] it beautiful is it good and if you get
[1:10:50] answer to all yes you are very powerful
[1:10:55] and if you only get answer to one
[1:10:58] you you're missing some of the power
[1:10:59] that's available to you. And I don't
[1:11:01] mean power in like to overtake things. I
[1:11:03] mean just to manifest fully. Um it it's
[1:11:07] being holistic. So you know anything I
[1:11:10] do it's everything in the center is like
[1:11:12] well is it true? Is it beautiful? Is it
[1:11:14] good? And I'm I I also think of so when
[1:11:18] I'm saying this it's just functionally
[1:11:20] good.
[1:11:21] >> Functionally beautiful functionally
[1:11:22] good. Like I mean I'm we're all kind of
[1:11:25] messes, but we're doing we're doing the
[1:11:28] best we can do to do something that's
[1:11:29] true, beautiful, and good.
[1:11:30] >> It doesn't have to look perfect is what
[1:11:31] you're saying.
[1:11:32] >> It doesn't have to be perfect.
[1:11:33] >> Yeah.
[1:11:34] >> But if you're functionally doing those
[1:11:35] three, um it matters. And I find some
[1:11:38] people, they really know how to do the
[1:11:40] good stuff, but they don't know the
[1:11:42] truth. Or they really know the truth,
[1:11:44] but they don't know the goodness. Or
[1:11:46] they don't know the beauty. And when you
[1:11:48] have all three together, it's so
[1:11:52] transformative.
[1:11:54] >> It's and that means showing that's what
[1:11:55] showing up actually is if you're showing
[1:11:58] up in a way that's true, beautiful, and
[1:12:00] good. We call it TBG.
[1:12:02] >> Um All right, man. You know, [laughter]
[1:12:06] >> so so prompting oneself, what you're
[1:12:09] advising is sort of prompting oneself
[1:12:11] just to reflect on that. I go to a
[1:12:14] meeting and the meeting is
[1:12:17] >> um you're like what's the truth of
[1:12:19] what's happening here?
[1:12:20] >> Yeah.
[1:12:21] >> Am I fully present in a beautiful way?
[1:12:24] How's this person doing? How before I
[1:12:26] start the meeting, how you doing?
[1:12:27] >> Do you need to clear anything before we
[1:12:29] start?
[1:12:29] >> You know, heart connection and then
[1:12:34] so every meeting I start with what I
[1:12:35] call checkin and clear with people.
[1:12:38] >> How you doing?
[1:12:39] >> What do you need to clear something
[1:12:40] before we get going?
[1:12:42] >> Yeah. Yeah.
[1:12:42] >> Cuz life precedes anything.
[1:12:44] >> That's true.
[1:12:44] >> And I want to be present to people. So I
[1:12:46] don't start a business meeting or any
[1:12:48] meeting without a check in and clear.
[1:12:51] >> Yeah. Yeah. Wonderful. Um well, there
[1:12:54] there's there's there's so much in this
[1:12:55] book, Matt. You know, we didn't get to
[1:12:56] talk about some of the the nitty-gritty
[1:12:59] of the three pot approach and things
[1:13:00] like that, which which you know, people
[1:13:02] can get the book for that, which is an
[1:13:03] approach to um the oxygen of of you
[1:13:08] know, the buildup, the finance, etc.
[1:13:10] that's sustainable uh for people, right?
[1:13:13] Um
[1:13:14] >> and and and I think it's it's very
[1:13:15] simple and very
[1:13:17] accessible.
[1:13:19] >> I spent like I spent probably six years
[1:13:21] with really great writers working on
[1:13:23] this book. Um
[1:13:25] >> I wish I could say that I was as good as
[1:13:26] a writer as the book has written, but
[1:13:28] I'm not. Um I mean all the content is my
[1:13:32] content, but we really just would sit.
[1:13:34] There were three of us. There was
[1:13:35] Kristen Kay who's incredible and William
[1:13:38] Green who is an amazing editor. Um he
[1:13:41] was a past editor of Time magazine Asia
[1:13:45] >> and
[1:13:46] um everybody is is on the path the the
[1:13:50] three of us and
[1:13:52] um you know the path has been as
[1:13:54] beautiful as having the book itself and
[1:13:57] it's going to be almost a little sad
[1:13:59] that that process is over although maybe
[1:14:01] not. You know it was a long one. Anybody
[1:14:03] says to me, I want to write a book. I'm
[1:14:04] say you sure?
[1:14:05] >> Yeah. I've been Yeah. experience.
[1:14:07] >> It's hard. It's [laughter] hard. But I'm
[1:14:09] really happy with it because I
[1:14:11] >> people who are not of this sort of
[1:14:13] thinking because it's so full of stories
[1:14:15] that are relatable and I really wanted
[1:14:18] to make sure it's relatable and and true
[1:14:20] to the voice like we're having in this
[1:14:21] conversation so anybody could approach
[1:14:23] it. So, it's not like I'm sitting on
[1:14:26] It's really me just trying to talk like
[1:14:28] friends along the path and and and the
[1:14:31] guy in the beginning of the bridge
[1:14:33] pointing pointing to these other people
[1:14:35] who are awesome and um and boy are we
[1:14:39] lucky that there are the people out
[1:14:41] there who could help us. It's true. When
[1:14:43] and and you're one of them. So, so thank
[1:14:45] you really really from my heart I thank
[1:14:47] you. you know cuz it's especially on the
[1:14:49] investing front I think uh or or just
[1:14:51] the healthy money front helping uh uh
[1:14:56] people on a meditation path a spiritual
[1:14:58] path to navigate that in a simple way is
[1:15:02] really really it's really needed right
[1:15:04] now I feel so
[1:15:05] >> yeah yeah
[1:15:06] >> yeah yeah
[1:15:08] >> yeah I wish true wealth for you know for
[1:15:10] everybody and uh the great thing about
[1:15:13] having exposure like a channel like this
[1:15:15] is you know you can go to the deep end
[1:15:17] of the pool as well as to the shallow
[1:15:19] end.
[1:15:20] >> Sure.
[1:15:20] >> And being capable in all depths is um
[1:15:24] it's kind of fun.
[1:15:26] >> And um um yeah, it's part of the joy of
[1:15:29] life.
[1:15:30] >> Yeah. And I think I think there is there
[1:15:33] is a way there's play in it. And I and I
[1:15:36] and I would like for people to find that
[1:15:38] which is like you know because I know
[1:15:40] you have this way of integrating all the
[1:15:41] theories here where where for me like
[1:15:43] you can find ease up in buildup like
[1:15:46] they're not mutually exclusive right?
[1:15:48] >> Oh definitely definitely I mean
[1:15:50] ultimately ease up really is
[1:15:51] spaciousness. And if you think about
[1:15:53] what I'm doing in all these different
[1:15:55] four dimensions is just adding space. So
[1:15:58] what I call investing I call it invest
[1:15:59] and relax.
[1:16:00] >> Yeah.
[1:16:01] >> And what I call cleanup is making
[1:16:02] friends with your beautiful monsters
[1:16:03] that Sony teaches. You know, it's adding
[1:16:06] space to your normal habitual ways or
[1:16:09] grow up. It's like looking at your lens
[1:16:10] because you have space to see your level
[1:16:12] of development or showing up. It's just
[1:16:15] giving yourself space to see where
[1:16:16] you're not showing up. So, in a sense,
[1:16:19] we're we're we're putting space into
[1:16:21] form and easing around it and hopefully
[1:16:24] having joy because look, Trump
[1:16:26] remembers, you know, the line, the path
[1:16:29] is the goal.
[1:16:30] >> Like my goal of life right now is just
[1:16:32] to have a really nice conversation with
[1:16:33] you, right?
[1:16:34] >> Same. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Totally.
[1:16:35] >> Cuz this is it, you know. This is it.
[1:16:37] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
[1:16:38] >> It really is. Yeah.
[1:16:40] >> Um, come what may.
[1:16:42] >> I agree. Um, Matt, just before we close,
[1:16:45] like anything I missed that that you'd
[1:16:46] love to kind of leave leave our audience
[1:16:48] with or
[1:16:51] >> um,
[1:16:53] [snorts]
[1:16:53] not I think we we covered a lot. We
[1:16:56] covered a lot. I don't want to
[1:16:57] overwhelm, you know, a lot of for each
[1:16:59] one of these essentials, I've I, you
[1:17:00] know, I've done two-hour talks and
[1:17:03] workshops and I don't Yeah.
[1:17:05] >> I think just getting a sense that the
[1:17:07] way we're living life is fragmented
[1:17:09] >> and what is what does the mountain range
[1:17:11] look like?
[1:17:12] >> Mhm.
[1:17:13] >> So that when you actually start taking
[1:17:15] action, it's not in a narrow view, it's
[1:17:17] in this widest scope of view that you
[1:17:19] can get. And that's what I try to lay
[1:17:21] out here is like what's the mountain
[1:17:23] range? So when you're climbing the
[1:17:25] mountain, it's not someone else's
[1:17:26] mountain, it's yours. And you've seen
[1:17:28] the range. So the one you pick actually
[1:17:30] is the one you should be on.
[1:17:32] >> Uh and just even by picking out these
[1:17:34] four dimensions and noticing, oh, I'm
[1:17:36] spending way too much time in mind body
[1:17:39] awareness and not enough in heartfelt
[1:17:40] community or I'm spending a little much
[1:17:42] time in heart community, but I'm not
[1:17:43] doing anything at work and make, you
[1:17:45] know, work in wealth abundance and you
[1:17:47] when you can see your imbalance, it
[1:17:49] really it just helps. And um
[1:17:52] >> yeah,
[1:17:52] >> you know, really just for me to end with
[1:17:54] anything is is a wish that everybody,
[1:17:58] you know, um uh that whatever we talked
[1:18:01] about today be of benefit and if it's
[1:18:04] not, I totally understand and I'm sorry
[1:18:06] and I just try to be as helpful as
[1:18:08] possible
[1:18:10] >> and um
[1:18:11] >> it's all we can do, right?
[1:18:13] >> It's all we can do and uh I think you're
[1:18:16] doing it well. So I appreciate you, my
[1:18:18] friend. Yeah. Thanks for thanks for
[1:18:20] coming on and yeah and people can find
[1:18:22] the book I'm assuming just
[1:18:23] >> yeah you can go towhere basically go to
[1:18:25] the rightmountbook.com
[1:18:27] >> okay
[1:18:27] >> it's called therightmountbook.com
[1:18:30] >> or just you know just look up my name in
[1:18:32] the right mountain and on Amazon and
[1:18:34] it's it's yours you know [laughter] you
[1:18:37] just order it there um and it's uh or
[1:18:41] they can go to my my firm which is
[1:18:43] linewealthmanagement.com
[1:18:45] >> and on there you'll see the book and
[1:18:46] everything.
[1:18:47] >> Awesome. Well, thanks man. I really
[1:18:49] appreciate you taking the time to, you
[1:18:51] know, chat with me and just share all
[1:18:52] these be, you know, absolute beauty and
[1:18:55] as I think everyone can tell, including
[1:18:57] myself, it's just the tip of the
[1:18:58] iceberg. There's a lot, you know, a lot
[1:19:01] under there's a lot, but
[1:19:02] >> we'll take it a step at a time.
[1:19:04] >> It's all we can do. I think this
[1:19:05] integral approach you're sharing mostly
[1:19:08] is is really vital. So, I'm glad you
[1:19:11] mentioned that at the end. Yeah.
[1:19:12] >> Yeah. Yeah. Thank you.
[1:19:14] >> Thanks, my friend.
[1:19:14] >> Appreciate it, Scott.
[1:19:15] >> Yeah. Take care.
[1:19:16] >> Be well. The well.